Hello everyone,Continuing on with our series on Making Healthy Decisions the question of today is:
What Would Make Me Genuinely Happy?
On the surface, this sounds like a no-brainer. For some, getting a relationship back together is number one on their list! For others, a new home, more money, better job, etc. is on their list. For some, getting into a relationship is on their list.
However, I am going to encourage you to rework that list! I am not saying that all of those things above might not make you happy. But is that what it would take to make you genuinely happy? I guess a question within a question is "What is happy?" That is a subject too big to tackle right here! Generally speaking, I do think it is a question to consider within the question of what would make you genuinely happy.
I see so many folks working towards a relationship that they are sure is going to solve all their problems and,as they ride off into the sunset, they will be immediately happy. Looking beyond that initial sunset, to see what that life would REALLY be like with that person is something that I often see overlooked.
But in a broader sense of the subject of seeing what would make you genuinely happy, it's good old list time! :-) I highly encourage everyone to make that list! If it is just a one-word list that says, "Johnny" then you need to look beyond that, seriously. What other things will make you happy? How can you attain them? If you are unhappy with your present circumstances and want them to change, what are you willing to do to change them? How big of a role are you willing to take in your own happiness… your genuine happiness? Will you listen to and/or take advice? Will you explore all your options? How are you willing to try?
Don't forget the small things, too! Include them on your list! How many of these happy-makers did you do yesterday, last week, this year? Which ones can you indulge in today? When you're facing a challenge, ask what would make you happy in this situation.
Cast a wide net! You may have "buying a new car" on your list, but if you also remember that "dinner with friends" and "playing with my dog" are great for you, you get to be happy every day–and that's important. What would make you happy now (that wouldn't make you unhappy later)? Do that!
Then, take the decision you are trying to make and see what about it will or will not make you genuinely happy!
Love, Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com
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