He Hurt Me But I Want Him Back!

Greetings everyone!

Needless to say, every single day I deal with a situation, a spell casting, or a consultation which involves someone who has been hurt by someone else. Sometimes the hurt was unintentional,but still hurt like hell. Sometimes it was completely intentional and hurts like even deeper hell. But no matter what, the sad truth of what I do is dealing with peoples’ hurt, sorrow, trauma, and pain.


Of course there are times when I look at someone’s case and wonder, “Why the heck does she want him back?” Or why does he want her back? Or whatever the gender… really that doesn’t matter much, actually!


Nonetheless, it is my job to do what you, the client, asks me to do, and so that is what I try to do. BUT when is enough enough? When is the time to look at a situation and tell you that I think you are just punishing yourself, or that you don’t really want a relationship, or why would you let someone hurt you like that and then take them back? What are the criteria for doing that? Obviously, if I think someone is horrible for you and cannot ever be trusted again, I am going to tell you that. But what do you think?


I am not here to answer the questions this time, I am here to ask them: What acts do you think are unforgiveable? At what point does a person not deserve for you to take them back? When would you just say NO to a person who wanted to return to you, even if you thought they had changed?


I ask this because I want to reach out there and see what you all are thinking. Have the rules changed? I see lots of clients, women especially, who will take back someone who had done tremendous emotional damage to them. Granted, most of them want this man (or woman) to have healed and atone for what they have done. However, I wonder if they will really forgive them, even with the change. Can they really take them back? Is there that much forgiveness out there?


I would love to hear your opinions on this!


Love,

Mambo Sam

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3 responses to “He Hurt Me But I Want Him Back!”

  1. Donna Likewise Avatar
    Donna Likewise

    I have been working on my HD for one year now and yes he has hurt me many times emotional. He comes and goes into my life and I have finally said enough….He is back in my life right now but I know he won’t stay because of his issues. Do I still love him? Yes I do. But I won’t take him back the way he is, with all his issues not knowing if this relationship will work or not. It took me many months to get strong and live the life I’m suppose to. I have joined a riding group (Harley) and I’m the secetary of the group. This keeps me busy and it is something a would never had done a year ago. I stepped out of my protective world and did something different. I’m meeting new people at each meeting and we ride our Harleys to places I have never been.
    Regarding HD, he is unhappy in his life but I won’t let him take me down there ever again. If he can give me a relationship with a future I will put 100 per cent into it. But until then I’m finally doing things I enjoy and not sitting home crying about him. I know he loves me but he is in denial. Each time he comes into my life, then he disappears again (it hurts) but it is less and less each time and I have let it go. I know what to expect so I don’t let it get me down anymore. I hope other people will get on with daily living and do something for themselves and not waste each day thinking about someone who can’t get it together to have a healthy relationship.
    Anyway this is my opinion.
    Donna

  2. santikabbyoli Avatar
    santikabbyoli

    I think that moving through the spell work process is one way of coming to terms with the situation that you find yourself in. It gives you an avenue to channel your hope. And through the journey, as you discover things about your HD, you may start to see things differently. Personal lines are created in the sand.
    I think even with those lines, people have to know that they tried absolutely everything to repair their love. Once they have, they can feel absolved of any guilt or blame.

  3. C. Avatar
    C.

    Donna,
    Donna – are you sure you are not with my HD? They sound like the same guy : – ) I agree with everything in your post.
    in answer to Mambo Sam’s question: (these are my personal lines in the sand) I would not take someone back who had been involved in something illegal. I would not take someone back who had abused me physically or who had INTENTIONALLY, for their own amusement, abused me emotionally. Other than that I can forgive just about anything : – /

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