Happy Saturday everyone. I hope it is Spring weather where you are and you are enjoying some sunshine and warm breezes!
I wanted to discuss a little bit with you about hearing that dreaded statement, "It's time to move on." You often hear these words in reference to a lost relationship, loss of someone or something important in your life, job loss, etc. Some well-meaning friend, relative, or counselor may tell you that it is time to "move on."
The trouble with that statement in general is that no one wants to hear it! It sounds trite, cliche', and meaningless! Move on??? I don't want to "move on." I have an unresolved, unrequited situation. I have no way to move on! And that is exactly the problem with being told to move on: The person telling you that really does have your best interest at heart; they are tired of seeing you unhappy. Unfortunately, telling you to move on isn't helping because it seems that no one can tell you exactly where it is you are moving on to!
Without resolution of the situation, you cannot move on from it. For most of us the translation of "move on" is "give up." Admit failure. You have been defeated. You cannot win. Everything about those two little words screams of a negative impact on your life. Leave behind what you love. None of us wants to do that and as human beings most of us will fight and struggle against moving on. That's because most of the time we should not be moving on, we should be moving forward.
Moving forward is a positive action. It does not mean that we are giving up, admitting defeat, or accepting failure. What it does mean is that we are not going to let the situation that we have not yet conquered stop us from moving forward to new and exciting challenges!
Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that moving forward is easy. But it is easier than "moving on" because it doesn't mean leaving anything behind! Just because you have not achieved the results you want in a situation doesn't mean that you have to move on and leave that situation behind! However, I do encourage you to always move forward. Accept new challenges, new people, and new projects into your life. Don't allow a not-yet-conquered situation to rule your life in such a way that you miss out on the new and wonderful things that can happen to you. Sometimes we need to compartmentalize our lives in such a way to remember that we still have a particular goal that is long term, but we also want to enjoy the success we can achieve in other goals, too!
If you just wallow in your seeming defeat or if you try to put those unresolved things behind you without resolution, you will find yourself stuck in the same old unhappiness day after day. As human beings we should always be moving forward. This does not mean to leave our old hopes and dreams behind. Take them along for the ride!! You may even find that you discover new ways to conquer even the most difficult of situations!
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield