Tag: Samantha Corfield

  • Making Healthy Decisions – Part 7

    Hello everyone!  Continuing on with our series about Making Healthy Decisions!  (I will do a wrap up of this when it is all done – so you will have the list of questions all in one place!

    Today's question to ask yourself in your decision making process is:

     Should I be acting or should I be stepping back? 

    Okay, so this can be a tough one.  Do we wait and "see what happens" or do we jump in take that bull by the horns, wrestle it to the ground, and show it who's boss?  :-)   Living in this microwave-instant message-tweet-email-Facebook status updating-seeminglyinstant gratification world can be detrimental to our decision-making process.  We are beginning to feel that everything needs an instant action!  That just isn't true!  Some things are best left alone, left to marinate, left to give a chance to breathe and perhaps evolve into something else. 

    Countless times we've all acted too soon or without sufficient information, or we've stepped in where our input wasn't needed (or wanted – what is up with that – it seems that I can hardly even go to the grocery store without someone commenting on what I should be doing/buying, etc. – so strange… anyway…) and muddied circumstances that were already working themselves out.

    When you ask yourself, quietly and confidently, what your part is in a given situation, and where to wait (or exit entirely), you'll get a clear idea of your role. If you ask the question and still want to act against the advice of your internal coach, remind yourself that, although life is a series of little dramas, none of them needs a drama queen (or king).

    Of course, as with other decision-making processes, it takes some thought to decide when to act and when to step back and see what happens.  Putting these question together with the other questions, however, lets you see that this is just part of a whole process.  Putting the process together will make much more sense in the end!  🙂

    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com

    Laneends
     

  • Making Healthy Decisions – Part 6

    Good morning everyone!  As we continue on with our series on making healthy decisions, I wanted to stop for a moment and clarify what this series is all about.  Many of my readers are those engaged in more esoteric studies – spells, spiritual growth, magickal endeavors, etc.  Those readers are tending to put this exercise in that category.  While it can be used in that way to some degree, this is meant to be about every day decision making.  Some of the information may be useful in spell casting, but really it would be more useful deciding when or if to do spell casting, not so much to assist you with the actual process. 🙂

    Our next question to ask ourselves when making a decison is: 

    What Really Matters?

    This can be extremely beneficial.  Taking the time to figure out what really matters to you is crucial to making a good decision.  For some of us, we think that everything matters equally – we are passionate about every little thing. On the surface, this can seem admirable; when you look a little deeper you will see that this means that we treat all things equally.  It is very difficult to live successfully in this way.  Prioritzing things in your life will make you more organized, let you know when to pick your battles (and not everything is worth a battle – really, it isn't), and allow you to let go of certain things in order to accomplish other, more important, things.

    For most people,  beings with emotional capabilities will come first – children, spouses, parents, friends, pets, etc. For some, they themselves will come first.  After those obvious choices, what really  matters after that?  Understanding what your priorities are and how your decision impacts them will allow you to weed out things that don't matter and leave you with a clearer understanding of what your decision needs to be.

    For instance, is your job the means by which you take care of the things that are most important (money) or is there another way that you care for those things (emotionally, perhaps)?  If you say yes to the former, then job decisions are going to be weighed against the impact on others. If you say yes to the latter, then job decisions may be based entirely on other criteria.

    Therefore, deciding what really matters to you will help you in making a healthy  decision.  🙂

    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com

    Decisionsahead
     

  • Making Healthy Decisions – Part 4

    PLEASE NOTE: Sorry, I accidently got these out of order! So after this will actually come Part 6 since Part 5 was already published. Sorry for the confusion!

    Greetings, everyone! As we continue on with our series about making healthy decisions, we move on to our next question to ask ourselves:

    What Am I Not Seeing?

    We have a tendency to sometimes protect ourselves in difficult situations by not being willing to seek out what we are not wanting to see about a situation. It is something we all do – we can have a tendency to gloss over the details that are unpleasant to us. Naturally this can lead to some disasters in decision making!

    Often, what we're not seeing is what we don't want to see. While it may be difficult, or sometimes even painful, force yourself to look at what you don't want to see. Hiding details from yourself is truly not helping you. Trying to force an objective, dispassionate view of the situation can be tricky and take some practice, but try it! It is very difficult for a human being to try to remove emotion from a decision. Sometimes we can trick ourselves into it by pretending that the situation actually belongs to someone else – what would we tell them that we can see?

    Looking at the situation from the outside looking in can often really help us in seeing what we think might not be there! Taking off our blinders and searching for clues might be difficult, however, the end reward is completely worth it!

    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com

  • Healthy Decision Making – Part 5

    Hello everyone! We are at the half way point in our series on making healthy decisions! I forgot to mention in the beginning that these things should be done in order! Ask the questions in the order in which they are presented. For instance, today's question:

    What Would my Grandmother

    (or mother, father, Jesus, Buddha, the Lwa, whomever's philosophy your admire) Do?

    Thinking of a role model, whether a great spiritual teacher, admired friend or family member, spiritual person, etc., is like having a mentor on-call. Ask yourself what this person would do if facing the same situation. You should use someone whose philosophies are well known to you and are admired by you. This is not to offset your own opinion or philosophy but rather to put things in perspective by looking at another point of view, one you have admired.

    This is not to go get another opinion, this is more to see what your decision would like if shaped around an admired philosophy. The decision might not be exactly right for you configured within those parameters, however, it will give you another perspective to consider. This question should be asked after you have established the prior points in this exercise. You must first consider your own feelings and thoughts before putting someone else's spin on your decision! 🙂

    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com

  • Quote for today…..

    Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness, that most frightens us….. Nelson Mandela 1994

    Autumn Leaves 

  • Valentine’s Ritual Countdown! 🙂

    Hello everyone! Well, it seems like Christmas just passed and we are talking about our annual Valentine's Day Ritual to Erzulie Freda!   As the years have passed in doing this ritual, I find that I look forward to it more and more. 

    First off, there is the shopping for it!  As many of you know, we are pretty firm believers in Dollar Store Voodoo, with all the shiny trinkets and doo-dads that can be used to make a great altar.  Of course, we have many luxurious and special items for Erzulie Freda that we have collected over the years, but it is really a lot of fun to put together the Valentine's altar with, well, Valentine's goodies!

    Second, I have noticed over the years how the petitions that people send in have evolved.  In the beginning, the petitions seemed very cut-and-dried: " I love Fred (or Frederica), please let him/her love me."  Those petitions have evolved into asking for love for everyone and all kinds of love – the love that peace would bring, love for children, charitable love, brotherly love, etc.  Many have sent in petitions for those they knew were in different kinds of need.  So petitions for healing love, financial love, and job love have abounded, too!

    I certainly do not see anything wrong with that at all!  Just the very word "love" encompasses such a rich variety of meanings from loving ice cream to loving our husbands, wives, children, parents, and everything beyond and in between!  Looking at Valentine's Day as an opportunity to experience and share love of all kinds paints a beautiful broad spectrum of love that goes beyond paper hearts and yummy chocolates! 

    As we prepare for this coming Valentine's Ritual, I propose that we all see how creative we can get in our petitioning this year!  What forms of love can you radiate, choose to spread, and make a wish about?  Don't worry about sending in petitions that don't seem like the "norm!" There is NO norm when it comes to love – it is supposed to be open, crazy, fabulous, and it is supposed to mean whatever you personally want it to mean!  So don't be stopped by what you think someone else thinks you should be petitioning!  Send all your open-armed, open-minded, open-spirited petitions right on in!  (See the link above!).

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

    Valentine 

     

  • Yahoo! Mail Users – Please Read!

    Hello everyone!  I am in hopes that some of our clients with Yahoo! Mail will read this post; some of you we don't have any other way to answer so hopefully this will help.

    If you have been waiting for a reading,an email from customer service, techsupport, or your caseworker, etc. from www.spellmaker.com and you aren't hearing from us it is because Yahoo! Mail currently has us branded as spammers and aren't letting our emails through to you. 🙁

    The most idiotic thing about this is that we very rarely send out any unsolicited emails – maybe about four times a year for specials and sales – otherwise just about all we are doing is answering your emails that you write to us.  I can't figure out how they can say we are spamming when we are obviously answering an email!!!! 

    I am not sure if it will help, but if you have a Yahoo! email address that you are using to contact us, perhaps putting us on your "white" list, or accepted list will help the emails go through.  Although I have filled out the form they request and am trying to make them see that we are simply doing business as usual, I am fearful that this is going to become a real problem.

    In the meantime, if you aren't hearing from us on your Yahoo! (and we have had the same problem with Hotmail recently) address, you might want to try re-sending your email from a different email address – maybe setting up a free email with an other service.

    I am sorry for the inconvenience, but I really don't know what else to do.

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

    Caseworkerfree

  • ‘Memba This?

    Hi everyone!  So over two years ago I published this post below about The Pink Bubble Meditation. Every once in awhile someone asks me about it and I will re-direct them to where the old post is.  However, this week, no less than TEN PEOPLE have mentioned it to me!  LOL.  I truly took this as a sign from Les Lois that there were people out there in need of this meditation exercise so I am simply reposting my old post for probably a whole new audience who needs this pink magick!!

    Whomever is out there that needed this – God bless and here it is!

    Love,light, and peace,
    Mambo Sam
    www.spellmaker.com

    ——————

    Hello everyone!  Have you attempted meditation?  Meditation has been around for centuries and is used for many different manifestations of life:  health, love, anger management, relaxation, etc.  There are literally thousands of ways to meditate and assist in the manifestation of your goals. 

    In spell work we are often trying to attain a particular goal:  It may be love, money, a job, etc.  Whatever our reason for doing the spell work, adding in some creative meditations can certainly be a way of assisting your situation.

    Over the upcoming weeks, I would like to share with you some of my favorite meditation techniques. I hope you enjoy them!  The meditation technique below, the "Pink Bubble Meditation", is a wonderful meditation to use if you are working with our favorite love lwa, Erzulie Freda or working with pink candle magick or any other love magick.  🙂

    Love,light, and peace,
    Mambo Sam
    www.spellmaker.com

    Potionsmall

    Pink Bubble Meditation Technique

    This meditation is simple and wonderfully effective.
    Exercise:

    • Sit or lie down comfortably, close your eyes and breathe deeply, slowly, and naturally. Gradually relax and feel this meditation taking you deeper and deeper.
    • Imagine something that you would like to manifest. Imagine that is already happened.
    • Picture it as clearly as possibly in your mind. Now in your mind’s eye surround your fantasy with a pink bubble; put your goal inside the bubble. Pink is the color associated with the heart, and if this color vibrations surrounds whatever you visualize, it bring to you only that which is in perfect affinity with your being.
    • The third step is to let go of your bubble and imagine it floating off into the universe, still containing your vision. This symbolizes that you are emotionally ‘letting go” of it.
    • Now it’s free to float around the universe, attracting and gathering energy for it’s manifestation.

    Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain 1978

  • Stress in Social Media?

    Hello everyone,

    I read a very intriguing article today that stated that doctors were starting to see stress symptoms caused by people trying to keep up with Facebook, Twitter, etc.  These people felt compelled to keep their statuses updated, pictures uploaded, etc., etc.  When they fell behind, they felt like failures.

    In looking back over my fairly short history with social media (just a couple of years at most), I did see where there were times when I felt like needed to add "something" to Facebook or Twitter – otherwise it seemed like I was just sitting stagnant somewhere.  There is, to me, sometimes a huge obligatory feel to catching up on Facebook.

    But doesn't this kind of go against the whole idea of social media?  Weren't we supposed to be on Facebook to have fun, catch up with one another, find old friends, reach out to those we love and care about?  Was it ever supposed to be a chore?

    I had read quite some time ago about some people thinking that the verb "friending" someone on Facebook demeaned the whole idea of a friend…. that it took away from the very word "friend."

    Obviously, as an online business owner, I do feel that I should be on Facebook, not just for family and friends, but because I believe that it offers potential customers of Spellmaker another way to get to know me.  Most of you who do know me, already know that I am big on having customers get to know us. I feel it is important for them to know who they will be not only giving their money to, but who are they entrusting with fragile things such as their love life!  I have always been a big believer in telling pretty much all my personal business to my customers.  LOL.  That has been sometimes a bone of contention with certain family members, but I figure if you are entrusting me with your personal information, turnabout is fair play.

    However, on a personal level, how do you feel about social media such as Facebook?  Do you ever feel stressed about it?  Do you feel that it is something you MUST keep up with or do you just want to keep up with it?

    One of my  Spellmaker Novitiates recently mentioned in one of her posts about evil Facebook and stalking people on there!  LOL – that is worthy of a whole 'nuther post, but first I would like to get your opinion on social media in general! 

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com 

    1spiritualpower

  • Yes You Can!

    CAN'T – A POEM BY EDGAR GUEST

    Can't is the worst word that's written or spoken;
    Doing more harm here than slander and lies;
    On it is many a strong spirit broken,
    And with it many a good purpose dies.
    It springs from the lips of the thoughtless each
    morning
    And robs us of courage we need through the
    day:
    It rings in our ears like a timely-sent warning
    And laughs when we falter and fall by the
    way.

    Can't is the father of feeble endeavor,
    The parent of terror and half-hearted work;
    It weakens the efforts of artisans clever,
    And makes of the toiler an indolent shirk.
    It poisons the soul of the man with a vision.

    It stifles in infancy many a plan;
    It greets honest toiling with open derision
    And mocks at the hopes and the dreams of a
    man.

    Can't is a word none should speak without
    blushing;
    To utter it should be a symbol of shame;
    Ambition and courage it daily is crushing;
    It blights a man's purpose and shortens his
    aim.
    Despise it with all of your hatred of error;
    Refuse it the lodgment it seeks in your brain;
    Arm against it as a creature of terror,
    And all that you dream of you some day shall
    gain.

    Can't is the word that is foe to ambition,
    An enemy ambushed to shatter your will;
    Its prey is forever the man with a mission
    And bows but to courage and patience and
    skill.
    Hate it, with hatred that's deep and undying,
    For once it is welcomed 'twill break any
    man;
    Whatever the goal you are seeking, keep trying
    And answer this demon by saying: "I can."

    "End of Poem"—————————————

    Happy Sunday one and all!  Remember that you CAN! Whatever it is, you truly can do it. I really enjoy this poem because of it's strength in railing against the "can't" attitude.  Written in the 1800's well before the "new age" movement of watered down affirmations, this tells us to HATE the word "can't," to fight against it!

    I love that! Now don't get me wrong, I love a good affirmation as well as the next person – but there is something wonderfully invigorating about this poem and it's healthy hatred of the word can't! 🙂

     Love,light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com