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  • More About “Deserving!”

    Happy Friday the 13th, everyone! 🙂

    I wanted to talk a little bit more about my question about our sense of “deserving” something. Even though you can see these comments in the comments section under each blog post, I wanted to reprint these comments from readers here in this post so that I could comment on them.


    One reader says:

    “I had to think about this post for about a day before answering. . . . first I think we can trace that “entitlement” thing back to being children and being told if we were “good” santa would bring goodies (and if not, a lump ‘o coal)! Who didn’t have an impression like that made on them when they were small? Some of us never got over it!!! i try to turn it around and say i have been given MORE than I deserve. Several years ago I had a serious illness and could have died; in fact since then have seen many people with the same illness die from it. Ever since that happened I look at anything good that happens as “bonus points”. I still get mad and sad and so on when I don’t get what I want/get my own way; but try to remind myself it could be a LOT worse. Even in this terrible economy, most of us have more than most of the world’s people will ever hope to have. This does not mean I do not throw my temper tantrums and sulk like anybody else but I also try to keep the big picture in mind. . . and intentionally make it bigger and bigger all the time. A hard question! Still not sure of the answer. . .”


    This reader brings up a very good point and it bodes another question: Are we programmed to think in terms of what we deserve? Certainly Santa would be a good example of that! Even just the idea of being children and being punished for bad behavior and rewarded for good behavior reinforces the idea of when we do something “good” in life we deserve some kind of reward for it. It is like somewhere along the line many of us did not get the lesson that sometimes the doing good is the reward in and of itself. We believe we are entitled to more. Like the reader says, it is a hard question and I don’t think there is an easy answer, either!


    Like I was mentioning in my original post my main concern here is what I perceive as a huge sense of entitlement in some of my clients and my worry is that this will somehow be detrimental to their spell work – that they will not put forth the necessary effort, time, or heart, because they have the idea that they just simply deserve a good result!


    Another reader says:

    “Hi Mambo, What a great question I think that this is. I would think that being a good mother should be a reward in itself. And being a good wife should be a reward unto itself. I think the problem comes in when people are picking the wrong people to concentrate their efforts on. If you are trying to be a good wife to your husband and he doesn’t give a hoot about you, then you should have realized that before you wanted to spend the rest of your lives together. Everyone deserves to be happy, but if you just sit around and wait for happiness to find you, I think you will be very disappointed. You have to go make your own happiness and then yes, you deserve it because you worked for it. The same thing goes with our spellwork. If you think you deserve your HD or whatever you are working towards, then you have to really work for it. That means no conflict and staying positive. Then yes you deserve the results you work so hard for. Ok, that is how I see it anyway!!”


    This reader makes a good point, also, in that no matter what you deserve, you still need to be proactive in your own happiness no matter how “good” you have been. Plus, she mentions that “everyone deserves to be happy.” Certainly I agree that we all start out that way! 😉 I think we have all known a few rat bastards that probably did not deserve to be happy, but we will leave them out of the equation for this discussion and assume we are just talking about the at least marginally decent human beings. LOL.


    I would love to hear from more of you on this subject. You know, your comments can be anonymous, you don’t have to say who you are, and a Mambo never tells! 🙂


    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield


    Witchpot

  • What Do We Deserve?

    Hello everyone!
    What do we "deserve?" The dictionary definition of "deserve" goes like this:
    To earn by service; to be worthy of (something due, either good or evil); to merit; to be entitled to; as, the laborer deserves his wages; a work of value deserves praise. To serve; to treat; to benefit. To be worthy of recompense; — usually with ill or with well.

    Many times clients tell me that they "deserve" something; to be treated better by their partner, to have a better life, to have more money, etc. I recently asked a client why they felt that they deserved what they were asking me to help them obtain. I only asked the question because I am hearing a LOT lately about what people think they deserve!

    I have clients tell me, "I was a good mother to my children, now I deserve some happiness in my life." Now this one always give me cause to pause. If you decided to have children, shouldn't you be a good mother?? Does being a good mother cause you to "deserve" some sort of reward for that? Or is being a good mother part of the idea of having children? Are the children the reward? Do you deserve "more" because you were a good mother? Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying one does or does not deserve something because of being a good mother. I am actually asking you, my readers, to weigh in on this!

    Another thing I hear is, "I was a good wife to my husband. He left me anyway and now I deserve something better." So again, I feel like, well, if you are going to be a wife, should you not be a good one? Does your being a good wife mean you now deserve something better?

    Then there is the, "I am a good person, I deserve good things in my life." Okay… so you are a decent human being. Shouldn't you be? Really, isn't it up to all of us to be, at the very least, a decent human being? Should there be a decent human being award? Now if by being a good person you mean you do works of charity, help the homeless and poor, and give freely of your time to the assistance of others, then, yes, maybe there is a merit badge for that! Maybe you are more "deserving" than someone who doesn't do those things. But if you are just sitting around, living your life, minding your own business, and not harming anyone else, I am not sure that means you "deserve" more than another "good person" who happens to be starving to death in Africa.

    By the beginning of the definition of "deserve" above, to "earn by service" who amongst us is "deserving?" Should we be "earning" what we "deserve?" How do we earn it? I didn't say I had answers to these questions, maybe I just have questions! 😉

    I do know that it is really starting to make me uneasy how many people lately are telling me what they deserve. When I ask them why, they generally get pissed off at me, so I am thinking that is probably not the best approach. 🙂 But I am truly curious about the sense of entitlement some people seem to have; like the world owes them something: The mother who was good to her children (so was raising the children so horrible that she now deserves a reward for it?); the spouse who was good, etc. Because we went through tough times, does that mean we are now somehow entitled to a reward? Was our "tough time" worse than someone else's? IS there a reward for tough times?

    I DO get that we are all filled with books and talk shows and self-help gurus telling us how to feel good about our own self-worth, how to manifest our destiny, how to think positively about ourselves and our goals. But does that mean we necessarily "deserve" them OR are we in some way supposed to earn that which we think we deserve?

    Now, most of you are working on spell work from us, and we here at Spellmaker always want you to reach your goal! Most of my thought process above does not come from me thinking that you don't "deserve" to reach your goal! 🙂 Not at all! But I am concerned that just thinking that you "deserve" something is not enough to bring it to you! I am worried that too much thought of "well, I deserve this" is somewhat counterproductive and makes us all work a little less harder to achieve what we want!

    To say the least, I have really mixed emotions about this! I would love to hear your opinion!

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield

  • Damballah and St. Patrick’s Day Ritual

    Happy Friday everyone!
    The ever-delightful Simone Green writes:
    "Hi Mambo, Can we include Damballah in the ritual? Since St. Patrick is his saint, and to add extra luck?"

    Yes, of course, feel free to add service to Damballah into your Sobo ritual on St. Patrick's Day! 🙂 Never hurts to have a little Damballah on your side. Damballah is often represented in Vodou rituals by St. Patrick (though I remain a bit perplexed at that since St. Patrick is credited for running the snakes OUT of Ireland..and no one is running Damballah out of anywhere if he doesn't want to go!  LOL). Of course, the reason is because St. Patrick is portrayed many times with snakes in the picture. The more years that pass, though, the more I am a Moses/Damballah syncretizer, but traditionally it is St. Patrick.

    At any rate, I don't think it is a far stretch at all to do some service to Damballah with your Sobo ritual. For us, "coincidentally" Sobo, Damballah, and Ayida Ouedo used to share space in our previous altar room. 😉 When you think about it, it makes perfect sense! Damballah is full of wisdom and power, both necessary to obtain and KEEP one's money. His wife, Ayida Ouedo, is represented by the rainbow! Where is that pot of gold?? At the end of the rainbow, of course!

    So, yes, Simone, I think including Damballah (and of course Ayida Ouedo) into your Sobo ritual is a pretty good bet.

    Including Damballah into your ritual can be quite easy. A very simple offering of a white egg, either boiled or left raw, sitting in a dish of white flour is a very common and well-received offering to Damballah. Finding a picture of a rainbow with a pot of gold at the end of it and putting it on your altar will serve and acknowledge Ayida Ouedo and tie in nicely with your petitions to Sobo for wealth and security.

    Great idea, Simone! Thank you!

    Love,light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    P.S. If you have not gotten in your petitions for the Sobo ritual, please do! Check out all the information about the Wealth and Security Ritual at www.spellmaker.com/sobo.htm! Remember, we do this ritual all month long starting March 17.

    Moses

  • Top 10 Things You Don’t Know About My Wife!

    Of course you all know my wife, the delectable Mambo Sam. But I think there are few things you don't know about her:

    10. She types in her sleep, literally. I guess all those hours on the computer just go to bed with her.

    9.   She plays a mean "Guitar Hero."

    8.   She is not as tough-skinned as you think she is.

    7.   She can't cast her fishing line very far but always catches the biggest fish. (Wait a minute, I think she made me say that.  I am sure I caught the biggest fish last time. No, I am mistaken, SHE caught the biggest fish.)

    6.   She worries, thinks about, stews over clients just about every waking moment.

    5.   She cannot be beat at Scrabble.

    4.   She can cook eggs at least 20 different ways (all good).

    3.   She will do almost anything to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

    2.   She can shoot straight if she doesn't have to shoot too far.

    1.   ….it really IS from "The Chambers of the Enchantress."  (If you don't know what that means, I guess you will just have to stick around and be a Spellmaker client longer!)

    Have fun out there people!

    Parran Matt

  • More about St. Patrick’s Day Ritual!

    Hello everyone!
    We are really excited to be doing the Sobo ritual again here for St. Patrick's Day. So many of you reported really excellent results with the one we did in December. (Time really flies; it seems like we just did it and here it is March!!)

    It is important to remember, though, that sometimes there are smaller results, or more long term results, that we forget to recognize. I had one client tell me that she did the Sobo ritual, but nothing happened. Then in the next moment she told me that over the last month or so she has had more clients in her business than she ever had before. 🙂 I did gently point this out to her and she said, "Oh, I didn't look at it that way." Of course, then she did see what I was talking about!

    Results from all rituals can often take some time. Sometimes circumstances have to be rearranged in the background where we never see that happening, so we think "nothing" is happening. Then, when something does happen, sometimes a couple of months down the line, we don't remember to give credit to that which we set in motion!

    In these economic times, that might be especially true of the Sobo ritual. Sure, of course, Sobo wants to help us all. But there need to be the circumstances in which to help us, or perhaps to sometimes help ourselves. Just like the dear client above, sometimes the results might come in ways that help us to help ourselves make more money. Perhaps an opportunity arises to improve your career or work extra or whatever might be possible in your particular circumstances.

    So, okay, all of us are not particularly likely to find a pot o'gold on St. Paddy's Day because we did the Sobo ritual. However, I bet if you are willing to see it, you will see some kind of result from it!

    Of course, to get a result, you have to do it! LOL. Or at least let us do it for you! It's fun. It's still free (unless you want to buy the kit).

    Go visit Sobo at www.spellmaker.com/sobo.htm and send us your ritual request! If you happen to be doing great financially and don't need to have us include you in the ritual, then think about sending in a request on behalf of someone else or just everyone else in general! Hey, there's good karma in that kind of thing, ya know!

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    Clover

  • Writing your Personal Mission Statement – stick to the basics

    Hi There!
    Earlier in the year, I posted about Personal Mission Statements. Basically, this is a paragraph of about 3 to 5 sentences, that reflects your core beliefs and goals for your life. Think of your mission statement as a living, breathing entity, that will change and grow as you change and  grow nd discover new things about yourself along your life's path. This is hardly something that is written in stone, but a work in progress, just as we are works in progress 😉 Below are some general guidelines to help get you started:

    1. Focus on the positive! Write your phrases as what you want to be , not about what you don't want to be. If you find you have written something negative, rephrase it in a positive manner.
    2. Think about the qualities, actions, characteristics and habits that you have in you that you admire, or that you would like to strive towards.
    3.
    Create a mission statement that will guide you in your
    day-to-day actions and decisions. Make it a part of your
    everyday life.
    4.Think about how your mission statement effects every area of your life – relationships, career, family, financial. Your mission statement is meant to bring balance into your life, and should positively effect every area of your life.
    5. Be sure to include an emotional component! Describe positively how you want to FEEL inside about your self and your life!
    6. Start with an affirmative word like "I will…." or "I am….."
    7. Take as much time as you need. Life is not a sprint, but a marathon.  Take some time in thoughtful reflection about who you are and where you are and what your goals are.

    Here are some phrases that you could possibly use to help you get started:

    "I will  live each day with …[ fill in the blank ]… so that …[what is your goal]. I will do this by …(put specific habits or behaviors here]."

    "I am known by …[ people in your life ]… as someone who is …[fill in the blank]…;  "

    Sooooo……give it a ripple, and if you like, post your statement in the comments section of this blog, and we can all work on them together, and help each other out.

    Light and Love
    Sister Bridget

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  • Voodoo Debt Eliminator!

    Since I am a former letter carrier I could not help but sharing this one.  (So that is why I have back trouble!)

    Howtodealwithbills

  • Just a joke.

    Stealing Jacey's idea and telling a joke!  An elderly couple had been experiencing declining memories, so they decided to take a power memory class where one is taught to remember things by association.

    A few days after the class, the old man was outside talking with his neighbor about how much the class helped him.

    "What was the name of the Instructor?" asked the neighbor.

    "Oh, ummmm, let's see," the old man pondered. "You know that flower, you know, the one that smells really nice but has those prickly thorns, what's that flower's name?"

    "A rose?" asked the neighbor.

    "Yes, that's it," replied the old man. He then turned toward his house and shouted, "Hey, Rose, what's the name of the Instructor we took the memory class from?"

    🙂

  • SOBO RITUAL ON ST. PATRICK’S DAY

    Hello dear one!
    The wonderfully talented Ms. Berkeley came up with a great idea to do the Sobo Wealth and Security ritual again on St. Patrick's Day (March 17)! I think this is an awesome idea and even though Sobo is not traditionally associated with St. Patrick, I don't think that St. Patrick will mind if we are asking for the "the green" on his day! 🙂

    It does make perfect sense to do this ritual on St. Paddy's Day since wearing green and thinking about rainbows and pots o'gold are definitely in order!

    Now I know many of you already have the Sobo Ritual Pack that we used last time for the ritual. If you do, you can reuse the holy card and whatever you have left from the ritual pack. If you desire, you can purchase a whole new kit again. Or you can just do the free version of the ritual as it is outlined on the Sobo Page.

    We will again accept the petitions from you. Just go to the Sobo page and send us an email about your financial needs and they will be included in our ritual that we will do at the Spellmaker Office.

    Remember, we will be trying to work with the "group mentality" or Cosmic Consciousness again to try to send out and accept energy from each other.

    Many people reported wonderful results from the last time we did this Sobo Ritual together! 🙂 Many of you told us a lot of stories about how some really good things happened in your financial life after doing this ritual.

    So let's all get together and make St. Patrick's day our day to rake in the green!  Here's a great picture to focus on!  😉

    Love,
    Mambo Sam

    Indexmoney

  • He Hurt Me But I Want Him Back!

    Greetings everyone!

    Needless to say, every single day I deal with a situation, a spell casting, or a consultation which involves someone who has been hurt by someone else. Sometimes the hurt was unintentional,but still hurt like hell. Sometimes it was completely intentional and hurts like even deeper hell. But no matter what, the sad truth of what I do is dealing with peoples’ hurt, sorrow, trauma, and pain.


    Of course there are times when I look at someone’s case and wonder, “Why the heck does she want him back?” Or why does he want her back? Or whatever the gender… really that doesn’t matter much, actually!


    Nonetheless, it is my job to do what you, the client, asks me to do, and so that is what I try to do. BUT when is enough enough? When is the time to look at a situation and tell you that I think you are just punishing yourself, or that you don’t really want a relationship, or why would you let someone hurt you like that and then take them back? What are the criteria for doing that? Obviously, if I think someone is horrible for you and cannot ever be trusted again, I am going to tell you that. But what do you think?


    I am not here to answer the questions this time, I am here to ask them: What acts do you think are unforgiveable? At what point does a person not deserve for you to take them back? When would you just say NO to a person who wanted to return to you, even if you thought they had changed?


    I ask this because I want to reach out there and see what you all are thinking. Have the rules changed? I see lots of clients, women especially, who will take back someone who had done tremendous emotional damage to them. Granted, most of them want this man (or woman) to have healed and atone for what they have done. However, I wonder if they will really forgive them, even with the change. Can they really take them back? Is there that much forgiveness out there?


    I would love to hear your opinions on this!


    Love,

    Mambo Sam