Are You a Man Hater?

Greetings, everyone!

Now some of you are already thinking, “Mambo, what the heck kind of question is that? Of course I am not a man hater. I am doing spell work on the man I love and want to be with!”

Yeah, well, guess what, that doesn’t keep you from being a man hater and it can send you down a path of very unsuccessful spell work! I am just really surprised at the things I hear coming from my female clients some time, “What else can you expect, all men are pigs” – “well, he is a man so he is going to cheat” – “he broke my heart, but that’s what men do” – and the words go on and on, usually followed by, “but I love him.”

Really? If you are in the habit of generally trash talking men and can immediately tell me all of their faults,their nasty habits, then followed by the concession that you still want one, you are a man hater. Sure, you are in in love with a man, but that is not because you think he is wonderful, charming, witty, and handsome. It is because he happens to be a man and you love him because you think you are supposed to be with a man and don’t want to be alone. He isn’t perfect, but you can deal with his imperfections, especially if you have your girlfriends to trash talk with.

Yes, brutal, I know. But I have a point: Even if you are not a man hater, if you are falling into the trap of constantly criticizing your desired man, thinking bad thoughts about him, hating everything that he has done to you, are you really going to be successful in doing your spell work? How can you be when there is so much hurt, resentment, and anger in your heart?

I know we have talked about this before, that love spell work, by its very nature, must come from love! However, in speaking with some of you over the last couple of weeks, I am concerned that there is a trend towards general man bashing.

So,ladies, I hope that you can find it in your hearts to stop this behavior if you are guilty of it. Yes, we all need to vent. We all need to get things off our chests. However, try to keep it to a minimum. If you have friends that you speak with, when the conversation turns to man bashing, try to gracefully extricate yourselves.

Yes, we all have been hurt. We all have a “he was a bad man” story. However, remember that the more energy you put into criticizing men, the less likely you are to actually end up with a good one. I have found throughout the years that the women I have known who complained, harped, and went on and on about how terrible men had treated them continually found themselves with men who treated them terribly.

So forgive those men who have hurt you and move forward in your life. Celebrate the man you want and bring forward in your mind and heart all of his good qualities!

Love, light, and peace,

Mambo Samantha Corfield

www.spellmaker.com