Tag: spells of love

  • Setting Goals

    Hello everyone!  The article below by Kevin Kearns is actually an article outlining a way to reach business goals.  I could not help but notice the parallel between success in business and success in spell work!  Although I did have to laugh at the "No Magic" clause below.  šŸ˜‰

    Now that we are more than halfway through our 20th anniversary year, we, too, are looking at our own goals for the next 20 years! 

    The article is based on the time-honored tradition of being S.M.A.R.T. about goal setting.  Of course it isn't all germane to spell work, but certainly it can help you get organized and think about your spell work goals in an attainable way.

    Enjoy!

    Love, Mambo Sam

    www.spellmaker.com

    Top 7 Tips for Reaching Your Goals

    By Kevin Kearns

    Setting goals comes with the terrain for most leaders. You set goals for yourself, work with your team on setting their goals, and some of you, I know, work with your kids on setting goals. After all, in one form or another, goal setting is the practice of successful people. Unfortunately, the act of goal setting by itself does not guarantee goal achievement. Along with your determination, these seven tips can turn your goal setting into goal getting.

    1. Be S.M.A.R.T.: Set S.M.A.R.T. goals. This goal setting acronym approach has been around for a long time and it still works! You increase your odds of reaching your goal if you answer yes to all of these as you set it:

      Ā· Specific – have I described details rather than general ideas of the goal?

      Ā· Measurable – can someone else measure and see that I reached my goal?

      Ā· Attainable – is this goal actually reachable?

      Ā· Realistic – even if it is reachable, is it realistic that I am willing to do what it takes to reach it.

      Ā· Timeline – do I have a deadline for reaching this goal?

    2. Document: If it’s not documented, it’s not going to happen. Most leaders learn quickly (often the hard way,) if it isn’t documented it didn’t happen. Goal setting is similar, it must be documented. The act of writing your goal down creates a sense of commitment and also allows you to read it. Reading your goal gives your mind more confidence that achieving it is possible. We tend to believe what we read, that is why magazines like The Globe can sell stories about aliens abducting Bigfoot. Write your goals down and look at them frequently.
    3. Why Me!?: Why is the goal important to you? Think about what benefits the goal offers you. What rewards are associated with reaching this goal? Do you want those rewards? If not, you are not going to stay committed to reaching the goal. The bigger the why, the greater chance of success. If your why is big enough, you will usually figure out the how. It is up to you to discover a why that makes you want to achieve the goal.
    4. No Magic: Resist magically turning excuses into reasons. I have witnessed people magically turn what appeared to be an excuse into a perfectly justifiable reason for not achieving a goal. This powerful magic trick can only be reversed by the magician who performed it. We are all amateur magicians in that sense. We are all guilty of accepting situations as final and giving up on goals. If we want to reach goals (especially those worthwhile difficult goals) we must fight the urge to perform and leave the magic to Penn & Teller.
    5. Habit Forming: Make goal setting a regular part of your life. Much like a successful diet, goal setting works best when it becomes part of the fabric of your life. Yo-yo dieting is a huge issue in the United States. People get motivated to lose weight, so they start the latest fad diet. After a few weeks (or even hours in some cases) we find ourselves on the downward spin of the yo-yo. The people that have had the most success with losing weight long-term are the ones who have made a healthy diet permanent part of their life – not a temporary prison sentence they are waiting to get paroled from. The same can be seen with goal setting. The more a part of your life it is, the easier it becomes and the greater your success.
    6. Get Help: Have a coach help you through the process. If you are pursuing a large or long-term goal, you may benefit from the support of a coach. Depending on the importance of the goal, this can be a professional coach or even a trusted co-worker or friend. A good coach will support you, while at the same time holding you accountable to do your best. In most cases, it is wise to not share your goal with everyone. Many people love to pick goals apart and you may find yourself using your energy to defend your ability to reach your goal instead of using it to achieve your goal. A safe, trusted advisor may be just what you need to reach your goal, but choose wisely.
    7. Impress Yourself: Set goals that impress you. When we start to walk as small children, every step is applauded. This constant positive reinforcement is used to encourage our desire and persistence to walk. Eventually, they stop clapping. This is because you have moved beyond walking and onto more difficult physical challenges. As a leader, you have likely achieved a level of success at work. In order to stay sharp and continue to grow, your goals must progress beyond your current status. It is more important that your goals impress you, than impress others. Michael Jordan did not become the ā€œMichael Jordanā€ by limiting himself to what impressed others.

      Take the wisdom in these tips and strengthen your goal setting techniques. Improved goal setting will lead you to great achievements. How great? Well, that is up to you. The funny thing about goals is, the more goals you get, the more goals you want to get.

    20thanniversary

  • Fun with magickal music! šŸ™‚

    Greetings everyone!   I thought it might be fun to do a little project over the next several days to look at some popular music where lyrics refer to magick, witchcraft, etc., in some way.

    Obviously, there are a lot of songs that refer to magickal happenings in different ways. However, I would like for us to discuss how we feel the songs that I will post here over the next couple of weeks, remind us of certain lwa (our voodoo spirits).  Tell us what lwa the song reminds you of and why!  It is okay if the song reminds you of more than one lwa, or even about a particular spell kit or product that you have used!  Let's hear it what it is/was! šŸ™‚

    I am excited to see what you all think! 

    We will start with an old favorite:  Heart's ever classic "Magic Man" 

    Here are the lyrics:

    Cold late night so long ago
    When I was not so strong you know
    A pretty man came to me
    Never seen eyes so blue
    I could not run away
    It seemed we'd seen each other in a dream
    It seemed like he knew me
    He looked right through me
    "Come on home, girl" he said with a smile
    "You don't have to love me yet
    Let's get high awhile
    But try to understand
    Try to understand
    Try try try to understand
    I'm a magic man."

    Winter nights we sang in tune
    Played inside the months of moon
    Never think of never
    Let this spell last forever
    Summer over passed to fall
    Tried to realized it all
    Mama says she's a worried
    Growing up in a hurry

    "Come on home, girl" mama cried on the phone
    "Too soon to lose my baby yet my girl should be at home!"
    "But try to understand, try to understand
    Try try try to understand
    He's a magic man, mama
    He's a magic man"

    "Come on home, girl" he said with a smile
    "I cast my spell of love on you a woman from a child!
    But try to understand, try to understand
    I'm a magic man!"

     

    So what lwa came to mind for you? Or was it more than one lwa? šŸ˜‰

    Love to all,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com

  • Memorial Day Plans

    Hello dear readers!

    As Parran Matt and I were doing some errands today, we could not help but notice the amount of campers and cars packed up leaving for the long holiday weekend!  If you aren't traveling, Memorial Day… or any time this weekend is a great time to do a ritual for your ancestors, General Ogoun, or even Baron Samedi! 

    As we honor our fallen heroes, honoring our ancestors, even if they weren't military, is a great way to spend some time this Memorial Day weekend.  Of course, doing some ritual for General Ogoun Feraille or Baron Samedi is also a great way to honor our fallen military personnel! 

    When you do these kinds of services, it isn't the kind of service where you ask for something – it shouldn't be goal-oriented other than your goal being simply to say that you want to honor those who have fallen in the service of their country – even if it isn't the USA.  A lot of our dear Spellmaker clients are not in the USA!  But more than likely you have a military who has fought to keep your country safe, too!  So our Memorial Day can be everyone's Memorial Day as far as I am concerned.

    Light a candle and ask General Ogoun or Baron Samedi to send a blessing to these fallen ones.  Just say that you want to honor them and send your good energy to those who made the ultimate sacrifice and helped make our freedoms possible. 

    It just takes a few minutes to do a small service and send out your good vibes and ask for protection for those still serving in our military!

    Love to all,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

    Are they dead that yet speak louder than we can speak, and a more universal language?  Are they dead that yet act?  Are they dead that yet move upon society and inspire the people with nobler motives and more heroic patriotism?  ~Henry Ward Beecher

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  • New! Vodou Spirit Bracelets!

    Happy Monday, everyone!  Happy Labor Day!

    I am really excited to be offering another item into our jewelry and charms dedicated to the lwa! This time it is bracelets… very nice, really sturdy – made with rubber, leather, and stainless steel.  Each is consecrated to a particular lwa.

    There is something especially powerful about a good bracelet that has been blessed to bring out the power of a particular lwa.  Bracelets are generally worn on the wrist where the pulse points are bringing the power out into your hands – the hands that do magick and spell work!  :-)  Needless to say, putting something powerful right onto the very source of your energy flow is very desirable.

    Plus, I think these bracelets look really great, too!  Bonus! :-)  I am definitely hoping to add more to this collection!

    Check them out on the page with the Vodou Charms and Earrings!

    I hope you all have a safe and wonderful holiday!

    Love, light, and peace, 
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

    Damballahbracelet

  • For a smile.

    The Park Bench
    Poet: Unkown

    Beneath the long, straggly branches of an old willow tree.
    Disillusioned by life with good reason to frown,
    For the world was intent on dragging me down.
    And if that weren't enough to ruin my day,
    A young boy out of breath approached me, all tired from play.
    He stood right before me with his head tilted down
    And said with great excitement, "Look what I found!"

    In his hand was a flower, and what a pitiful sight,
    With its petals all worn – not enough rain, or too little light.
    Wanting him to take his dead flower and go off to play,
    I faked a smile and then shifted away.
    But instead of retreating he sat next to my side
    And placed the flower to his nose and declared with overacted surprise,
    "It sure smells pretty and it's beautiful too.
    That's why I picked it; here, it's for you."

    The weed before me was dying or dead.
    Not vibrant of colors: orange, yellow or red.
    But I knew I must take it, or he might never leave.
    So I reached for the flower, and replied, "Just what I need."
    But instead of him placing the flower in my hand,
    He held it mid-air without reason or plan.
    It was then that I noticed for the first time
    That weed-toting boy could not see he was blind.

    I heard my voice quiver; tears shone in the sun
    As I thanked him for picking the very best one.
    "You're welcome," he smiled, and then ran off to play,
    Unaware of the impact he'd had on my day.
    I sat there and wondered how he managed to see
    A self-pitying woman beneath an old willow tree.
    How did he know of my self-indulged plight?
    Perhaps from his heart, he'd been blessed with true sight.

    Through the eyes of a blind child, at last I could see
    The problem was not with the world; the problem was me.
    And for all of those times I myself had been blind,
    I vowed to see the beauty in life, and appreciate every second that's mine.
    And then I held that wilted flower up to my nose
    And breathed in the fragrance of a beautiful rose
    And smiled as I watched that young boy, another weed in hand,
    About to change the life of an unsuspecting old man.

  • Experience?

    Inspirational-quotes

    Hi everyone!  Okay, so yes, we have all made mistakes.. probably some real doozies!  I know I have.  So, my question is this:  Have you made mistakes that you truly feel would now be called "experience?"  You don't have to share the exact mistake, of course.  However, I am curious to know how you feel about this.  Are some mistakes something that you truly learned from and it benefited you later OR would you prefer to have never made them in the first place, useful or not?  Is "learning from your mistakes" just a pretty way of saying that you screwed up royally and now are trying to get some benefit from it?  Or was the benefit real? šŸ˜‰

    Love to all!
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

  • Yes You Can!

    CAN'T – A POEM BY EDGAR GUEST

    Can't is the worst word that's written or spoken;
    Doing more harm here than slander and lies;
    On it is many a strong spirit broken,
    And with it many a good purpose dies.
    It springs from the lips of the thoughtless each
    morning
    And robs us of courage we need through the
    day:
    It rings in our ears like a timely-sent warning
    And laughs when we falter and fall by the
    way.

    Can't is the father of feeble endeavor,
    The parent of terror and half-hearted work;
    It weakens the efforts of artisans clever,
    And makes of the toiler an indolent shirk.
    It poisons the soul of the man with a vision.

    It stifles in infancy many a plan;
    It greets honest toiling with open derision
    And mocks at the hopes and the dreams of a
    man.

    Can't is a word none should speak without
    blushing;
    To utter it should be a symbol of shame;
    Ambition and courage it daily is crushing;
    It blights a man's purpose and shortens his
    aim.
    Despise it with all of your hatred of error;
    Refuse it the lodgment it seeks in your brain;
    Arm against it as a creature of terror,
    And all that you dream of you some day shall
    gain.

    Can't is the word that is foe to ambition,
    An enemy ambushed to shatter your will;
    Its prey is forever the man with a mission
    And bows but to courage and patience and
    skill.
    Hate it, with hatred that's deep and undying,
    For once it is welcomed 'twill break any
    man;
    Whatever the goal you are seeking, keep trying
    And answer this demon by saying: "I can."

    "End of Poem"—————————————

    Happy Sunday one and all!  Remember that you CAN! Whatever it is, you truly can do it. I really enjoy this poem because of it's strength in railing against the "can't" attitude.  Written in the 1800's well before the "new age" movement of watered down affirmations, this tells us to HATE the word "can't," to fight against it!

    I love that! Now don't get me wrong, I love a good affirmation as well as the next person – but there is something wonderfully invigorating about this poem and it's healthy hatred of the word can't! šŸ™‚

     Love,light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

  • Game Playing.

    Hello everyone!  Thank you so much for all the nice feedback concerning my blogs. I really appreciate it since I don't consider myself skilled at writing. I can say what I mean but I am still learning to write what I mean. 

    I found this really good article that I thought you would all enjoy.  It is by a man named Scot McKay who does a lot of relationship articles.  I can't say that I always agree with what he has to say, but he makes some really good points sometimes.  I do agree with him that it is sometimes hard to define what "playing games" means.   In the end, I think it probably means different things to different people.  For me, I feel that if you aren't saying what you mean and meaning what you say, you are playing with someone's head – whether it is in a love relationship or any other relationship. For me personally, I cannot tolerate being condescended towards or lied to.  I am firm believer in fair treatment.  In seeing what I see every day with clients, many problems could have been avoided or alleviated by fair treatment, no lying, and perhaps defining each other's definitions of "game playing" and NOT doing that! 

    Enjoy the article!

    Love,
    Parran Matt www.spellmaker.com

    ARTICLE BY SCOT MCKAY:

    Well, if you've ever read an online dating profile anywhere, you've invariably seen some version of today's Phrase Of The Day in there somewhere. This can come in the form of, "No Games!" or "I am sick of playing games!" or "I do not play games, and won't put up with it", among others.

    Having read this phrase a few hundred times, I got a bright idea. I started asking people what they meant by that. The conversations, predictably, went about like this:

    Me: So you say you don't want to "play games". What are "games", exactly?

    They: Uh…you know…"games".

    Me: Such as…?

    They: Well, you know, all these games people play.

    Based on this pattern, there are three conclusions I could make:

    1) People have no concrete idea what they mean by "No Games",…

    2) …If they do know what they mean, it's not a standard definition that the rest of us can relate to immediately, and…

    3) …It's altogether possible that people put "No Games" in their profiles just because everyone else did and it sounds like the thing to write.

    My bet is that #3 is more often the reason than not. Lack of creativity has never been in short supply on dating web sites! That said, when so many people bring the "games" thing up-even putting it at their very headline in multiple instances-there's got to be something going on here.

    So what's up with it? What DOES it mean?

    After considerable thought and conversation, here are just some of the possibilities as far as what people are talking about here. I don't see this as an exhaustive list, and I welcome additions from readers. For your convenience, I've broken it down by gender.

    GUY GAMES

    1) What's a "game" without a "player"? — Now, what a "player" is, exactly, is a whole ā€˜nother topic, thereby adding complexity to this entire thing. Whoever he is, some women are "sick" of him. For the record, other women are inexplicably drawn to "player" types. So thank you, ladies, for clarifying up front what your preference is…assuming, um, that's what you meant.

    2) The dating "rules" of engagement — This involves doing things or acting in a certain way based on unwritten ā€˜protocol'. For example, when a guy gets your phone number/takes you out on a date/etc. he should wait three days to call you afterward, right?

    3) Lying about intentions — He "loves you" and wants a relationship. Or vice-versa.

    4) Overpromising/underdelivering — He says he has a "wonderful evening" planned for you. You are all excited, and you end up doing absolutely nothing…again. Another version of this is right after dinner out, while it's still early, he says he's really just ready to go home and "chill". This is categorized as a guy "game" because in my opinion the guy should have dates planned for the couple to enjoy, largely based on (hopefully) her favorite things to do/places to go.

    GAL GAMES

    1) Playing "hard to get" — She leaves him hanging. A lot.

    2) Marking territory — This is all about getting involved in a guy's life in such a way that before he knows it, you are most certainly not going away anytime soon. (e.g. making friends with his friends, introducing his and her kids to one another, etc.)

    3) Meal ticket — She keeps him around because he'll buy her dinner, and stuff…and that's really all. My personal opinion on this, BTW, is that if it's going on, it's the guy's fault. He has failed to create attraction on her part and besides, who can blame her?

    4) Sexual control — Anything under the general heading of "manipulation by sex" is a "game".

    EQUAL OPPORTUNITY GAMES

    1) Flakiness — Generally described as saying something will get done and not delivering. Some people are legitimate all-around flakes/deadbeats, and that's no game. The game here generally involved flaking out on someone after committing to a date, etc. because a "better option" came along. That's ā€˜Game City', baby.

    2) Mind games — Either hinting or outright saying something is so, and then pretending it was never said later. Acting in approval of some activity at one time, disapproving of the same thing another time. Carrots and Sticks. Carts and Horses. You get the idea, and this can take any form whatsoever. Everything from where the relationship stands to what size boxers the dude wears is fair "game" for this type of thing. This gig is all about controlling someone by weakness-usually in a passive aggressive manner (Which is, ahem, another topic for another day).

    3) Presumptuous assumptions, what's your function? — Whenever someone imposes on another person and says, "Oh, I just assumed…" you have this going on. Example here would be A invites B (note careful avoidance of X and Y variables here) to drinks. A automatically expected B to pay the bill, and doesn't have money. Someone has been "played" here. Anything involving presumed use of the other's time, resources or talents is this sort of game. Ladies, if you automatically assume your guy is going to help you move (unless maybe if it's in with him?) you are looking at a problem waiting to happen.

    4) Guilt trips — A major tactic of manipulation, often characterized by projecting blame upon someone else rather than accepting any responsibility for one's actions. (In fact, run away from anyone who runs this brand of smack on a regular basis.)

    NON-EXAMPLES

    Just for the record, there are a few things that may seem like games, but be careful before you consider them such.

    1) Not knowing what one wants — If someone wants a relationship and the other isn't quite there yet, for whatever reason, the one driving the relationship often thinks the other is "playing games". Assuming everyone has been honest about intentions here, this frustration is merely to be called "not getting what one wants immediately". It's not a "game".

    2) Details surrounding non-exclusivity — If you are not in an exclusive relationship with someone, it is not a "game" when the other person is dating other people. Further, it's not a "game" when you are not being given details. In fact, if one person is asking the other for said details (for which there is no answer that will make said person happy, of course) that might in fact fall under the "game" category. Assuming exclusivity, by the way, is not a good strategy. People in exclusive relationships should have a common understanding that it's the case.

    3) Outright stupidity — Laugh hard if you must, but you know it happens. A or B did or said something in a bonehead moment, and the other thinks it was a deliberate tactic to derail things in general. Yeah, well, it may actually derail things. But it wasn't deliberate so it wasn't a "game".

    So the summary here could theoretically be that if someone isn't being up front about something, the "game" is on.

  • Hang in there!

     "The greater the difficulty the more glory in surmounting it. Skillful pilots gain their reputation from storms and tempests. " – Epicetus

    Since I have been answering the phone here at our www.spellmaker.com office, I have had the pleasure to speak with many of you. One thing I have noticed is how quickly some people seem ready to throw in the towel at the first sign of spells "not working." I don't see very much of the idea of hanging in there or working through the difficulties.  At the very least, hang in there until the spell work is finished and the processing period is done.  So many people want to give up even before spell work is done! 

    As Mambo always says, "It's called spell WORK for a reason, it's work." šŸ™‚ Just because something is difficult, that doesn't make it time to give up. In fact, have some sense of adventure, of challenge, of the satisfaction of meeting something difficult and beating it. In other words, don't give up so easily!

    Best regards,
    Parran Matt
    www.spellmaker.com

  • Poem: Destiny is Calling

    Although I am not necessarily one to read or quote a lot of poetry, I thought that this poem could make a lot of sense for some of you.  It is not easy to keep going sometimes, or even to try again if you feel you failed at something.  So, I liked this poem for all of you who feel like you got knocked out and are down for the count!  Get back up.  Try again.  Male or female, we all get knocked out once in awhile! The poem was only credited to someone going by the name of "manlypoetryman" – so that is the best I can do to give credit to the author.

    Love, Parran Matt

    Destiny is Calling…

    Finding Myself at the Place Where:

    Destiny is calling…and I will answer it one more time…

    Re-Inspire my desire…This time I will put it all on the line…

    With Determination…the highest priority on my mind…

    Wishful thinking takes over…I will punch my way out of a bind.

    Driven by my deepest fiber from within…

    I will step back into ā€œthe Ringā€ once again…

    This time…It will not be over…until I say when…

    And go toe to toe with my opposition…a desire of all men.

    When a man is given the Opportunity and inspired by Courage…

    Getting back into the fight as an older man…becomes a rite of passage…

    As with wine…the years behind it…help improve its’ vintage…

    Prepared for the task at hand…I’m ready to start a rampage.

    Every man has to do what he has to do…That’s true…

    Of stamina and endurance…I’m here to tell you…

    Better not throw in the towel…until I am through…

    I will not leave until I do what I have come here to do.

    Overcoming this challenge…shall be my legacy…

    At the Summit’s top…I will be what I must be…

    After taking all that life has dished out at me…

    Then you will ultimately see…That I will have the victory.

    So after struggling…and after so long of not feeling complete…

    Something or Someone will pay for every time I was beat…

    Invincible …I was not down for the count in total defeat…

    Don’t ever count me out…At the place where destiny and determination meet.

    Poem was Inspired by George Foreman's real life. He became the oldest man ever to win a Major Heavyweight Title. He knocked out a 26-year-old Michael Moorer in the 10th round on November 5, 1994. He was 45 years old.(Wikipedia.org)