{"id":824,"date":"2007-12-31T00:36:00","date_gmt":"2007-12-31T00:36:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/?p=824"},"modified":"2007-12-31T00:36:00","modified_gmt":"2007-12-31T00:36:00","slug":"a-new-approach","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/?p=824","title":{"rendered":"A New Approach to New Year’s Resolutions"},"content":{"rendered":"

Happy New Year Everyone!<\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know about you, but I really dislike making resolutions. Just the thought of them makes my stomach tighten. Why? Because in the past, I have been, let\u2019s say, somewhat less than successful with them. Sigh. So, I was trying to think of some positive way to address making a resolution \u2013 one that wouldn\u2019t make me cringe \u2013 and I came across this article. It makes good sense to me, so I am passing it along to you <\/span>J<\/span><\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

So, I have come up with a couple of process oriented resolutions for myself. I will be blogging about them in the coming weeks, updating you with my progress (and setbacks as well) as they occur. <\/span><\/p>\n

The first process is managing my home better. Who wouldn\u2019t want to make things just a little bit neater and a little bit tidier? I came across a great series of articles about clutter, how clutter effects us, and how clearing it away can change not only our homes but our lives as well. Also, some helpful tips on how to make cleaning up very manageable, not overwhelming. I looked a bit further and found some great beginner stuff on Feng Shui. Very interesting stuff! So, look for some interesting info about that energy practice as well. <\/span><\/p>\n

The second process I am adopting now is Journaling. I actually started journaling some a few weeks ago, but as of <\/span>1\/1\/08 <\/span>I am making this a daily practice. It is truly amazing the realizations and insights that are revealed to me while I write in my journal. <\/span>By getting your thoughts out of your head and putting them down in writing, you gain insights you\u2019d otherwise never see. I have collected a few articles on journaling and getting started and some other neat stuff. Keep an eye out for that! <\/span><\/p>\n

I hope all of you have a great and safe New Years and here is to 2008 being the best year ever for all of us!<\/span><\/p>\n

Light and Love<\/span><\/p>\n

Sister Bridget<\/span><\/p>\n

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A New Approach to New Year’s Resolutions
by Stephanie Roberts<\/em><\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

The New Year is traditionally a time to reflect on where we are in our lives and to think about improvements that we’d like to make. It seems obvious that the first step in choosing appropriate New Year’s Resolutions should be to define specific goals for what we want to achieve in the coming year. I’m a huge fan of goal setting, but I’m no longer convinced it’s the best way to approach this whole resolution thing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Focusing on specific goals leads to those oh-so-familiar resolutions such as "Lose 10 pounds by February 1st," "Go to the gym five times a week," "Stop arguing with my [mother\/brother\/in-laws\/your personal nemesis here]," "Get out of debt," "Quit smoking," and so on. These are all admirable and worthy objectives — until we binge on that last box of holiday chocolates, start skipping workouts, let Mom get under our skin (again), succumb to a post-Christmas sale or give in to the craving for a cigarette, and the self-recrimination begins.s<\/span><\/p>\n

The purpose of New Year’s Resolutions is to help us focus on positive changes we want to make in our lives. Our intentions are good, but often all that we accomplish is to repeat past failures, undermine our self-worth, and add to our burden of guilt because once again we didn’t follow through on what we said we were going to do.<\/span><\/p>\n

A 1998 survey conducted by the <\/span>University <\/span>of <\/span>Washington <\/span>reported that 63% of the people questioned were still keeping their #1 resolution after two months. That sounds pretty good given how prone we humans are to temptation, but frankly I’m not all that impressed. Two months is a good start, but it’s not much time to make lasting changes and I can’t help but wonder what that study would have revealed three, or six, or twelve months down the road. <\/span><\/p>\n

If the prospect of making New Year’s Resolutions triggers feelings of guilt because you’ve been making the same ones year after year — without ever losing that 20 pounds, or exercising more, or quitting smoking, or getting out of debt, or really-truly-this-time-I-mean-it finally getting organized — perhaps it’s time for a new kind of resolution. <\/span><\/p>\n

I’ve come to the conclusion that the best resolutions are process-oriented, not goal-oriented. They focus not on achieving a specific goal by a specific date, but on making subtle and important shifts in how we are living in each moment. I’d like to see more of us make resolutions like "Treat everyone I meet with kindness," "Respond to anger with compassion," "Honor and respect my body," "Make better use of my talents and abilities," or "Be a mindful caretaker of my financial assets." <\/span><\/p>\n

These kinds of resolutions deliberately break the #1 goal-setting rule: "be specific." Their vagueness is their greatest asset, because instead of setting a concrete milestone (which we then beat ourselves up for not reaching), they provide a gentle guiding light that keeps us headed in the right direction as we make our cautious way forward to becoming better at being who we are. <\/span><\/p>\n

Process-oriented resolutions help us avoid the pitfalls of failure and guilt by making it easier to reinvent our lives moment by moment. If we slip up and eat that donut, lose our temper, pull out a credit card or light up and take a deep drag, our resolutions remind us that we can make a different choice next time. <\/span><\/p>\n

This does not mean you shouldn’t set goals this year! Goals are terrific, and important, and I definitely recommend creating a specific, written list of your desired achievements. I also, however, suggest separating goal-setting and resolution-making into two distinct tasks. <\/span><\/p>\n

This year, instead of defining your New Year’s Resolutions by what you want to achieve, use them to describe something about the type of person you want to be. Think about what you want to accomplish, then make resolutions that provide a foundation of attitudes and behaviors that will support you in achieving the specific goals you’ve added to your list.<\/span><\/p>\n


Copyright \u00a9 2002 by Stephanie Roberts<\/span><\/p>\n

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