{"id":385,"date":"2007-09-16T13:17:46","date_gmt":"2007-09-16T13:17:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/?p=385"},"modified":"2007-09-16T13:17:46","modified_gmt":"2007-09-16T13:17:46","slug":"how-to-lose-a-m","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/?p=385","title":{"rendered":"How to Lose a Man – Part I"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hello everyone.  As you know I am Mambo Sam’s husband and co-owner of our business, www.spellmaker.com<\/a>.  Right now I am the lone "male voice" of our Spellmaker family!  Now that is not a bad position to be in, believe me.  The ladies of Spellmaker are a mighty force to be reckoned with!<\/p>\n

Over the years, many times in speaking with our female clients, I see things that they could really avoid doing.  Sometimes the lady is in a troubled relationship with no clue that some of the trouble is "her."  (Now don’t get all upset with me just yet<\/em>.  I do promise to later on address the issue of what "he" does to lose his relationship with you!  Believe me, I definitely see two sides to every story.  I am very much a "what is good for the goose is good for the gander" type of guy.)<\/p>\n

But the truth is that 75% of our clients are women – wonderful and beautiful and good women.  But the things I see some of them doing really give me cause to pause. So I am going to share with you Part I of "How to Lose a Man."  (But pay attention, men, a lot of this can apply to you, too!): <\/p>\n

1. Don’t bother getting to know him. Instead try to immediately turn him into what you think he should be. "Because that will work."  Do you want a puppet or a man?  If you don’t like him just the way he is, don’t be with him.  He is not a "fixer upper."  You wouldn’t want to be viewed that way, don’t do it to him.<\/p>\n

2. Ask his opinion and immediately do the opposite.  If you think you are "involving" him in your life by asking his opinion when you don’t really want it, you are mistaken.  All that happens is that he feels like you don’t value what he has to say.<\/p>\n

3. Rather than sit down and talk "it" out try to manipulate the situation in your favor.  Men do want to talk about whatever it is that is bothering you.  They don’t want to talk about it for hours, but they do want to talk about it.  Being manipulative, conniving, and whiney is unattractive (for either sex!)<\/p>\n

4. Withhold sex when you don’t get your way or for any other controlling reason.  If you use sex as a weapon in  your relationship, then the sexual intimacy in your relationship will cease to be about love and will be about who is controlling whom.<\/p>\n

5. Cheat on him, hide it, and when you get caught find some way to blame it on your man.  "You’re never there for me."  <\/p>\n

6. Always have to be right and when you find out you are right, rub it in his face.<\/p>\n

7. Don’t let him help you with anything, always be the "fiercely independent woman."<\/p>\n

8. Take your female friends’ side against your man and later use that to attack him. "You know what Susie said about you?  I think she might be on to something."  Your man could care less what Susie thinks about his relationship with you!  Leave her out of it.<\/p>\n

9. Play the jealousy game: Go out of your way to make your man jealous and then get angry when he shows it.<\/p>\n

10.  Make sure he knows that he never does anything right. Never be satisfied with what he gets you or does for you.  Be sure to criticize his choices where you are concerned:  "I don’t like daisies."  "That color is all wrong for me."  "I know you meant well, but…."   If he stopped at the convenience store and saw a little bouquet he thought would brighten your day, know that he meant it lovingly.  He was thinking of you even if he didn’t got to the florist and get two dozen of the finest roses.  <\/p>\n

So there’s a start on how to lose a man.  I will definitely post more soon and can’t wait to get started on what we guys do wrong!  \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hello everyone.  As you know I am Mambo Sam’s husband and co-owner of our business, www.spellmaker.com.  Right now I am the lone "male voice" of our Spellmaker family!  Now that is not a bad position to be in, believe me.  The ladies of Spellmaker are a mighty force to be reckoned with! Over the years, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[336],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-385","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-a-mans-opinion"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/385","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=385"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/385\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=385"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=385"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/spellmaker.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=385"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}