Good morning, everyone! As we all head back to work in the shiny new year, many thoughts turn to makeovers, resolutions, changing one’s self. The beginning of a new year is always a great time to make those resolutions to change things that we were not so happy with last year!<\/p>\n
I have noticed with myself that I often tend to go overboard on resolutions, like so many people do! Unfortunately, that is a great way to set yourself up for failure. But, I do believe that there is a great deal of validity in bringing in the new year with a new version of yourself. Sometimes it might just be a matter of firmly deciding to leave last year in the past where it belongs. If you had a particularly bad year in 2010, now is a great time to decide to try to let go of whatever negativity, pain, or trauma that you had. You CAN take it with you, but why? Even if problems of the past are still unresolved, you can leave the last months of negativity behind – cleanse yourself of them, and decide that this is a NEW beginning to solving old problems. Sure, we sell products for cleansing – Lady Samantha’s Hex Removal Kit, white candles, Milk of Damballah white bath, etc.<\/a> and those are great to use. However, sometimes just making a very resolute promise to yourself to start over, even if it is with old challenges, can be very effective!<\/p>\n Sometimes we cannot see how to change or, with some folks, why! I get tons of letters from people who can tell me exactly how they want their intended partner to change, but very little of how they could or should change. Making a resolution to be more self-aware, take responsibility for some of what is going on in your life, could be just the thing to help some people. I am not talking about blaming yourself for everything that happens – that is just as unhealthy as being totally unaware of what role you play in your own life. Look for the balance in your life – drop the “poor pitiful me” victim attitude OR the “everything is my fault” martyr attitude. Instead realize that you cannot control everything, but you can control your own actions, attitudes, and self-awareness. Now that is a resolution!<\/p>\n So keep those resolutions realistic but be willing to accept, create, or believe in a miracle! <\/p>\n