Happy Friday, everyone!
Very often my clients tell me that they are “afraid to love” completely. Now, of course, we all fear being hurt. Many of us will hold back and not give ourselves fully into loving someone at first. We want to wait… we want to see if our feelings are returned. Putting it out there fully and completely is quite scary!
However… and this is a BIG however, if you are doing love spell work and yet you are afraid to give your heart completely then you may be running a very real risk of sabotaging your own spell work!
Think about this: If you are approaching the relationship you are trying to get or fix with fear, holding some of your feelings back, and being afraid that you might get hurt, then what kind of energy are you putting into your spell work? What you put into your spell work is most often what you get out of it. If you are putting fear and holding back your love because you might get hurt, then that is likely what you will get back.
Perfect love spell work must be done in perfect love. Now, spell work doesn’t have to be perfect to work for you! Hey, we all make mistakes, and there is a certain level of “accident forgiveness” built into our spell work. However, it is really important to think about how YOU are feeling towards the relationship you are trying to be in. Are you angry? Are you afraid? Are you afraid to truly love that person because you may never get them? What if I told you that you may never get the because you are afraid to truly love them???
There are those among us who feel like it is not worth it to fully love someone. It is too risky. We might get hurt. We might get dumped. We might not get that love returned to us. However, if you are not willing to take the risk then you can never reap the wonderful, incredible, dizzying rewards of truly being in love. The old saying that, “It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all” is just so true.
There is no more powerful emotion than love. If you are not willing to allow yourself to experience it, even if it seems one-sided right now, then you are doing yourself (and your spell work) a terrible disservice.
If you feel that perhaps you have been this person, I would like to suggest that you do something about it! 🙂 There is no point in getting upset if this has been you. Instead, make yourself the promise to no longer be that person! If you have been deeply afraid or angry or half-hearted in allowing yourself to love the person you want to be in a relationship with, then I am going to suggest that you do something such as Erzulie Freda’s Love Bath or perhaps some pink gender candles (in the gender of each of you – you and the person you want to be with) and ask that you allow yourself to feel this love again! Petition that you will not be a blockage to your own feelings of love, that even though right now those feelings might be bittersweet, you will allow yourself to feel them, relish them, wallow in them! THEN start back on your spell work or adjunct work – whatever you are working on right now.
Think of doing something like your love doll with the pulsing ecstasy of love that truly beats in your heart for your special person! Even if you feel like your love is one-sided right now, love is still a positive emotion! Allow yourself to feel it, really feel it, and then go do a love doll session or a candle session.
Trust me, I know that this can be a painful journey sometimes. But don’t sabotage it by not allowing yourself to fully commit to the love that you want. Your love is real, so really feel it!
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com