Tag: relationship spells

  • Healthy Relationships begin with Ourselves!

    Hello there!

    I was just reading this article, and the LAST line really grabbed me – it says

    “It’s crucial to have a great relationship with ourselves because it’s the only relationship that you are guaranteed to have every day of your life!”

    Seems so simple, right? Yet, it came as a bit of a "Duh!" moment for me. I am posting a link here to the rest of the article. I hope some other folks out there find it helpful as well.

    6 Ways You Can Have a Healthy Relationship with Yourself

    Love

    Sister Bridget

     

  • Staying the Course.

    Greetings everyone!  Recently I was talking to a long-term client of mine who felt like she was confused about her goal in spell work.  She has been working a long time towards a particular goal and while the goal has often seemed in reach, and there has been good progress in her case, she just hasn't quite achieved full results.  She noticed that she recently has become confused about what her true goal is in doing her spell work.

    We talked for awhile about "way back when" when she first came to me and what she wanted then.  It was interesting to see how that goal has shifted and evolved over the years.  However, when we talked about it, even though there are some differences now in the goal, the core goal remains the same. It struck me as really important that she stay the course on her core goal even with the realization that even though there are differences in the goal, the main purpose of the work remains the same.

    This isn't the first time that someone has come to me who seems to have lost sight of why they started working magickally in the first place!  Sometimes the work itself takes on a life of itself and we can mistake the work for the goal! 🙂

    My recommendation to her was to use a Cosmic Voodoo Destiny Egg in order to help her remember and get back on track with her goal.  Also, if the goal has truly drastically changed, working with this Egg kit will also help with knowing and understanding that.  There is nothing wrong with a goal changing, growing, evolving over time; the only danger lies in not recognizing that change for what it is! Using the Egg to ask for guidance as to "where am I going next" or "where should I be doing next" and listening to that guidance is a really great tool!

    She has reported back to me that after even the very first session she felt re-focused and re-energized on her goal.  She has re-worked her path to her goal in such a way that everything now seems more realistic and true to her.  :-)  Now she no longer feels like she is working towards some nebulous goal that is no longer germane to today's life!   She realized that while the circumstances around her goal have changed, the actual goal has not.  Now she is able to work on those circumstance to uncloud her goal and make it a clear reach for her again!

    Like I said, she certainly isn't the first person to lose sight of her original goal so I thought it would be good to share with you how she used the Destiny Egg to help her out of her own magickal woods!

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield

     www.spellmaker.com

  • Adultery between married partners: A recession strategy?

    Hi everyone! Back to blogging! 🙂 Since we deal, obviously, in a lot of relationship challenges, this article kind of blew my mind. What do you think?

    Love, Mambo

     www.spellmaker.com

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  • Patience.

    Hello everyone!  Can't believe it is already July!  :-)  I know we have talked about the subject of patience before, but I ran across an article that I thought might be really helpful for everyone.  Probably one of the biggest issues that I find with people who are trying spell casting is that they run out of patience before they can reach their goal.  This is becoming more and more true.

    Just by the very nature of our society with "instant messaging" abounding, we are all now seeming to expect that our lives will "instantly" manifest for us just in the way that we expect them to.  Well, although technology has jetted us into some kind of alternate universe that we THINK we live in, guess what, the REAL universe hasn't changed that much.  Life isn't an XBox game nor is it a Facebook page nor a tweet on Twitter.  Those things are peripherals to the real life that still exists seemingly to be ignored by quite a few people.

    More and more I hear from clients that they don't want to wait, they want everything now, and even the least amount of waiting sends some of them into an angry orbit.  Some of the stress levels that I see from even the youngest clients worries me; I want to tell them just to slow down before God slows them down permanently.  I just don't see how they can continue to live like this where everything is supposed to happen at the pace of a ding on their phone with yet another text message coming in. 

    A lot of people no longer seem to want to grow with the process; they don't want to improve themselves or their spirituality.  They don't want to learn about themselves or, gasp, change anything about themselves.  It is all about instant gratification; an eternal rat race to get more and better gratifications that in the long run turn out to be not at all what they thought it would be and so now we need a prescription to alter our minds and makes us think we are gratified.  Slow down, people!  Experience what is in your life – quit jumping from thing to thing looking for the bigger, better, faster "thing."

    Don't get me wrong, I love the technology that allow us to communicate with each other and be in touch – if only it were truly used that way.  Instead, I think it just gets to be information overload as we jump from one tweet to another without even a moment's consideration of feeling something about what we just read…. gotta get to the next tweet – it might be something even more important!  It isn't the technology I have a problem with!  I use it all.  What I am concerned about is people's inability to get beyond this technology and remember to live their real lives.

    Anyway, I think this short article is great and I have inserted some comments into it.  Kudos to the author!  I couldn't have said it better myself.

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield

    www.spellmaker.com

    THE ARTICLE

    How To Develop Patience – by Steve Scoresby

    In a world of instant gratification, people jump from "stimulus" to "response" without as much as a second thought. Patience is the "pause" in between that allows us to get the result we are really looking for. Here is how to develop more patience in your life.

    Webster's defines patience as bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint, or being steadfast despite opposition, difficulty or adversity. I believe this why patience is called a virtue. It is little practiced, but much needed. At the first sign of difficulty, many jump to an easier, smoother path, hoping to avoid the pain and suffering that is necessary on the road to personal growth. But it is only by taking this rough road do we gain the experience necessary to develop our character. Impatience robs us of these types of life experiences. How would your world be different if you practiced more patience?

    Patience is the ability to hang on when everyone else has given up. Patience is ability to release your need for immediate gratification and wait for the things to come in their own time frame. Patience overcomes criticism and intolerance. Patience develops committed relationships in marriage, family, church, community and career. Many a great leader have displayed patience by looking before they leaped, thinking before they acted, and considering before they decided. Patience is the mark of maturity. So now we know the virtues of patience, how do we develop more patience?

    First, realize that no one is perfect, including yourself. Accept yourself and others, imperfections and all. Everyone is struggling with their own set of fears, weaknesses, obstacles and crises. We are all on the road of personal growth together and can help each other by showing more patience and kindness to each other.

    >>> MAMBO'S NOTE:  This is so true! So many times there seems to be a forgetfulness in people doing spell work that their HD might be going through something in their life, TOO. When it is pointed out, generally the response is that one doesn't care about that, just hurry up and get to me!

    Second, develop a consistent philosophy of life based upon a value system you believe in. Then when you are confronted with a situation, you can make your choice based upon the value system rather than an instant gratification response. With every choice is a consequence. Do you act now and settle? Or do you wait to get the result you truly desire?

    Third, change your perspective on the past, present and the future. Stop dwelling on your mistakes and failures. They cannot be changed. Instead, focus and what you can do now to make a difference. Life is a blessing and each day should be lived as if it were your last. Start fresh everyday and remember the future comes one day at a time. What can you do today to change the results you have in the future?

    Fourth, confront your fears rather than avoid them. Do the thing you fear the most and the fear will go away. "That which we persist in doing becomes easier to do, not that the nature of the thing has changed, but our ability to do it has increased." By doing more, it becomes easier, and when it becomes easier it becomes fun rather than stressful.

    Finally, realize that all things come to those who wait. The Universe, the infinite force that connects us all, will bring the people who can help, the answers you may need, the tools and resources you are looking for when you need them. You must have faith and be patient and believe in your goals, realizing that they will often not be accomplished according to your original plans. Circumstances change. People change. Things change. Let go of your anxiety, disbelief and doubt about achieving your goal. Know that The Universe is constantly supporting you and will always help you achieve the things you desire. Just be patient!

  • Using Your Love Doll with Other Products!!!

    Hi everyone! Happy April Fools’ Day! LOL. Of course none of my clients are “fools” so this is not a day for you. 😉

    As we continue talking about adjunct work, I wanted to cover the usage of your love doll (deluxe or regular) with other products.

    The love doll is one of the most effective products that you can use for your love case. Just the love doll itself, even without using it in combination work, is a powerful tool for communicating directly with your HD (Heart’s Desire, what we call the person you are working on). The doll becomes a direct pipeline right to your HD’s Higher Self.

    So of course, when you combine using the doll with other products, that ups the efficacy of BOTH of those products! 🙂 One of my favorite combinations of work is the love doll with the Cosmic Voodoo™ Healing Egg. In most cases, something needs to either be healed within the relationship you are trying to have or perhaps themselves. When you combine using the Healing Egg with your Love Doll, you are really doubling that healing power.

    For instance, if the person you are doing your spell work on has a fear of commitment; that is something that we would consider needs healing. By setting up both your Cosmic Voodoo Egg ritual AND your love doll ritual at the same time, you are bringing the level of power WAY UP THERE!! 😉 Many things in a relationship that you might think would not necessarily be considered something that needs healing actually can respond to healing! What if your HD has a “wandering eye” towards others partners? You can actually work on that with “healing” their desire for others! (Now that kind of healing would definitely call for combination work!)

    Is your HD someone you don’t seem to be able to depend on? You could use your Egg and Doll combination to work towards “healing” them of being undependable! So the trick is to look at what you might consider negative traits in your HD and consider those as maladies to be healed.

    Another great way to use the love doll in combination is with various image candles! Using one image candle to represent you and one image candle to represent your HD, and using that in conjunction with your love doll is great! You could do this red, white, pink, or even green image candles just depending on what you are trying to accomplish! For example: Let’s say that you want to mend some heavily negative events that have happened between you and your HD. Setting up your love doll, then using a white image candle for you and a white image candle for your HD, getting everything going, and then petition that all that negativity be removed from BOTH of you and especially then from your HD (using the doll). This is especially useful if you feel like you have perhaps gotten mostly past the negativity but your HD is harboring more than you are. It will help you, but you will be putting more of the energy toward your HD since two of the three products will be aimed at your HD. 🙂


    Now of course you have all now been introduced to our new sex magick products! Using the sex magick candles with the love doll is a great way to enhance the sexual energy work greatly. If your sex life is flagging or even non-existent with your HD, then using the doll with the sex nmagick will certainly boost things. Also, using this sexual energy in combination with the loving energy of the doll brings the relationship energy to a highly intimate level, right where you want it!


    There are, of course, many other ways you could use the love doll in conjunction with our other products! 🙂 If you are unsure how to do this, please talk to your caseworker. If you have some other ideas of adjunct work, please leave a comment below! I would love to see your ideas, too!


    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Sam

  • Erzulie’s Oil and Incense!

    Greetings everyone!  🙂  Hope you are having a beautiful Wednesday!



    Of course as most of you know, we did our wonderful Valentine’s Ritual to the beautiful Vodou love goddess, Erzulie Freda. We love doing this ritual every year for everyone!


    This year was a little bit different in that we offered a special one-day ritual pack that you could do at home when we did the ritual here at the office. That ritual pack is still available, by the way, because it is the kind of ritual you could do anytime!


    MANY of you asked about the oil and incense that was included in that ritual pack and asked if we would carry it separately. Although it was originally our intention just to have it for the ritual pack, since so many of you asked, we are now offering it separately.


    The Erzulie’s Love Apple™ Incense was a huge hit with all of you! 🙂 It is really wonderful and the smell is just divine. So we are now including it with our other incense offerings. Right now, it is available just on the Erzulie Freda Page, but we will be putting on the other pages soon.


    The Erzulie’s All that Glitters™ Love Oil was a great hit with you, too. Many of you have asked if you could use it with your Voodoo Sex Magick products that we are now offering. Yes, you can, and you can also use the Erzulie’s incense with your sex magick.


    If you are confused on how to use these products (or any other product, for that matter), please talk to your caseworker!


    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Sam

  • Feed Hungry Children – Great American Bake Sale

    Hello everyone!  In the spirit of St. Joseph's Day (see yesterday's post, please), I would like to bring to your attention, the Great American Bake Sale!  This is a really cool way to help feed hungry children.

    I found out about this on the Food Channel Network and checked into it.  The set up for this is really great in that you sign up to hold a bake sale in your area and the proceeds will benefit community programs that feed children.  But what is really great is that you can also sign up to hold a "virtual bake sale."  That is such a great idea, isn't it??  Most people may not have the time to actually put together a bake sale and host it in their community.  However, if you do the virtual bake sale, the Great American Bake Sale website helps you build your own little web page and offers a function where you can email your friends and family and ask them to contribute to your virtual bake sale. 

    If you think about it, even if someone can just contribute a dollar or two to your virtual bake sale, all those dollars add up!

    If you can host a bake sale in your community, or even host a virtual bake sale, you can offer that as a service to Les Lois.  Remember especially the lwa such as Erzulie Freda, Maman Brigitte, Baron Samedi, Papa Loko, Erzulie Dantor, Ayida Ouedo, Ayizan, and others are very concerned with the welfare and protection of children.  Doing any kind of participation in a program such as this can certainly also be a service to our beloved lwa while making a difference in American communities where hunger in children is a huge problem.  We have a tendency to think that hungry children just exist in third world countries where it "isn't our problem." 

    But if as Americans, we think that all American children are well fed and well taken care of, I am sorry to say that we are wrong.  Thousands of American children go to bed hungry and homeless every night.  I was appalled to hear that right here in Albuquerque, New Mexico (and we are not a huge city), they estimate 4,500 children to be homeless right now!!!  It is unfathomable to me that we have ONE homeless child in America, but the statistics are both staggering and alarming.  Participation in a program such as Great American Bake sale can help.  Don't be fooled into thinking that you are "just one person" and cannot help!  This particular organization has a set up to allow everyone to do something in an easy and pretty quick way!  🙂

    I am working on setting up our Sheer Goddess Great American Bake Sale page and I urge each of you to do the same.  It only takes a few minutes, it doesn't cost anything to participate (especially if you choose to do the virtual bake sale option  – then it will only cost you some of your time), and the rewards of your participation will feed a child.  Light up some candles, call upon your favorite lwa, and tell them what you are doing as a service to them and your fellow human beings.  :-)  

    If you cannot participate, I will be publicizing our Great American Bake Sale page and taking donations for a virtual bake sale over the next couple of days.  :-)  Like I said, even if you can only donate a dollar or two, it will add up!  As for my local gals and guys - Matt, Berkeley, Debie, Travis, Eshita, Eileen, Cindy, Darla, Jeanne, Ronda…and whomever I forgot,  you know who you are – haha – we WILL be doing a real bake sale coming up soon!  So start getting your recipes on! 

    Love, Mambo Sam

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  • Voodoo Debt Eliminator!

    Since I am a former letter carrier I could not help but sharing this one.  (So that is why I have back trouble!)

    Howtodealwithbills

  • Focused Meditation

    Hello everyone!  Very often clients tell me that they have trouble focusing when doing the "reflection" part of their love spell work.  They find that their mind wanders and they don’t feel that they are focused enough on what they are trying to do. 

    The article below by Kathy Glass, M.S. instructs on how to do focused meditation. I have added some notes here and there to illustrate how one might use this to focus on their petitions for spell work.  Additionally, using this exercise just to learn to focus, without involving your spell work at all, will help you when you DO go back to your spell work. 

    FOCUSED MEDITATION

    This type of meditation involves focusing on something intently as a way of staying in the present moment and turning off your internal dialogue. Many people find this type of meditation easier to practice than classic meditation where you focus on nothing to quiet your mind. With focused meditation, you can choose to focus on almost anything that involves the senses, including sounds, visual pieces, tactile sensations, tastes and smells, and even the your own breathing! Here’s how:

    Here’s How:

    Choose a target for your focus. The sound of a metronome, the smell of incense, or a pleasing picture are all popular choices.  Get into a comfortable position, and relax your body. Turn your attention to your chosen target, and take in the sensation it provides. Focus on the sound, smell, sight, etc. and simply experience what it has to offer. The idea is not to think about it, but simply to experience it, being fully present in the moment.   Mambo’s Note:  If you are doing spell work and using this exercise to focus on your petition or goal for the spell work, you could use either a picture that represents the successful outcome of your spell work to you.  You could also use the product you are using as the focal point – candle, doll, talisman, etc.  In this way you can allow yourself to relax into the meditation and simply focus on the outcome.  This is not to say that this replaces the rest of what you do in the spell work, but is a way to help you focus on the outcome.

    1. If your internal voice starts to analyze it, or begins to rehash stressful situations of the day, worry about the future, make a list for grocery shopping, or anything else, gently turn your attention back to your chosen target and the sensation it provides. Let your mind stay quiet and clear.
    2. If you find your mind engaging you and realize that you’re not being fully present with the sensations of your chosen target, don’t let your inner perfectionist beat you up for ‘doing it wrong’; simply congratulate yourself for noticing, and return back to the present moment and the sensations it has to offer.
    3. That’s it. It may sound a little strange or difficult to understand as you’re reading this, but as you practice this type of meditation, it will become easier and make more sense. The more you practice, the more benefits you will experience. Enjoy!

    Tips:

    1. Give it time. Meditation often takes practice. If you’re expecting to do it ‘perfectly’, you may actually create more stress for yourself than you relieve, and you won’t want to stick with it.
    2. Start with shorter sessions—like five minutes—and work your way up to longer sessions—like 30. With practice, this type of meditation becomes easier and more effective.
    3. If the experience is frustrating for you and you don’t really want to continue, you may find more success with other types of meditation.

    What You Need:

    • Some quiet, private time.
    • Comfortable clothes.
    • A willing attitude and an open mind.

    End of Article

    Focusing on a goal, petition, or reflection during spell work is often the biggest challenge that my clients have to overcome.  Doing this exercise will definitely help you if lack of focus is a challenge that you have.

    Love, Mambo