Tag: real love spells

  • Setting Goals

    Hello everyone!  The article below by Kevin Kearns is actually an article outlining a way to reach business goals.  I could not help but notice the parallel between success in business and success in spell work!  Although I did have to laugh at the "No Magic" clause below.  😉

    Now that we are more than halfway through our 20th anniversary year, we, too, are looking at our own goals for the next 20 years! 

    The article is based on the time-honored tradition of being S.M.A.R.T. about goal setting.  Of course it isn't all germane to spell work, but certainly it can help you get organized and think about your spell work goals in an attainable way.

    Enjoy!

    Love, Mambo Sam

    www.spellmaker.com

    Top 7 Tips for Reaching Your Goals

    By Kevin Kearns

    Setting goals comes with the terrain for most leaders. You set goals for yourself, work with your team on setting their goals, and some of you, I know, work with your kids on setting goals. After all, in one form or another, goal setting is the practice of successful people. Unfortunately, the act of goal setting by itself does not guarantee goal achievement. Along with your determination, these seven tips can turn your goal setting into goal getting.

    1. Be S.M.A.R.T.: Set S.M.A.R.T. goals. This goal setting acronym approach has been around for a long time and it still works! You increase your odds of reaching your goal if you answer yes to all of these as you set it:

      · Specific – have I described details rather than general ideas of the goal?

      · Measurable – can someone else measure and see that I reached my goal?

      · Attainable – is this goal actually reachable?

      · Realistic – even if it is reachable, is it realistic that I am willing to do what it takes to reach it.

      · Timeline – do I have a deadline for reaching this goal?

    2. Document: If it’s not documented, it’s not going to happen. Most leaders learn quickly (often the hard way,) if it isn’t documented it didn’t happen. Goal setting is similar, it must be documented. The act of writing your goal down creates a sense of commitment and also allows you to read it. Reading your goal gives your mind more confidence that achieving it is possible. We tend to believe what we read, that is why magazines like The Globe can sell stories about aliens abducting Bigfoot. Write your goals down and look at them frequently.
    3. Why Me!?: Why is the goal important to you? Think about what benefits the goal offers you. What rewards are associated with reaching this goal? Do you want those rewards? If not, you are not going to stay committed to reaching the goal. The bigger the why, the greater chance of success. If your why is big enough, you will usually figure out the how. It is up to you to discover a why that makes you want to achieve the goal.
    4. No Magic: Resist magically turning excuses into reasons. I have witnessed people magically turn what appeared to be an excuse into a perfectly justifiable reason for not achieving a goal. This powerful magic trick can only be reversed by the magician who performed it. We are all amateur magicians in that sense. We are all guilty of accepting situations as final and giving up on goals. If we want to reach goals (especially those worthwhile difficult goals) we must fight the urge to perform and leave the magic to Penn & Teller.
    5. Habit Forming: Make goal setting a regular part of your life. Much like a successful diet, goal setting works best when it becomes part of the fabric of your life. Yo-yo dieting is a huge issue in the United States. People get motivated to lose weight, so they start the latest fad diet. After a few weeks (or even hours in some cases) we find ourselves on the downward spin of the yo-yo. The people that have had the most success with losing weight long-term are the ones who have made a healthy diet permanent part of their life – not a temporary prison sentence they are waiting to get paroled from. The same can be seen with goal setting. The more a part of your life it is, the easier it becomes and the greater your success.
    6. Get Help: Have a coach help you through the process. If you are pursuing a large or long-term goal, you may benefit from the support of a coach. Depending on the importance of the goal, this can be a professional coach or even a trusted co-worker or friend. A good coach will support you, while at the same time holding you accountable to do your best. In most cases, it is wise to not share your goal with everyone. Many people love to pick goals apart and you may find yourself using your energy to defend your ability to reach your goal instead of using it to achieve your goal. A safe, trusted advisor may be just what you need to reach your goal, but choose wisely.
    7. Impress Yourself: Set goals that impress you. When we start to walk as small children, every step is applauded. This constant positive reinforcement is used to encourage our desire and persistence to walk. Eventually, they stop clapping. This is because you have moved beyond walking and onto more difficult physical challenges. As a leader, you have likely achieved a level of success at work. In order to stay sharp and continue to grow, your goals must progress beyond your current status. It is more important that your goals impress you, than impress others. Michael Jordan did not become the “Michael Jordan” by limiting himself to what impressed others.

      Take the wisdom in these tips and strengthen your goal setting techniques. Improved goal setting will lead you to great achievements. How great? Well, that is up to you. The funny thing about goals is, the more goals you get, the more goals you want to get.

    20thanniversary

  • Who put the work in spell work?

    “Opportunity is missed by most people because it comes dressed in overalls and looks like work.”

    — Thomas Edison

    Greetings, everyone!  Hope you are all ready fo a great weekend!  I know we have talked about this before – the work of spellwork!  However, I do think the subject can be revisited over and over again and still be of value!

    All too often I hear people say that they think things like our spell kits are "just too much work." It is always a sigh-inducing, eye-rolling moment for me because that statement generally comes from someone who just told me they would do ANYTHING to get Jack (or Jill) back into their lives.  Of course we offer solo castings with most of our spells (where I do the work for you), and that is a fine choice for those who are truly too busy (lots of folks working two jobs these days!)  or do not have the privacy to do spell work.

     However, I fear that sometimes people choose the solo casting just because they think doing their own spell work is just too much work!  That is troubling because in the category of "doing anything" to get Jack or Jill back in  your life could involve some work!

    It could involve spell work!  It could involve working on yourself.  It could involve working on your relationship, but if you aren't invested enough in the relationship to do some work on it, why do you want that relationship in the first place?  I dont' have the answer to that – but I do think it is something worth thinking about!

    And let's not get confused about you good folks who occasionally need a break from spell work or adjunct work!   There are those who just don't want to do another doll session or light another candle… they are just sick of spell work at the moment. 

    Now that is something different!  Sometimes a little break from spell work is a good thing.  It gives you time to refresh your spirit,look at the spellwork with fresh eyes, and regain your energy.  The best way to take a break from spell work is during the break to assess the break itself; are you feeling good about the break?  Are you feeling that this is a time for you to renew yourself and your purpose? The biggest danger in taking a break sometimes comes in the form of not knowing when the break should be over.

    I always tell the folks to whom I recommend a break to be on the look out for signs that their break is over.  If you are longing for your voodoo doll, or you start to miss the comfort and ritual of your candle magick, or you feel an incredible pull back into the work - those kinds of things are clear signs that your break is over!

    Lately I have been literally bombarded with stories of clients and the success of their spellwork!  :-)  Needless to say, that is always amazingly awesome to hear!  As I have mentioned before, I do notice a very common thread in these success stories – these are very often folks who were dedicated to that work, had a real heart for it, and stuck to their guns even in the face of adversity.  Their success is inspiring!

    So if the spellwork is seeming too much like work, then yes, take a small break, but never take your eye off the prize! 😉  If it is worth having, it is worth working for!

    Love,light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com


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  • Friggatriskaidekaphobia – BOO!

    Happy Friday everyone!  And certainly Happy Friday the 13th!  :-)  Ah, the stuff from which movies are made.

    I actually remembering seeing the first of the Friday the 13th movies.  At that time, it was a pretty ground-breaking movie!  In my particular part of the country, New Orleans at that time, there was a very lively audience.  People were actually running screaming out of the theatre!  I don't think that happens too much anymore – too many things have happened to jade us about being afraid like that. However, at the time, a particular group of ladies of a certain age (who knows why the heck they were at that movie anyway) were sitting behind us in the theatre.  They were the first to go – knocking over other patrons seated near them and bounding down the theatre aisles, screaming, "Oh Lord, Oh God, get me out of here."  ;-)  No, I am not even kidding.

    Anyway, a few days ago I posted something about living in fear and how I don't want you to do that to yourself!  However, there is also the realization that we are all afraid of SOMETHING!  Me, not too fond of heights or close places.  I am not sure if I am afraid of clowns or just don't like them, but they do absolutely creep me out.  I love the Cirque du Soleil shows that Matt and I have seen in Las Vegas, and it seems that sophisticated clowns do not creep me out.  LOL. 

    Then, of course, there are more soul-trembling fears, those things that go beyond just creepy-crawly fears; there is the fear that the world will never come to peace again, fear that children will always be starving, fear that some people will never "get it", fear that someone will always be mistreating a pet, fear of America's disrespect for their elderly, fear that our educational system will never improve, and so forth and so on.

    What do you fear?  Do you think your fears are irrational, but you have them just the same?  Or do you think that your fears are pretty well grounded?  Do you know the root of your fear or is it something that just seemed to "pop up?"  (That's me with my "fear" of clowns, I swear I don't know why!)

    Enjoy your Friday the 13th! 

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

  • Is your spellwork too much work?

    “Opportunity is missed by most people because it comes dressed in overalls and looks like work.”

    Thomas Edison

    Greetings, everyone!  I know we have talked about this before – the work of spellwork!  However, I do think the subject can be revisited over and over again and still be of value!

    All too often I hear people say that they think things like our spell kits are "just too much work." It is always a sign-inducing, eye-rolling moment for me because that statement generally comes from someone who just told me they would do ANYTHING to get Jack (or Jill) back into their lives.  But that is an extreme example – there are also smaller examples:  Those folks who just don't want to do another doll session or light another candle… they are just sick of spell work at the moment. 

    Now that is something different!  Sometimes a little break from spell work is a good thing.  It gives you time to refresh your spirit,look at the spellwork with fresh eyes, and regain your energy.  The best way to take a break from spell work is during the break to assess the break itself; are you feeling good about the break?  Are you feeling that this is a time for you to renew yourself and your purpose? The biggest danger in taking a break sometimes comes in the form of not knowing when the break should be over.

    I always tell the folks to whom I recommend a break to be on the look out for signs that their break is over.  If you are longing for your voodoo doll, or you start to miss the comfort and ritual of your candle magick, or you feel an incredible pull back into the work - those kinds of things are clear signs that your break is over!

    Lately I have been literally bombarded with stories of clients and the success of their spellwork!  :-)  Needless to say, that is always amazingly awesome to hear!  As I have mentioned before, I do notice a very common thread in these success stories – these are very often folks who were dedicated to that work, had a real heart for it, and stuck to their guns even in the face of adversity.  Their success is inspiring!

    So if the spellwork is seeming too much like work, then yes, take a small break, but never take your eye off the prize! 😉

    Love,light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

     

  • Yes You Can!

    CAN'T – A POEM BY EDGAR GUEST

    Can't is the worst word that's written or spoken;
    Doing more harm here than slander and lies;
    On it is many a strong spirit broken,
    And with it many a good purpose dies.
    It springs from the lips of the thoughtless each
    morning
    And robs us of courage we need through the
    day:
    It rings in our ears like a timely-sent warning
    And laughs when we falter and fall by the
    way.

    Can't is the father of feeble endeavor,
    The parent of terror and half-hearted work;
    It weakens the efforts of artisans clever,
    And makes of the toiler an indolent shirk.
    It poisons the soul of the man with a vision.

    It stifles in infancy many a plan;
    It greets honest toiling with open derision
    And mocks at the hopes and the dreams of a
    man.

    Can't is a word none should speak without
    blushing;
    To utter it should be a symbol of shame;
    Ambition and courage it daily is crushing;
    It blights a man's purpose and shortens his
    aim.
    Despise it with all of your hatred of error;
    Refuse it the lodgment it seeks in your brain;
    Arm against it as a creature of terror,
    And all that you dream of you some day shall
    gain.

    Can't is the word that is foe to ambition,
    An enemy ambushed to shatter your will;
    Its prey is forever the man with a mission
    And bows but to courage and patience and
    skill.
    Hate it, with hatred that's deep and undying,
    For once it is welcomed 'twill break any
    man;
    Whatever the goal you are seeking, keep trying
    And answer this demon by saying: "I can."

    "End of Poem"—————————————

    Happy Sunday one and all!  Remember that you CAN! Whatever it is, you truly can do it. I really enjoy this poem because of it's strength in railing against the "can't" attitude.  Written in the 1800's well before the "new age" movement of watered down affirmations, this tells us to HATE the word "can't," to fight against it!

    I love that! Now don't get me wrong, I love a good affirmation as well as the next person – but there is something wonderfully invigorating about this poem and it's healthy hatred of the word can't! 🙂

     Love,light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

  • Love Poems as Petitions

    Hello everyone! I hope your weekend is going great! A lot of times I hear from clients that they feel like they are running out of things to say during their petitions; that perhaps they are just saying things by rote and they seem to have lost their zing!

    One thing I encourage people to do is write a nice poem and make that their petition. But not everyone is a poet! 🙂 That is okay, a quick search on the internet for "love poems" will yield you a treasure trove of good (and some not so good) love poems.

    Back in the days of chat class, we talked a bit about how rhythm and cadence and rhyme exist in almost all spell work. Poetry, of course, falls right into that category! A great number of love poems seem like they were written for spell work! 🙂 Take this one for instance:
    A Special World


    A special world for you and me
    A special bond one cannot see
    It wraps us up in its cocoon
    And holds us fiercely in its womb.


    Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
    Gently nestling us to the fold
    Like silken thread it holds us fast
    Bonds like this are meant to last.


    And though at times a thread may break
    A new one forms in its wake
    To bind us closer and keep us strong
    In a special world, where we belong.

    – Sheelagh Lennon –

    This poem would be lovely to use with your love doll Or just imagine using this when doing candle magick work, especially if you were doing work with candles representing each of you! Oh or even during something such as a love bath! It would be wonderful.

    Even if this poem is not your cup of tea, that is fine. There are tons of them out there or write your own. It is not that the poem is meant to replace regular petitioning, but it could certainly spice up and strengthen it.

    As I find more good ones, I will certainly post them here!

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

    Love-poems

  • What Does Spring Mean to You?

    Happy Monday, everyone!

    Another spring is upon us! What does that mean for you? 🙂 (And that is besides sneezing, runny nose, and itchy eyes! LOL.)


    I love spring and for me it always mean “renewal.” I try to think of new ways to look at things – where can I seek a fresh perspective on an old problem? Are there projects that I abandoned and might still be worthy of finishing? What about my attitude? Might I need an attitude adjustment coming out of the winter and into the spring sunshine?


    This is just such a wonderful time to think about renewal, rebirth, cleansing, getting a fresh start, etc. Sometimes this is a great time to get a “fresh start” even on something that you have been working on for a long time!!


    For instance, have you been doing spell work on a particular subject for what seems like a really long time? Sometimes we begin to lose perspective on that subject because we have been working at it for so long. We may have been doing so much work on it that we are now just going through the motions of the work! That is something to be on the look out for!!!


    If you have been doing your spell work for quite awhile now and you aren’t quite where you want to be, I suggest taking a little break from your work! Unless you are in the middle of one of the Creole Voodoo™ spell kits that you have to do nine days in a row with, it isn’t a bad idea sometimes to take a little break!


    For some people, just taking a few days off of working on that particular goal can bring about fresh perspective, renewed energy, etc. It can be helpful during that break to perhaps do a little bit of work on yourself – some cleansing with something such as the Milk of Damballah™ white bath, white male or female candles,, etc. can renew your spirit, resolve, and vigor greatly!!!


    It is just as important to keep yourself fresh and renewed in your spell work as it is to continue to work towards your goal. If you are worn out and feeling sort of “autumnal” – perhaps doing some spring cleaning on your spirit might be just the thing to shake your energy and your case up!


    Love, light, peace, and Happy Spring,

    Mambo Sam
    Greenborder

  • Happy St. Patrick’s Day and Sobo Ritual Day!

    Happy St. Patrick’s Day and Luck o’the Irish to ya!

    Teddybearinclover



    Of course we are doing the wonderful Sobo ritual today! 🙂 We will definitely post pictures! We cannot wait to get started and hope that all of your petitions are answered.


    We will be working with Sobo, Damballah, and, of course, dear St. Patrick today, working towards wealth and security and luck for everyone who has asked us to petition on their behalf.


    Even if you are not able to do the ritual today, take a little bit of time to say a prayer, or light a candle, or just wish good thoughts to those who are in need. Obviously, many of us are being affected by this economy. Some people are much worse off than others, though, and our hearts and prayers go out to them first.


    St. Patrick’s Day is a fun holiday and so it is a great time to put out positive energy and positive thoughts towards things! It is pretty easy to imagine that pot of gold at the end of EVERYONE’S rainbow!! So put that great spin on everything today – luck and wealth for all!


    Off we go to get the ritual started!


    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield


    Potogoldwithclover

  • What Do We Deserve?

    Hello everyone!
    What do we "deserve?" The dictionary definition of "deserve" goes like this:
    To earn by service; to be worthy of (something due, either good or evil); to merit; to be entitled to; as, the laborer deserves his wages; a work of value deserves praise. To serve; to treat; to benefit. To be worthy of recompense; — usually with ill or with well.

    Many times clients tell me that they "deserve" something; to be treated better by their partner, to have a better life, to have more money, etc. I recently asked a client why they felt that they deserved what they were asking me to help them obtain. I only asked the question because I am hearing a LOT lately about what people think they deserve!

    I have clients tell me, "I was a good mother to my children, now I deserve some happiness in my life." Now this one always give me cause to pause. If you decided to have children, shouldn't you be a good mother?? Does being a good mother cause you to "deserve" some sort of reward for that? Or is being a good mother part of the idea of having children? Are the children the reward? Do you deserve "more" because you were a good mother? Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying one does or does not deserve something because of being a good mother. I am actually asking you, my readers, to weigh in on this!

    Another thing I hear is, "I was a good wife to my husband. He left me anyway and now I deserve something better." So again, I feel like, well, if you are going to be a wife, should you not be a good one? Does your being a good wife mean you now deserve something better?

    Then there is the, "I am a good person, I deserve good things in my life." Okay… so you are a decent human being. Shouldn't you be? Really, isn't it up to all of us to be, at the very least, a decent human being? Should there be a decent human being award? Now if by being a good person you mean you do works of charity, help the homeless and poor, and give freely of your time to the assistance of others, then, yes, maybe there is a merit badge for that! Maybe you are more "deserving" than someone who doesn't do those things. But if you are just sitting around, living your life, minding your own business, and not harming anyone else, I am not sure that means you "deserve" more than another "good person" who happens to be starving to death in Africa.

    By the beginning of the definition of "deserve" above, to "earn by service" who amongst us is "deserving?" Should we be "earning" what we "deserve?" How do we earn it? I didn't say I had answers to these questions, maybe I just have questions! 😉

    I do know that it is really starting to make me uneasy how many people lately are telling me what they deserve. When I ask them why, they generally get pissed off at me, so I am thinking that is probably not the best approach. 🙂 But I am truly curious about the sense of entitlement some people seem to have; like the world owes them something: The mother who was good to her children (so was raising the children so horrible that she now deserves a reward for it?); the spouse who was good, etc. Because we went through tough times, does that mean we are now somehow entitled to a reward? Was our "tough time" worse than someone else's? IS there a reward for tough times?

    I DO get that we are all filled with books and talk shows and self-help gurus telling us how to feel good about our own self-worth, how to manifest our destiny, how to think positively about ourselves and our goals. But does that mean we necessarily "deserve" them OR are we in some way supposed to earn that which we think we deserve?

    Now, most of you are working on spell work from us, and we here at Spellmaker always want you to reach your goal! Most of my thought process above does not come from me thinking that you don't "deserve" to reach your goal! 🙂 Not at all! But I am concerned that just thinking that you "deserve" something is not enough to bring it to you! I am worried that too much thought of "well, I deserve this" is somewhat counterproductive and makes us all work a little less harder to achieve what we want!

    To say the least, I have really mixed emotions about this! I would love to hear your opinion!

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield

  • Top 10 Things You Don’t Know About My Wife!

    Of course you all know my wife, the delectable Mambo Sam. But I think there are few things you don't know about her:

    10. She types in her sleep, literally. I guess all those hours on the computer just go to bed with her.

    9.   She plays a mean "Guitar Hero."

    8.   She is not as tough-skinned as you think she is.

    7.   She can't cast her fishing line very far but always catches the biggest fish. (Wait a minute, I think she made me say that.  I am sure I caught the biggest fish last time. No, I am mistaken, SHE caught the biggest fish.)

    6.   She worries, thinks about, stews over clients just about every waking moment.

    5.   She cannot be beat at Scrabble.

    4.   She can cook eggs at least 20 different ways (all good).

    3.   She will do almost anything to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

    2.   She can shoot straight if she doesn't have to shoot too far.

    1.   ….it really IS from "The Chambers of the Enchantress."  (If you don't know what that means, I guess you will just have to stick around and be a Spellmaker client longer!)

    Have fun out there people!

    Parran Matt