Tag: love spells

  • Quote for today 😉

    here is one more quote I couldn't  resist passing along……..


    Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
    — Marie Curie


    Have a great Monday!
    Light and Love
    Sister Bridget

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  • Rescue Remedy.

    Happy Saturday, everyone!

    Do you know about Rescue Remedy(tm)? This is a flower essence herbal remedy by the Bach company that helps calm, soothe, and generally relax you. It has been around for many years, and there is even a pet version that we often give to Mojo, our dog, because he is a little hyper!


    I mention it here because I know that so many people are stressed these days. You may be working on a difficult case with your love spell work, finances might be tight, jobs in question, etc. All of these stressors can often send us straight to the doctor where we walk away with a fist full of prescriptions to get us through the day. Anxiety and depression are at an all time high right now in America.


    Of course, I am not saying that a little flower essence is all you need, but if you are stressed out, depressed, etc., you might want to consider getting a bottle of Rescue Remedy and trying it out. It has the nicest calming effect. If you are calm and relaxed, certainly your love spell work has a better chance of working out for you. If you are depressed, anxious, and crying all the time, that is the kind of energy you are putting into your spell work.


    I copied this from the Rescue Remedy website:

    “If you feel like you’ve “had enough”, follow these simple tips to restore focus and regain inner calm wherever you are:


    • Relax – Take 10 deep breaths. Inhale deeply and exhale slowly.
    • Exercise – Learn some basic yoga techniques or just take a 10 minute walk.
    • Smile – Think of a happy time. It is near impossible to keep frowning while smiling and laughter stimulates the production of mood enhancing endorphins.
    • Calm – Let your imagination take you to a calm and tranquil place that exudes peace, serenity and beauty.
    • Use Your Lunchbreak – Take time out for yourself. A walk in the park, especially if it is sunny, can do wonders for your mood. It will help you work more efficiently in the afternoon too.
    • Escape – If you are able to, walk away. Removing yourself from a stressful situation can give you time to restore some perspective.”


    It is good advice!


    Sometimes we get so wrapped up in trying to achieve our spell work goals that we forget to take care of US, take care of how we feel, take care of how we are reacting to our lives. Our reaction to the events in our lives can actually change the next set of events. If you continue to feel like you have nothing but bad things happening to you, and you don’t feel like you see a way out, then you probably will not be presented with a solution. However, if you can put things in perspective and tell yourself that you KNOW there is a solution to the problem, you just need to find it, then you are setting yourself up to be open to potentials and prospects!


    I really wanted to let you all know about this little bit of “peace in a bottle” called Rescue Remedy. I have recommended it to some of you personally but wanted to get it out there in a bigger way. Some of you have let me know that you used it, for instance, before a Milk of Damballah(tm) white bath and felt that it helped you get a better result from it!


    Another person I recommended it to told me that she used it before every love spell work session. She reported that she felt better, didn’t feel like crying through the spell work, and overall felt that she had made a better environment for her spell work!


    One client told me that she even used it when doing her deluxe love doll. She took a few drops herself and then put a drop on the doll and petitioned that her HD would be calm and collected and thinking straight the next time she saw him (he has an anxiety disorder). She swears that it worked!!! I don’t have personal experience with that aspect of using it, but I can’t see that she had any reason to lie!


    Have any of you out there used Rescue Remedy? Did you use it in conjunction with your spell work or adjunct work?? We would love to hear from you about it!


    Love,

    Mambo Sam

  • Are you determined to be negative?

    Hello everyone!

    There seems to be a trend that I have noticed lately. This trend is not just among clients, but among other people that I see and deal with on a day-to-day basis. I don’t know if this trend is due to the economy, winter blues, or what, but there seems to be a certain faction of people who are just determined to have a negative attitude no matter what!


    Caseworkers have drawn my attention to this with some of their clients, but I had actually noticed it already. For some people, no matter how much we counsel them, they are determined to turn what we say into a something negative. For instance, if I tell a client in a reading that I don’t see the HD calling them tomorrow, they will turn around and say, “I bet he will never call me.” Or if the HD doesn’t want to see them right now because the spells are being processed: “Oh he never wants to see me and I don’t think he will ever come and see me again.”


    It is frustrating to try to counsel and help a person who can only see a negative outcome. Plus, somehow, they cannot seem to understand how only seeing a negative outcome will breed, of course, a negative outcome. If you constantly are talking about, expecting, and assuming that you will have a negative outcome, how can you have anything but that? You are not just shooting yourself in the foot, you just shot your foot OFF!


    Look, I know it is hard to remain positive sometimes. We all have negative moments, sad thoughts, fears that things won’t work out. However, when you allow all of that to become a lifestyle or an expectation, you are doing yourself a huge disservice. If you have spent time and money and effort on spell work, you are doing yourself an even bigger disservice. I had a client tell me one time that she didn’t want to think of the possibility of a good outcome from her spell work becaues she didn’t want to “get my hopes up and then be disappointed.” Okay, I get that. But, what kind of energy did she put out there: “Well, this probably won’t work, but I will try it anyway.”


    Is that how you are approaching your spell work? If so, I totally agree that you will probably get a negative result. That is a shame! So many of you have become steeped in such negativity and assurance that you will fail that we are left to sit an watch you plunge head long right into disasister. It is painful to watch.


    I really want to encourage you to try to find a way to look towards things (at least a little bit of the time) in a positive manner. If you truly cannot find anything positive in your life or you are so depressed that you do not see a chance for any happiness in your life, then I encourage you to seek professional help. Here at Spellmaker, all we want is the best for you. We want you to succeed. We want you to have the fairy tale ending. Don’t fight it! Let it happen!!!


    You know, being negative is easy. We are almost bred to it! When you go into a bookstore, you don’t see rows and rows of books on how to be negative. What you do see are rows and rows of books about positive thinking, having a winning attitude, etc. As humans we seem to need that kind of help and positive reinforcement!


    I know it isn’t easy to pull yourself out of a negative state of being, but trying is half the battle! Do some of you have tips for what you do when you feel negativity creeping into your life? We would love to hear them here!


    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Sam

  • Heating up for the Erzulie Ritual!

    Greetings everyone!
    It is just a little over a week (I can't believe how time flies!) to go until we start our annual Valentine's Ritual to Erzulie Freda here in the Spellmaker office! If you haven't gotten your ritual request in, please hurry up and do so. Just see the page at www.spellmaker.com/erzulie.htm for instructions on how to submit your letter. It's free, it's fun, it's fabulous!

    For some, this time of year is terribly dreaded. All those happy couples, Valentine's decorations, hearts and flowers just about everywhere can sometimes serve to make those who are facing this holiday alone just feel terrible. That is one of the reasons why we do the Erzulie ritual directly on Valentine's day. So if you don't have a date, you sure do have a date with us!

    Sure, we know it is easy to say it is a cheesy holiday just giving the greeting card companies another way to sell us another $5.00 card. It's easy to say you don't believe in it or wouldn't celebrate it anyway if you were with someone. But for most of us, if we are alone, we still feel pangs of pain in our hearts despite what our lips might say.

    If you feel like the idea of another Valentine's Day makes you want to run and hide, make a plan to spend the day thinking about your own ritual to Erzulie, shopping for what you need, setting everything up, etc. Make the day special to yourself in preparation for the day when someone else will make it special for you.

    Please remember that we are here for you! If you are feeling lonely, tired of being alone, or just plain stressed out over a Valentine's Day spent alone, please write to your caseworker. Tell your caseworker how you are feeling and spend some time discussing how you will spend the day and how you will make it special for yourself.

    So besides doing the Erzulie Valentine's Ritual with us (because I KNOW you are!), what other tips do you have for people spending this day alone? What else can you do to make this day special for yourself?

    I look forward to hearing from you all!

    Love to all,
    Mambo Sam
    Wingedheart

  • Facebook Fun!

    Hello everyone!

    Any Facebook fans out there?? 🙂 I admit to having been somewhat bewildered at the popularity of Facebook when I first heard of it. However, after some time of exploring it and seeing so many friends, family, and client on there I decided to take a stab at it!


    It is fun and quirky and interesting to me. It is great to connect with everyone and see what is happening in their lives.


    I even made my first “app” for all of us to use to send lwa to each other! I even blessed the app, which may sound silly, but I chose all the pictures very carefully and sent my best possible blessings into each one in hopes that we could all help each other by sending different lwa to each other. 🙂


    We now even have a Spellmaker page on Facebook where you can become a fan of Spellmaker! It’s fun and it is a great way for all of us to stay in touch.


    So if you have been avoiding the whole Facebook scene, come see us, join us, and have some fun with us!


    Love,

    Mambo Sam

  • Gossip Girl

    Okay, okay… I confess, I have never seen the show “Gossip Girl” but I love the name of it! Or maybe I hate the name of it. I am not sure! LOL.


    On a more serious note, I have talked about this before on our forum (which is soon to be resurrected, by the way!), and even in person at conferences and lave tets: There is an unfortunate side effect to having friends that you made through Spellmaker – either you met them online or in person, doesn’t matter. What ends up happening is that you talk too much about your spell casting work!


    But, Mambo, you ask me, what’s wrong with that? Well, plenty. You know how in the spell casting instructions it pretty clearly states that you should tell no one of your spell work? There is a good reason for that. Unfortunately, talking about it too much, even to those you think support you, can often have an adverse effect.


    The first thing is that discussing it too much makes you tend to dissect it: What did you do, Susie Spellmaker Friend? Oh, I didn’t do that, I did this. Maybe I should have done what you did, SSF. Or maybe you should have done what I did, SSF. Oh, SSF, my HD called me. SSF says: Oh big deal, that doesn’t mean anything. You say: But I thought it was a good sign. SSF says: You put too much into it. Don’t let him take advantage of you, calling whenever he wants. You say: Is this spell work really working? SSF says: Maybe. Maybe not.


    My point is that very often SSF actually is jealous of your progress, or doesn’t interpret the spell work the way you do, or just plain old isn’t actually a “friend.” We have such a loose interpretation of what a friend is these days. Someone we meet on the internet and have a little something in common with is suddenly the definition of “friendship.”


    I find this especially true, unfortunately, of my female clients. They want to compare spellcasting notes with their SSF’s, pour over what is happening to them, lament the state of their case, cry on each other’s shoulders, etc., etc., etc. Frankly, I think it is detrimental to your spell work. I have tried to tell some people this and am met with a fairly chilly reception and THEN am told I am wrong. Well, guess what, I can’t be wrong because I crafted your spellwork. I created the very place where you met SSF.


    Look, I am not trying to say you shouldn’t talk to your personal SSF, but what I am saying is that you should try to keep the talk down that dissects your personal spell work and its results. You are truly doing yourself a disservice in that you might be wrecking your own work by putting doubt into it or worrying about the fact that SSF got some kind of result that YOU were hoping for and you are still waiting. Or SSF seems to be in one disaster after another and is dragging you in with her. Yes, keep your SSF! But think about the discussions you are having – are they truly helping you? Are those discussions truly supportive? Do you come away from talking to SSF feeling BETTER or WORSE?


    The main thing that prompted me to write this post is that I have received some pretty emotional letters from some of you regarding your SSF and a relationship with her that has gone terribly wrong or is counterproductive. One thing I do recommend is that if you have an SSF and you feel like the relationship isn’t doing either one of you any good, you should talk to her! Tell her how you feel. If she is truly your friend, then she will work with you to salvage the relationship and keep it healthy. If she is not your friend, you will know it right away and should just cut your losses.


    Sorry for shooting straight from the hip on this one, but I just thought you should all think about it!


    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Sam

  • “with alacrity”

    Greetings everyone!

    Although I am not a huge sports fan (my favorite players for all sports are my grandsons!), my husband Matt and I do enjoy watching the Superbowl with family. Generally we root for whomever my son and grandsons are rooting for! (Sigh – Arizona.)


    During the Superbowl, one of the announcers said that a player consistently did something “with alacrity.” One of my grandsons asked me what that meant. So I told him: Cheerfully, quickly, with enthusiasm. “We wish you would get ready for bed with alacrity.” 😉


    After we talked about it a bit it made me think about how often a client will tell me that they did their spell work because they “thought they had to.” I will then hear how they resented having to do spell work on their target in the first place. Then later on I might hear how I made spells too hard, and why do they have to do all that work to get what they want?


    Granted, no one is going to be 100% enthusiastic about doing their spell work; it is after all “work.” But, we have to think about what kind of result we are looking for with spell work. What do you want in return? Do you want resentment? No? Then don’t put resentment into the work. So many people are always asking me, “Why am I the one who has to do all this work? Well, you are the one who wants what you want. That’s why. If you resent working for what you want, are you going to resent it when you get it?? If so, you are already dooming yourself and what you want to eventual failure. Remember, if you are doing spellwork to bring a particular someone special into your life, that someone special did not ask you to do spell work. That was your choice! 🙂


    So sometimes things are not so easy. Sometimes they take a lot of time. Sometimes they seem like they will NEVER pay off. 😉 But if you approach your work “with alacrity” you will always reap a reward: reaching your goal, strengthening your spirit, learning something new, etc. All of these are the result of approaching a goal with all you have in you!


    How do you do your spellwork and adjunct work? How do you keep your spirits up and your eye fixed firmly on the prize? Do you have some tips and tricks? Just reply into the comment link below!


    Love,

    Mambo Sam

  • Quote for today!

    Nothing is predestined:

     The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.

    ~~~Ralph Blum

    Lovebrids

     

  • Service to Erzulie Freda

    Erzuliekiss Hello everyone!
    Of course, we here at Spellmaker.com are gearing up for our annual Valentine's Day Service to the lovely Vodou love goddess,Erzulie Freda! Many of you have already sent in your petitions to be included in the free ritual. We are hoping that many more of you will!

    One thing I have noticed is that many of you are still worried that your service to Erzulie will not be "enough" for her. Certainly, it is understandable when working with the lwa who is known for loving opulence and luxury that one might have these concerns. Although I have tried to let people know that even the smallest service done with a good heart will be well received, there are still those who wish they could do more. 🙂

    I have some ideas for you! Remember that "luxury" can be a state of mind and an environment can be luxurious without being expensive. So first start thinking of the space that you will be doing your service in. If you purchased the one-day ritual kit or plan on doing the ritual as written on the website make whatever area you will be doing your service in as lovely as you can! Even if you temporarily use one of your own bed sheets as an altar cloth, that is okay because you can spray your perfume on it and make it something special.

    Set the mood for the ritual with any candles you have and put on romantic music or tune your radio to a soft rock or other type of station that plays the kind of music that would set the mood for romance.

    Do you have jewelry? You can put it on the altar and "give" it to Erzulie! That doesn't mean you can't wear it! Of course you can, but if you dedicate it to her, then you have given her something wonderful.

    Do you have old magazines laying around? Cut out pictures of beautiful things – jewelry, clothes, perfume, etc. Make a simple collage out of them and put them on your altar for her!

    How about the rest of you out there? What ideas do you have for serving Erzulie in a respectful, but economical, way? Just click on the little link below the post that says "comments" and leave us your suggestions!

    Love,
    Mambo Sam

  • Toxic Friendships

    Greetings everyone!

    I wanted to talk to you all a little bit about the friendships in your lives.  The work that I do for everyone puts me in a unique position to study relationship dynamics from many different points of view. I get to see people at their best and also at their worst.


    As the years have gone by I have noticed more and more that many of my clients have fallen prey to someone in their lives who was supposed to be a friend. Sadly, those who pose as friends and make us believe in them are the ones that we are most likely to allow to hurt us.


    Now don’t get me wrong! I am not proposing that every person who tries to be your friend has some ulterior motive and will in the end screw you over! That is not it at all. However, there are some categories of “friends” for which you should be on the look out.


    We all might have some of the characteristics outlined below. But if you have a friend that falls heavily into one of these categories, you should take steps to figure out if they are truly a friend, or are they someone who you really don’t need in your life. Most of the time we don’t realize until it is too late that we have involved ourselves with a Toxic Friend.

    Since women fall most prey to this type of friend, I will address it from a female point of view. Of course, these guys exist, too!


    • Connie Controller: This is the friend who cannot get out of a conversation without telling you, “You know what you ought to do….” and then proceeds to tell you how to run your life. Generally speaking, The Controller’s life is probably in a shambles and since she can’t control it, she will try to control yours. This is also the friend who has to say where the two of you will have lunch, what the dress code will be for going out, etc. Most of the time if this person is your friend, you have gotten used to her telling you what to do and you go along with her program without even noticing it.
    • My Idea Minnie: This friend cannot leave your idea or suggestion alone. If you say you want the two of you to bake chocolate chip cookies, she will want to bake chocolate chip MINT cookies. If you suggest something to her, she will generally negate it. A week, or month, or year later (when she figures you forgot about what you said), she will do the thing you suggested and claim that she came up with the idea or doesn’t know where she heard it. Maddening!
    • Polly Passive: But she is really aggressive. Most of us have experienced passive-aggressive behavior and at one time or another we have probably all fallen into doing it ourselves. However, if you have that friend who constantly manipulates you with passive-aggressive behavior prepare yourself for friendship misery. Polly Passive is often a do-gooder friend who will want to do all kinds of favors for you, seems to put herself last and everyone else first, UNTIL the day she wants to call in those favors. “Well, you know that I did work those extra hours at the office so you could go see your sick grandma, but that’s okay, I understand if you can’t lend me $10,000.00 to start my business.” Her other trick is to make you feel guilty and sorry for her. “Oh I don’t want to burden you with my problems.” Then of course, you fall into the trap of saying, “It’s okay, what’s going on?” You know the rest of that story.
    • Betty Blamer: This one always wants to know your opinion, wants to do what you want to do, always wants you to make the decisions. Of course, later on, when/if something goes wrong, she skillfully finds a way to remind you that it was YOUR decision that was wrong. You will never get her to make a decision because she likes to be blame free.
    • Cookie the Coveter: She always compliments you and tells you how lucky your are to have your car, job, husband, family,whatever. She oozes admiration and acts like your biggest fan. BUT she will always remind you how “lucky” you are, assuming that everything you have was handed to you on a silver platter. She is busy trying to figure out a way to get what YOU have vs. working towards getting something on her own. While the other toxic people may only be an annoyance, she will be much, much more if you don’t watch out for her.

    Just because someone may have some of these qualities doesn’t mean they aren’t worthy of your friendship. However, if you feel they are too toxic, find a way to start to spend less time with them.


    Of course, there are many, many more types of toxic friends. Which ones have you come across? How did you deal with it? Just answer in the comments section! I would love to hear from you about this subject and any tips you might have for how to deal with toxic friends in your life.


    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Sam