Hi everyone! Back to blogging! đ Since we deal, obviously, in a lot of relationship challenges, this article kind of blew my mind. What do you think?
Love, Mambo
Adultery between married partners: A recession strategy? Shared via AddThis
Tag: love spells
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Patience.
Hello everyone! Can't believe it is already July! :-) I know we have talked about the subject of patience before, but I ran across an article that I thought might be really helpful for everyone. Probably one of the biggest issues that I find with people who are trying spell casting is that they run out of patience before they can reach their goal. This is becoming more and more true.
Just by the very nature of our society with "instant messaging" abounding, we are all now seeming to expect that our lives will "instantly" manifest for us just in the way that we expect them to. Well, although technology has jetted us into some kind of alternate universe that we THINK we live in, guess what, the REAL universe hasn't changed that much. Life isn't an XBox game nor is it a Facebook page nor a tweet on Twitter. Those things are peripherals to the real life that still exists seemingly to be ignored by quite a few people.
More and more I hear from clients that they don't want to wait, they want everything now, and even the least amount of waiting sends some of them into an angry orbit. Some of the stress levels that I see from even the youngest clients worries me; I want to tell them just to slow down before God slows them down permanently. I just don't see how they can continue to live like this where everything is supposed to happen at the pace of a ding on their phone with yet another text message coming in.
A lot of people no longer seem to want to grow with the process; they don't want to improve themselves or their spirituality. They don't want to learn about themselves or, gasp, change anything about themselves. It is all about instant gratification; an eternal rat race to get more and better gratifications that in the long run turn out to be not at all what they thought it would be and so now we need a prescription to alter our minds and makes us think we are gratified. Slow down, people! Experience what is in your life – quit jumping from thing to thing looking for the bigger, better, faster "thing."
Don't get me wrong, I love the technology that allow us to communicate with each other and be in touch – if only it were truly used that way. Instead, I think it just gets to be information overload as we jump from one tweet to another without even a moment's consideration of feeling something about what we just read…. gotta get to the next tweet – it might be something even more important! It isn't the technology I have a problem with! I use it all. What I am concerned about is people's inability to get beyond this technology and remember to live their real lives.
Anyway, I think this short article is great and I have inserted some comments into it. Kudos to the author! I couldn't have said it better myself.
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfieldwww.spellmaker.com
THE ARTICLE
How To Develop Patience – by Steve Scoresby
In a world of instant gratification, people jump from "stimulus" to "response" without as much as a second thought. Patience is the "pause" in between that allows us to get the result we are really looking for. Here is how to develop more patience in your life.
Webster's defines patience as bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint, or being steadfast despite opposition, difficulty or adversity. I believe this why patience is called a virtue. It is little practiced, but much needed. At the first sign of difficulty, many jump to an easier, smoother path, hoping to avoid the pain and suffering that is necessary on the road to personal growth. But it is only by taking this rough road do we gain the experience necessary to develop our character. Impatience robs us of these types of life experiences. How would your world be different if you practiced more patience?
Patience is the ability to hang on when everyone else has given up. Patience is ability to release your need for immediate gratification and wait for the things to come in their own time frame. Patience overcomes criticism and intolerance. Patience develops committed relationships in marriage, family, church, community and career. Many a great leader have displayed patience by looking before they leaped, thinking before they acted, and considering before they decided. Patience is the mark of maturity. So now we know the virtues of patience, how do we develop more patience?
First, realize that no one is perfect, including yourself. Accept yourself and others, imperfections and all. Everyone is struggling with their own set of fears, weaknesses, obstacles and crises. We are all on the road of personal growth together and can help each other by showing more patience and kindness to each other.
>>> MAMBO'S NOTE: This is so true! So many times there seems to be a forgetfulness in people doing spell work that their HD might be going through something in their life, TOO. When it is pointed out, generally the response is that one doesn't care about that, just hurry up and get to me!
Second, develop a consistent philosophy of life based upon a value system you believe in. Then when you are confronted with a situation, you can make your choice based upon the value system rather than an instant gratification response. With every choice is a consequence. Do you act now and settle? Or do you wait to get the result you truly desire?Third, change your perspective on the past, present and the future. Stop dwelling on your mistakes and failures. They cannot be changed. Instead, focus and what you can do now to make a difference. Life is a blessing and each day should be lived as if it were your last. Start fresh everyday and remember the future comes one day at a time. What can you do today to change the results you have in the future?
Fourth, confront your fears rather than avoid them. Do the thing you fear the most and the fear will go away. "That which we persist in doing becomes easier to do, not that the nature of the thing has changed, but our ability to do it has increased." By doing more, it becomes easier, and when it becomes easier it becomes fun rather than stressful.
Finally, realize that all things come to those who wait. The Universe, the infinite force that connects us all, will bring the people who can help, the answers you may need, the tools and resources you are looking for when you need them. You must have faith and be patient and believe in your goals, realizing that they will often not be accomplished according to your original plans. Circumstances change. People change. Things change. Let go of your anxiety, disbelief and doubt about achieving your goal. Know that The Universe is constantly supporting you and will always help you achieve the things you desire. Just be patient!
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The “Good-Enough” Marriage????
Happy almost Friday, everyone! đ
Okay, so I am sure the title of this post has you wondering what the HECK Mambo is up to with that title? LOL. Well,it isn’t exactly my title. đ
There is an article that I want you to read and tell me what you think! Some of you can guess what I think, especially if you have had a consultation with me and you told me that your marriage and/or relationship was “okay.” You know what my answer was to that, but let’s not spoil the fun for everyone else. Hahahahahaha.
Anyway, I would like to know what you think of the concepts presented in this article. You can join in our discussion by simply clicking on the “Comments” link under this article and typing in your comments. You can come back to this article and click on that link again to join in further discussion as more people comment. You can comment on comments! I only ask that everyone respect everyone else’s opinion, even if it differs.
When I saw this article I just wondered how many people out there of marrying/relationship age, especially if you happen to be a little bit older and waiting for Prince Charming or Mr. Right or Mr. Soulmate, would agree with this article. Or do you disagree, and why? Or is there no easy answer? đ
Let me know what you think!
WebMd Article on The Good Enough Marriage – click here to read it.
Love, light, and peace,
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Gearing up for Papa Alegba Ritual #2!
Hello everyone!
Sorry to not have been blogging this last week or so. We have been taking a lot of time to work with the Papa Alegba ritual and get everyone’s petitions heard! đ Hopefully it will be helping a lot of you out really soon.
We are, of course, now gearing up for the next big ritual day, which will be on St. Lazarus’s feast day, June 21, 2009. If you have not gotten your petitions in and still want to participate, you certainly can! Just visit the page at www.spellmaker.com/legba.htm and follow the links to send in your special letter to Papa Alegba.
Since this particular feast day has to do with honoring also St. Lazarus, it is a great time to ask for something to be “resurrected” – whether it a love affair, a job, peace of mind, anything that you have felt is dead and gone! Now is a really good time to ask for that thing to be infused with new life.
I would also encourage you to honor St. Lazarus himself at this time. Remember, these Catholic saints have been used for many years now to represent a particular lwa. However, of course, the Saint him or herself is still a viable entity prayed to by millions every day. Therefore, honoring the Saint at this time is certainy a great thing to do. đ
St. Lazarus, as most of you know, was a man said to be resurrected and cured by Jesus Christ. Lazarus was a leper and said to have died of his disease but because of Jesus’s fondness for him and his sisters, he was resurrected and cured of his disease. Whether you believe the biblical tale or not is inconsequential. If you are going to honor Papa on this day because it is St. Lazarus’s feast day, it is always a good idea to honor dear St. Lazarus himself.
There are Catholic prayers to St. Lazarus that you can find on the internet and incorporate into your ritual. You may also want to print out on of the holy pictures you can find of him – he is almost always depicted with dogs which is why he is often used for representing Papa. đ
Can’t wait to do this ritual, too!
Love,
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How having a positive outlook effects our bodies.
Hi There,
This article came across my blogreader the other day, and I felt it was just too important not to pass along. Most of the references in this article are about how a positive attitude effects us in disease. But just imagine how much better we would feel if we tried to keep out attitudes positive when we are healthy!
I hope you all find some aspect of this article helpful đ
Light and Love
Sister Bridget
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Studies show that having a positive attitude could make you less likely to suffer heart attacks, strokes, and pain from conditions like arthritis.
But what if you have already gotten the devastating diagnosis?
Can an upbeat outlook make a difference?
"It's hard sometimes when the doctors come in because they look at my scans, and I know they don't look good," explains Kristin Kettle.
This 36-year-old mother of two has stage-four, metastatic colon cancer.
"I've been through 13 rounds of chemotherapy within the last seven months, I think," Kristin says.
Instead of crying, she laughs with friends at her "chemo parties." Each one has a theme, and it has nothing to do with cancer.
But can a positive attitude affect the outcome of disease? In a
Johns Hopkins study, researchers followed nearly 600 people with a family history of heart disease. Those with a positive outlook were half as likely to experience a heart event."Attitude is all the difference in the world, and think about it: attitude is a choice," explains Dr. Robert P. Shannon, an assistant professor at the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville, Florida.
While scientific studies on cancer show mixed results, one found breast cancer patients with feelings of hopelessness are less likely to survive.
Marilyn Wattman-Feldman says her upbeat outlook may not cure her stage-four breast cancer, but it's made her physically and emotionally stronger.
"I had to look at everything, even the chemo treatments, and find something funny about what was going on, as hard as that was," she says.
They are strong-minded women who haven't forgotten how to have fun, even during the fight of their lives.
A recent study of healthy women found optimistic women had a 14-percent lower risk of death from any cause after eight years compared to those who were more pessimistic.
More cynical women had a 16-percent higher risk of dying than more trusting women.
OPTIMISTIC HEALING
REPORT #1576BACKGROUND:
Many medical experts believe that positive thinking and a positive attitude are beneficial when it comes to your health. While it has long been conjecture, in recent years, scientists have been gathering statistical proof that the mind-body connection can improve more than just mental health.
Once the purview of New-Age books that claim to show the path to healing, the evidence rests in the rise in clinical trials.
GENERAL HEALTH:
Women who are optimistic about life live longer and are healthier than those who are pessimistic, according to a new study presented at the American Psychosomatic Society's annual meeting.
Another report in the Boston Globe reports that women who tend to be more trusting of others also live longer than those who are cynical. The study conducted by the Women's Health Initiative looked at more than 97,000 healthy women ages 50 to 74.
Optimistic women had a 14-percent lower risk of death from any cause after eight years than those who were more pessimistic. More cynical women had a 16-percent higher risk of dying than more trusting women. The study does not prove that attitudes affect health or cause illness, but researchers say the association is worth further study.
HEART HEALTH:
A study shows optimism is good for heart health, at least among men. University of Rochester Medical Center researchers found men who believed they were at a lower-than-average risk for cardiovascular disease actually experienced a three-times lower incidence of death from heart attacks and stroke.
Another study out of Johns Hopkins finds people with a good attitude were half as likely as their less optimistic counterparts to experience a heart event such as sudden death, heart attack or chest pain that required surgery.
Researchers observed the power of positive thinking even after adjusting for traditional risk factors for heart disease, including cholesterol, weight and cigarette smoking.
"It's possible that the people with the positive attitude produce lower levels of stress hormones, which helps protect them from disease, " Diane M. Becker, Sc.D., M.P.H., senior author of the study, was quoted as saying.
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Quote for today…..
for those of my beloved clients who are struggling with waiting…..
"All great achievements require time."
~~~Maya AngelouLight and Love
Sister Bridget Corfield
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The Journey by Mary Oliver
This has always been one of my most favorite poems. Life is a journey – spellwork is a journey – the theme of Journeying can be applied to our lives in many ways over and over again. I read this poem for the first time when I was at a very low point in my life, and found it very empowering. I hope some part of it strikes a cord with each of you as well.
Light and Love
Sister Bridget Corfield
www.spellmaker.comThe Journey
~~~~by Mary OliverOne day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad adviceâ
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
"Mend my life!"
each voice cried.
But you didn't stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could doâ
determined to save
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How to Center Yourself
Here is another great article I found by the author of Emotional Freedom- Dr. Judith Orloff. I thought it might be helpful to some of you when you start feeling a little off kilter energetically.
Light and Love
Sister Bridget Corfield
www.spellmaker.com**begin article***
How to Center Yourself
by Judith Orloff MD
Watch your diet. Notice what foods feel good, which do not. Your body will
tell you what it requires. Usually, denser foods-meat, chicken, fish–have
more of a grounding effect than grains, vegetables, or fruit. I'm not a big
meat eater but if my body announces, "I need a hamburger," I will devour one.
Listen to your body's signals. Notice how they fluctuate.Do mundane tasks. Mindfully focusing on everyday chores can bring you back
to your body. Grocery shopping, going to the bank, paying bills, washing
clothes, taking out the trash, or cleaning the yard can be grounding. These
activities anchor you in the here-and-now by drawing on the luminous nature
of the ordinary.Practice Anonymous Service. Do something nice for someone without taking
credit for it. Hold the elevator for a little old lady. Let someone go
before you in line. Serve food to the homeless. Give a charitable donation.
Anything that shifts the focus from you to helping others. No deed is too
small. The act of giving–especially when you're most frazzled–opens your
heart, is regenerative.Spend Time in Nature. As poet William Wordsworth put it, civilization can be
"too much with us." People, cars, the news, telephone cables matting the sky,
all can keep us from our bodies, divorce us from what is natural. Regularly
take at least a few hours out from your routine. Visit the beach, a forest, a
canyon, a river. Choose a spot that moves you. Aboriginals seek out windswept
plains for purification. Native Americans go to fresh streams to clarify
their inner vision. (Any water source, including a bath or shower, can
cleanse and purify.) Tibetan monks pilgrimage to mountaintops. Allow yourself
to draw on the earth's primordial forces. Savor the beauty of a twilight,
sunset, or dawn. Let them nourish and restore you.Meditate. Sitting in meditation is a life-line to your center, to the
earth. By calming the mind, you can re-align with your essence. Close your
eyes. Focus on your breath. Then gently extend your awareness downward to
strata, bedrock, minerals, and soil. From the base of your spine begin to
feel a continuity with the earth's core. Picture having a long tail that
roots in that center. Allow the earth's energy to infuse your body and
stabilize you. If you meditate for five minutes or an hour this is sacred
time.**end article**
more articles can be found at Dr Orloff's website drjudithorloff.com
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Emotional Vampires ~~ Be on the lookout!
Hey Gang!
I have been working my way through this great book – Emotional Freedom by Dr Judith Orloff. And I do mean working – its an awesome book with exercises to work thru. I am really enjoying this book! When I saw this article it seemed perfect to pass along, and I am sure some of us can identify with the topic here.
Light and Love
Sister Bridget Corfield
www.spellmaker.com
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The Emotional Vampire Survival Guide: Emotional Freedom in Action
Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloffâs new book âEmotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Lifeâ (Harmony Books, 2009)
To be emotionally free you canât remain naĂŻve about relationships. Some people are positive and mood elevating. Others can suck optimism and serenity right out of you. Vampires do more than drain your physical energy. The super-malignant ones can make you believe youâre an unworthy, unlovable wretch who doesnât deserve better. The subtler species inflict damage by making smaller digs which can make you feel bad about yourselfâfor instance, âDear, I see youâve put on a few poundsâ or âYouâre overly sensitive!â Suddenly theyâve thrown you emotionally off-center you by prodding areas of shaky self-worth. To protect your sensitivity, itâs important to name and combat these vampires. The concept struck such a collective chord in my book Positive Energy that in Emotional Freedom I illustrate how it applies to protecting your emotions and not absorbing other peopleâs negativity. In the book I discuss these vampires to watch for and ways to deal with them.
SIGNS THAT YOUâVE ENCOUNTERD AN EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE
(from âEmotional Freedomâ by Judith Orloff MD)⢠Your eyelids are heavyâyouâre ready for a nap
⢠Your mood takes a nosedive
⢠You want to binge on carbs or comfort foods
⢠You feel anxious, depressed, or negative
⢠You feel put down, sniped at, or slimed
TYPES OF EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES
Vampire #1: The Narcissist
Their motto is âMe first.â Everything is all about them. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance and entitlement, hog attention, and crave admiration. Theyâre dangerous because they lack empathy and have a limited capacity for unconditional love. If you donât do things their way, they become punishing, withholding, or cold.
How to Protect Your Emotions: Keep your expectations realistic. These are emotionally limited people. Try not to fall in love with one or expect them to be selfless or love without strings attached. Never make your self-worth dependent on them or confide your deepest feelings to someone who wonât cherish them. To successfully communicate, the hard truth is that you must show how something will be to their benefit. Though itâs better not to have to contend with this tedious ego stroking, if the relationship is unavoidable use the above strategies to achieved desired results.Vampire #2: The Victim
These vampires grate on you with their âpoor-meâ attitude and are allergic to taking responsibility for their actions. The world is always against them, the reason for their unhappiness. When you offer a solution to their problems they always say, âYes, but.â You might end up screening your calls or purposely avoid them. As a friend, you may want to help but their tales of woe overwhelm you.
How to Protect Your Emotions: Set kind but firm limits. Listen briefly and tell a friend or relative, âI love you but I can only listen for a few minutes unless you want to discuss solutions. Then Iâd be thrilled to brainstorm with you.â With a coworker, listen briefly, sympathize by saying, âIâll keep good thought for things to work out. Then say, I hope you understand, but Iâm on deadline and must go back to work. Then use âthis isnât a good timeâ body language such as crossing your arms and breaking eye contact to help set these healthy limits.Vampire #3: The Controller
These people obsessively try to control you and dictate what youâre supposed to be and feel. They have an opinion about everything. Theyâll control you by invalidating your emotions if they donât fit into their rulebook. They often start sentences with âYou know what you need?â and then proceed to tell you. You end up feeling dominated, demeaned, or put down.
How to Protect Your Emotions: The secret to success is never try and control a controller. Be healthily assertive, but donât tell them what to do. You can say, âI value your advice but really need to work through this myself.â Be confident but donât play the victim or sweat the small stuff. Focus on high priority issues rather than on putting the cap on the toothpaste.Vampire #4: The Splitter or Borderline Personality
Splitters see things as either good or bad and have love/hate relationships. One minute they idealize you, the next youâre the enemy if you upset them. They have a sixth sense for knowing how to pit people against each another and will retaliate if they feel you have wronged them. They are people who are fundamentally damagedâinwardly they feel as if they donât exist and become alive when they get angry. Theyâll keep you on an emotional rollercoaster and you may walk on eggshells to avoid their anger.How to Protect Your Emotions: Stay calm. Donât react when your buttons get pushed. Splitters feed off of anger. They respond best to structure and limit setting. If one goes into a rage, tell the person, âIâm leaving until you get calmer. Then we can talk.â Refuse to take sides when he or she tries to turn you against someone else. With family members, itâs best to show a united front and not let a splitterâs venomous opinions poison your relationships.
About Judith Orloff
Judith Orloff MD, an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at
UCLA and intuition expert.
www.drjudithorloff.com**end article**
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Papa Legba Oil and the Red Mummy!
Happy Wednesday, everyone!
We have started Papa Alegba month! đ As most of you know by now, of course, we are dedicating the whole month to Papa here at www.spellmaker.com! If you haven’t checked out his page and the information on how to get in on the free rituals, please do so at www.spellmaker.com/legba.htm.
As I have mentioned in many posts and teachings, Papa is a great communicator with the ability to speak and translate all languages and dialects. He can open many doors, including those doors of communication that are so important to all of us in all of our relationships.
Of course, we also have the Famous Red Mummy candle magick kit that we use for communication. đ Now while it, naturally, comes with its own special bottle of oil, you can certainly also use some of the Papa’s Gatekey™ Oil on those red mummies, too! What better way to boost that communication than with Papa’s oil. It isn’t called “Gatekey” for NO reason! đ And since communication is the “key” to all relationships, certainly you can see the correlation there!
So for those of you who have asked about putting this oil on your Red Mummy candles, the answer is absolutely yes! Oil that mummy up! It also certainly would not hurt to burn some of Papa’s Open Door™ incense with it, either!
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com