DON'T.
Seriously. Life will be much easier on you.
Love,
Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com
DON'T.
Seriously. Life will be much easier on you.
Love,
Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com
Happy Friday!
Do you want this….
or this?
I came across this artlcle last night just before bed, and I had to restrain myself from getting up right then and there and posting the link! Over the past few years, I have seen this exact thing happen over and over — some of you who I have read with will remember me telling you to get off of FB and stop looking at certain people's profiles — For The Good of your Case! I am so glad that there are people looking into this issue of the impact of FB and the whole new level of knowledge or exposure we have about other people in our lives. Being able to look into someone's life this closely was not heard of 10 or 15 years ago – and of course, people were not sharing this much information then either. Balance is everything!
I do hope this article is helpful to some! And have a great weekend everyone!
Love
Sister Bridget
Facebook and other social networking web sites have revolutionized the way people create and
maintain relationships. However, new research shows that Facebook use could actually be damaging
to users' romantic relationships. Russell Clayton, a doctoral student in the University of Missouri
School of Journalism, found that individuals who use Facebook excessively are far more likely to
experience Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which then may cause negative
relationship outcomes including emotional and physical cheating, breakup and divorce.
In their study, Clayton, along with Alexander Nagurney, an instructor at the University of Hawaii at Hilo,
and Jessica R. Smith, a doctoral student at St. Mary's University in San Antonio, surveyed Facebook users ages 18 to 82 years old. Participants were asked to describe how often they used Facebook and how much, if any, conflict arose between their current or former partners as a result of Facebook use. The researchers found that high levels of Facebook use among couples significantly predicted Facebook-related conflict, which then significantly predicted negative relationship outcomes such as cheating, breakup, and divorce. "Previous research has shown that the more a person in a romantic relationship uses Facebook, the more likely they are to monitor their partner's Facebook activity more stringently, which can lead to feelings of jealousy," Clayton said. "Facebook-induced jealousy may lead to arguments concerning past partners. Also, our study found that excessive Facebook users are more likely to connect or reconnect with other Facebook users, including previous partners, which may lead to emotional and physical cheating."
Clayton says this trend was particularly apparent in newer relationships.
"These findings held only for couples who had been in relationships of three years or less," Clayton said.
"This suggests that Facebook may be a threat to relationships that are not fully matured. On the other hand, participants who have been in relationships for longer than three years may not use Facebook as often, or may have more matured relationships, and therefore Facebook use may not be a threat or concern."
In order to prevent such conflict from arising, Clayton recommends couples, especially those who have not been together for very long, to limit their own personal Facebook use.
"Although Facebook is a great way to learn about someone, excessive Facebook use may be damaging to
newer romantic relationships," Clayton said. "Cutting back to moderate, healthy levels of Facebook usage could help reduce conflict, particularly for newer couples who are still learning about each other."
This study is forthcoming in the Journal of Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking.
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Happy Friday, everyone! Hope your week went well! Mine seemed to fly by! 🙂 That isn't a bad thing, right?
As one might suspect, I spend a great deal of time asking for and receiving guidance from our great Vodou Spirits (the lwa, les lois). In the instances where I am asking and receiving, it is very clear cut to me who needs what (since I am the one doing the asking - LOL). However, there are instances when I am sent on somewhat of a treasure hunt – someone needs something… what is it? Where is it? 😉
This time the guidance and the search took a rather circuitous route with me looking up different things for Papa Legba. (It is, after his month here at Spellmaker!) The search for Papa goodies led me to a very powerful post that Khouzhan Menfo' had done some time back regarding a visit he made to a particular monument.
When I ran across that post the guidance that followed was one of those "no guessing" guidances… chills, smiles, tears, butterflies in my stomach.. all that good stuff! That post was what I was looking for..someone, somewhere needs to see that post! I don't know who. I don't know where. I don't even know if we here at Spellmaker even know the person – all I know is this – Papa says that it will be life-altering for someone. It will set them on their path. Maybe it isn't just one person?? That part of the guidance was shielded from me (and that happens, by the way, when the guidance is something that I am just a part of – that I am just a part of of something bigger than just me and what I do).
I am sure that whomever is supposed to see this post will! I hope that they will join in on one or more of the Papa Legba free rituals this month, too! 🙂
So, anyway, you will see me posting this post just about everywhere that I post things (how many times can I say a version of "post" in a sentence?).
CLICK HERE TO READ THE POST BY KHOUZHAN MENFO'
I feel assured that this will reach the folks that it is supposed to! Happy to be merely the guide who leads you to it!
I would love it if Khouzhan Menfo's post inspires you in some way and you leave us a comment! It would be great to hear what feelings it brought to you!
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com
I know many of you remember our wonderful past office manager, Berkeley. I left her blog up after she left because she had a lot of wisdom up there! Still does! I wanted to share this blog of hers with you all because it is just wonderful!
Love, Mambo Sam
P.S. By the way, Berkeley is doing GREAT! :-) I am so very proud of all that she has accomplished!
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Here is the blog post from Berkeley:
I have a tendency to obsess.
I obsess about everything, but it is the external that I cant control that I obsess over most. During spellwork this obsession is heightened. I (and no one) can control how someone processes spellwork, or how fast it will work.
Info about this is all over the spellmaker website, and I tell people over the phone every day how to deal with the effects, but the bottom line is that spellwork (especially for love related issues) is hard. Spellwork creates this emotional rollercoaster that can truly be rough.For the long haul it is worthwhile for the person initiating the spell and the person being cast upon. If you have a tendency to obsess, like I do, then the entire situation becomes really hard!
Obsessing can be bad for you and your spellwork. It causes undue stress on you, and it tends to choke your spellwork – no matter what you are working towards. If you constantly think about and dwell on your spells, and pine for the person or the situation to come to fruition then you probably are doing exactly what I am doing – accidentally making the results take longer. I choke my spellwork all the time, because I cant stop obsessing.After an ill advised conversation with my own HD starting with the words "what do you want in the future…?" I realized that I am not a high enough priority in my world. My mom made my dad and her kids the center of her universe. She gave all of herself to us, and now that we are grown and the rents are retired she is a little bitter about what she did and didn’t give to herself.
I appreciate the sacrifices my mom made for us, but I don’t want to repeat her mistakes regarding what she didn’t hold back for herself
I realized that I need to put my love related work on the back burner and become the star of my life. A lot of people, especially women, tend to make the person they are working on the star of their life. We all generally want to become a high priority in the lives of our HD (hearts desire – or recipient of love spellwork), but the trouble is we are not being a high priority in our own lives.
After talking to Sister Candelaria about it (yes, caseworkers casework each other) I let everything digest. I need to be the star of my life. I need to become the most important person to me. Sister Candelaria had some great suggestions that I am going to share because I know I am not the only one in this position. First is the Lady Samantha’s Hex Removal Spell kit. This kit will of course get rid of curses and anything someone has done to you, but it will also get rid of the things you do to your self! A lot of people tend to doubt themselves all the time, harbor insecurity, and hold on to the bad. Sometimes we just accidentally curse ourselves. This holds true for anyone regardless of spellwork. If you have not done spellwork, but some of this is ringing true for you then try this kit, it can help!
The other things that Sister Candelaria and I talked about were the spell Attract Love To Me and theErzulie's Bain Rose D'Amour™ Pink Bath Kit. Now dont get me wrong, I don’t want to attract someone else’s love – I want to attract my own. I need to learn to put myself first, and be a little more selfish. I dont know how to do this, and the Attract Love to Me and the Pink bath can help that.
Thanks for reading
Berkeley
www.spellmaker.com
Hi everyone!
I don't know what is in the air, the water, or the oscillating energy textile vibrations of the Mars connection (okay, I made that last one up)! Seriously, what is going on out there? So many folks that I know are in a huge funk right now – is it the economy? Is it some sort of global funkittude (yep, made that one up, too). Is it the political atmosphere? Disillusionment? What is causing this funk? (But, just think – if we get rid of that "k" then it turns into "fun!")
Well, if only it were that easy – I can drop that "k" and get FUN! Truth is, it usually takes a lot more than dropping a letter to get us out of a funk!
Not even the best of good articles will completely do the trick – though this one is pretty great!
http://www.highexistence.com/choose-happiness-5-ways-to-get-out-of-a-funk
I do believe understanding our funk is key! Facing that situation head-on, although frightening, is going to help us much more than trying to hide from it. Are you grieving? Are you broke? Are you broken-hearted? Have you stopped believing in yourself? Do you just not give a damn right now?
Guess what? You are not alone. You might feel isolated, but truthfully a few trips around the Internet will let you see that you have a lot of company. Heck, a trip around your friends and family might let you see that you have a lot of company! I truly believe that reaching out in some way to someone is key to helping shed that funk! Someone who will listen to you rant, rave, and probably finally break down in tears is invaluable. I have found that sometimes just verbalizing my feelings, out loud (not in an email or text) can be so helpful. When I am done, it seems that I can, somehow, face those challenges that were dragging me down.
So I am going to say step one is talk to someone! All the self help tips in the world won't help you much if you don't feel like you have someone to talk to! Find that one person you can blather all the crap out to – hopefully someone who will just sit and listen – and then take a deep breath and figure out what, amongst all the self help stuff, can help you. The article I reference above truly is a good one – it makes a lot of sense. But, if you read the article, you will see that the gentleman who wrote it, first had sort of a "breakdown" to someone he loved! THEN he was able to go on to his self-help techniques!
Of course, at Spellmaker, we sell lots of stuff for helping with negative energy – white candles, baths, etc. And I do recommend them, obviously! Sometimes you have to keep working with things – white candles are a good example of that. Using the white male or female image candles on yourself can sometimes be an ongoing thing! It just depends on how much stress you have in your life! There isn't anything wrong with feeling like you need to spark up your candle every so often and burn off that negative energy!
But most of all, I want you to talk with someone you trust! Just for a minute, wallow in and embrace that funk! Tell them what you are feeling, tell them if you feel you are at the end of your rope… you might even tell them that you aren't looking for advice – you just want to vent! 😉 Then, look for the things that will help you with the situations at hand!
I know that things seem insurmountable sometimes; I have a pile of stuff going on right now that seems exactly that! I know that I will get through it. But I share in your funk! Maybe we can share in getting rid of it, too! 🙂 Oh, and I almost forgot - take it easy on yourself!!!!! Not everything is your fault – I swear!
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com
Good morning everyone! Hope you are having a great Saturday. Very often we get in our Heart's Desire letters for spellwork information that the relationship has been "on again/off again." These relationships can be SO frustrating, right? In fact, however, sometimes this can be an upward spiral in the relationship as you learn more about each other and learn what to do (and not to do!).
Very often, these kinds of relationships responds extremely well to love spell work! I believe that is because there is something there or there would only be "off" and no "on again" to the relationship! The couple is generally searching for a way to make things better – they keep coming back for more! 🙂
Many times, we get some of our best spell casting results from those people who are in these kinds of relationshps – they know there is something worth fighting for! 🙂
I like this article about on-again/off-again types of relationships! It can help put some things into perspective!
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com
Happy Day-Before-Friday, everyone!
I cannot believe that it is almost Papa Alegba Month here at Spellmaker! Every year we dedicate June to Papa Alegba since he has THREE feast days in June (13, 21, and 29)!
This is the month where we do three free rituals here in the Spellmaker office and you can send in your petitions to be included in all three of the rituals. If you care to do some work on your own, we also have great products for Papa Alegba on his page on the Spellmaker website!
On that same page is lots of information about Papa, how to serve him, what his offerings are, etc.
One thing I wanted to talk about is why keys are so important to Papa! No self-respecting Vodouisant would ever throw away old keys! Nope, those go right on Papa's altar! Remember, he is the gatekeeper, the mediary between our world and the world of the lwa – no work gets done without his permission! We must always ask his permission to travel to and from (and to allow the lwa to travel to and from) our different worlds.
A little trick that I use, and I know have talked about this before, but I feel like it is worth repeating – is to designate certain old keys for certain things. For instance, I have three keys that I use with money work. I have 7 old keys that I use for luck work – I think you get the idea! When I start any of that type of work for myself and Parran Matt, those keys go on whatever altar I am working from. Those particular keys have been dedicated to Papa, by me, for those specific purposes. In this way, I feel like I get a little extra "oomph" from my work by having particular keys for him for the things for which I am asking!
If nothing else, just throw all your old keys in a bowl and just keep them around. (Warning: People will start to think you collect keys and you will find keys showing up everywhere! LOL) Dedicate them to Papa Legba and put that bowl of keys on whatever altar you are using for work. Believe me, he will love them and it will help unlock many doors for you! 😉
Love, light, and peace, Mambo Samantha Corfield
Hello!
This is a link to an article I just saw on FB. I don’t often repost
things I see there, because I figure, If I saw it, than so has everyone
else. BUT today I am making an exception. This article is well worth
reading. The 15 things are by some standards no small things, but even
if this article just gives us a little awareness of the time and space a
few of these things may be taking up in our lives, it is so worth it.
Hope you all have a grand day!
Love
Sister Bridget