If Ogoun had a parrot, I think it would sing something like this 🙂
Love,
Sister Bridget
Tag: voodoo
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Speaking of September Rituals!
Hello friends and family!
Thank goodness Khouzhan Lucy's post reminded me of The Chinese Harvest Moon Festival! This fun festival is easily celebrated by a party of one (or more) and ties right in with love spell work!
I made a page about it several years ago:
http://voodooboutique.typepad.com/mambosam/chineseharvestmoon.html
It gives you all the history of the festival, how it relates to finding the love of your life (or petitioning if you have someone in mind!), and just the general beauty and tradition of this day.
I think it is a great celebration whether you are involved in a love case or not! We all need more love in this life, this world! So petitioning for love and good wishes for yourself and others is a great thing.
I would love to see any pictures you take, especially if you incorporate any love spell work with it!
Love,
Mambo Sam, www.spellmaker.com
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Inspiration from an unexpected place…
Hi there!
This needs to be watched and shared with all you know and love! Where ever you are in life right now, this speech is inspirational!
Love
Sister Bridget
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How do you deal with Frustration?
Good Morning!!!
Hope you all are doing well and are enjoying this lovely summer!
As some of you know, I have been working at times to settle some matters dealing with my father's estate. Estate stuff, at least in this situation, tends not to be very simple. I often have an idea or thought or plan of how things will go with a certain issue, and then, well, God Laughs!
Driving home yesterday, I certainly was feeling rather frustrated. I got to thinking alot about this feeling, and I really don not like it! It sucks, basically. And I think I would really rather not feel it so much anymore. I did a little surfing when I got home, to see if there are some tips on dealing with frustration. I would like to share with you what I have learned….
First, just to help clarify – Frustration is a feeling that arises when something occurs which keeps us from reaching a goal or expectation. There are other feelings which can occur as well, such as disappointment. BUT mix a little anger with your disappointment, and you have frustration.
"Expectation is the mother of all frustration"
…… Antonio Banderas
Second, we can experience different levels of frustration in different parts of our lives. Some folks are more easily frustrated in the work enviornment, some with family, some in more social settings. It seems to be the more intense a situation, the more important the goal is to us, the more easily we can become frustrated.
Anyone out there working on a love situation? How important is it to you that it resolve successfully?
Third, how we handle our frustration can definitely directly influence how much frustration we could be feeling in the future! Huh, you say? I said that the first time I read this as well. But look at it this way….if we learn to handle our frustration productively, and that leads to a positive resolution to our situation, then there will be nothing to get frustrated about in the future!
Of course, frustration is not always a bad thing. It can be quite motivating and can help us figure out steps so that we can reach our goals. But it is how we choose to express our frustration may cause more stress in our life and the lives of others.
So, how do we handle our frustration? What are some good tips to practice or skills to develop?
I found this wonderful article by Judith Orloff about Frustration, and ways to handle it. Dr Orloff has 4 tips for handiing frustration with people. Here is an exerpt:
Tip #1. Focus on a specific issue—don't escalate or mount a personal attack.
For instance, "I feel frustrated when you promise to do something but there is no follow-through." No resorting to threats or insults. In an even, non-blaming tone, lead with how the behavior makes you feel rather than how you think the other person is wrong.Tip #2. Listen non-defensively without reacting or interrupting.
It's a sign of respect to hear a person's point of view, even if you disagree. Avoid an aggressive tone or body language. Try not to squirm with discomfort or to judge.Tip #3. Intuit the feelings behind the words.
When you can appreciate someone's motivation, it's easier to be patient. Try to sense if this person is frightened, insecure, up against a negative part of themselves they've never confronted. If so, realize this can be painful. See what change they're open to.Tip #4. Respond with clarity and compassion.
This attitude takes others off the defensive so they're more comfortable admitting their part in causing frustration. Describe everything in terms of remedies to a specific task, rather then generalizing. State your needs. For instance, "I'd really appreciate you not shouting at me even if I disappoint you." If the person is willing to try, show how pleased you are. Validate their efforts: "Thanks for not yelling at me. I really value your understanding" See if the behavior improves.(end exerpt)
I will be trying some of these techniques with the various realtors, inspectors, lawyers, etc associated with my dad's Estate and let you know which ones I have found helpful. If you try any of these tips out, I would love to hear how they worked for you :-)
Love
Sister Bridget
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Fet Ghede Potion Follow Up 🙂
Hey there
A few weeks ago, Mambo Sam announced a very special offering of a unique potion. Fet Ghede Potion was made by Mambo, Parran, myself and a few special members of our Voodoo House. You can read the details about the potion and the process here, of course, but I mostly wanted to relay my experiences with the potion, and hope others will join in as well 🙂
I started using my bottle a bit last week. As with everything Mambo Sam makes, this stuff is simply awesome in power and vibration! I have used the potion in a bit of candlework, some doll work, and with my meditations and prayers. I have to say, my experiences meditating while wearing just a drop of this potion are amazing. There are times when I have much difficulty quieting my mind to meditate – I have not had that problem when I use this potion. I sometimes have a little trouble remembering specific guidance I get during meditation – again, not so when I have used this potion. My meditations are much more clear, peaceful, and I want to use the word "vibrant" here. Now, that may not make much sense as far as meditating goes to some of you, but that is the best word I have to describe what I am experiencing. Really Amazing.
I hope some of you who already have some of this wonderful stuff will chime in with your experiences too!
For those of you who are still considering getting yourself a bottle, remember supplies are limited! (Well, at least until next Fet Ghede). If you have any questions about the potion use, the potion does some with full instructions, as well as a free 10 minute consult with Mambo Sam for any questions you may have.
Hope to see your feedback soon!
Love
Sister Bridget
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Sad to See it End!
Happy Monday, everyone! I cannot believe that Papa Legba Month is coming to end here at www.spellmaker.com! Of course, we honor, serve, and call upon Papa throughout the year, but his month is always so special to us all. 🙂
But luckily, it isn't over yet! There is still plenty of time to participate. 🙂
We are still accepting petitions for our two last events:
1. Our online Papa Legba ritual will take place on June 27, 9 pm Eastern time (that is 8 pm Central time, 7 pm Mountain time, and 6 pm Pacific time). To join in or to send in a petition, please see the informational page at www.spellmaker.com/prayer.htm
2. Our last in-house ritual to Papa will take place on St. Peter's Feast Day, June 29. This is a ritual that we do in house and you are welcome to send in a petition. For information, please see the page at www.spellmaker.com/legba.htm
Remember, Papa is the great communicator, the translator of all languages, the opening of door, and the clearer of paths! He is so much more, but those are the main things for which we know him.
He is also known as one of the kindest, most understanding lwa – he wants to help you with your problems!
So, please, feel free to join us as we wind up this great month!
Love,
Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com
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A Word About Betrayal.
DON'T.
Seriously. Life will be much easier on you.
Love,
Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com
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On FB and in a relationship – this is a MUST READ!
Happy Friday!
Do you want this….
or this?
I came across this artlcle last night just before bed, and I had to restrain myself from getting up right then and there and posting the link! Over the past few years, I have seen this exact thing happen over and over — some of you who I have read with will remember me telling you to get off of FB and stop looking at certain people's profiles — For The Good of your Case! I am so glad that there are people looking into this issue of the impact of FB and the whole new level of knowledge or exposure we have about other people in our lives. Being able to look into someone's life this closely was not heard of 10 or 15 years ago – and of course, people were not sharing this much information then either. Balance is everything!
I do hope this article is helpful to some! And have a great weekend everyone!
Love
Sister Bridget
Excessive Facebook use can damage relationships, study finds
Facebook and other social networking web sites have revolutionized the way people create and
maintain relationships. However, new research shows that Facebook use could actually be damaging
to users' romantic relationships. Russell Clayton, a doctoral student in the University of Missouri
School of Journalism, found that individuals who use Facebook excessively are far more likely to
experience Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which then may cause negative
relationship outcomes including emotional and physical cheating, breakup and divorce.
In their study, Clayton, along with Alexander Nagurney, an instructor at the University of Hawaii at Hilo,
and Jessica R. Smith, a doctoral student at St. Mary's University in San Antonio, surveyed Facebook users ages 18 to 82 years old. Participants were asked to describe how often they used Facebook and how much, if any, conflict arose between their current or former partners as a result of Facebook use. The researchers found that high levels of Facebook use among couples significantly predicted Facebook-related conflict, which then significantly predicted negative relationship outcomes such as cheating, breakup, and divorce. "Previous research has shown that the more a person in a romantic relationship uses Facebook, the more likely they are to monitor their partner's Facebook activity more stringently, which can lead to feelings of jealousy," Clayton said. "Facebook-induced jealousy may lead to arguments concerning past partners. Also, our study found that excessive Facebook users are more likely to connect or reconnect with other Facebook users, including previous partners, which may lead to emotional and physical cheating."
Clayton says this trend was particularly apparent in newer relationships.
"These findings held only for couples who had been in relationships of three years or less," Clayton said.
"This suggests that Facebook may be a threat to relationships that are not fully matured. On the other hand, participants who have been in relationships for longer than three years may not use Facebook as often, or may have more matured relationships, and therefore Facebook use may not be a threat or concern."
In order to prevent such conflict from arising, Clayton recommends couples, especially those who have not been together for very long, to limit their own personal Facebook use.
"Although Facebook is a great way to learn about someone, excessive Facebook use may be damaging to
newer romantic relationships," Clayton said. "Cutting back to moderate, healthy levels of Facebook usage could help reduce conflict, particularly for newer couples who are still learning about each other."
This study is forthcoming in the Journal of Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking.
ships. However, new
research shows that Facebook use could actually be damaging to users'
romantic relationships. Russell Clayton, a doctoral student in the
University of Missouri School of Journalism, found that individuals who
use Facebook excessively are far more likely to experience
Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which thRead more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
ships. However, new
research shows that Facebook use could actually be damaging to users'
romantic relationships. Russell Clayton, a doctoral student in the
University of Missouri School of Journalism, found that individuals who
use Facebook excessively are far more likely to experience
Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which thRead more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
ships. However, new
research shows that Facebook use could actually be damaging to users'
romantic relationships. Russell Clayton, a doctoral student in the
University of Missouri School of Journalism, found that individuals who
use Facebook excessively are far more likely to experience
Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which thRead more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
ships. However, new
research shows that Facebook use could actually be damaging to users'
romantic relationships. Russell Clayton, a doctoral student in the
University of Missouri School of Journalism, found that individuals who
use Facebook excessively are far more likely to experience
Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which thRead more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
ships. However, new
research shows that Facebook use could actually be damaging to users'
romantic relationships. Russell Clayton, a doctoral student in the
University of Missouri School of Journalism, found that individuals who
use Facebook excessively are far more likely to experience
Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which thRead more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
ships. However, new
research shows that Facebook use could actually be damaging to users'
romantic relationships. Russell Clayton, a doctoral student in the
University of Missouri School of Journalism, found that individuals who
use Facebook excessively are far more likely to experience
Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which thRead more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
ships. However, new
research shows that Facebook use could actually be damaging to users'
romantic relationships. Russell Clayton, a doctoral student in the
University of Missouri School of Journalism, found that individuals who
use Facebook excessively are far more likely to experience
Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which thRead more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
ships. However, new
research shows that Facebook use could actually be damaging to users'
romantic relationships. Russell Clayton, a doctoral student in the
University of Missouri School of Journalism, found that individuals who
use Facebook excessively are far more likely to experience
Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which thRead more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
Facebook and other
social networking web sites have revolutionized the way people create
and maintain relationships. However, new research shows that Facebook
use could actually be damaging to users' romantic relationships. Russell
Clayton, a doctoral student in the University of Missouri School of
Journalism, found that individuals who use Facebook excessively are far
more likely to experience Facebook–related conflict with their romantic
partners, which then may cause negative relationship outcomes including
emotional and physical cheating, breakup and divorce.Read more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
Facebook and other
social networking web sites have revolutionized the way people create
and maintain relationships. However, new research shows that Facebook
use could actually be damaging to users' romantic relationships. Russell
Clayton, a doctoral student in the University of Missouri School of
Journalism, found that individuals who use Facebook excessively are far
more likely to experience Facebook–related conflict with their romantic
partners, which then may cause negative relationship outcomes including
emotional and physical cheating, breakup and divorce.Read more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
Facebook and other
social networking web sites have revolutionized the way people create
and maintain relationships. However, new research shows that Facebook
use could actually be damaging to users' romantic relationships. Russell
Clayton, a doctoral student in the University of Missouri School of
Journalism, found that individuals who use Facebook excessively are far
more likely to experience Facebook–related conflict with their romantic
partners, which then may cause negative relationship outcomes including
emotional and physical cheating, breakup and divorce.Read more at: http://phys.org/news/2013-06-excessive-facebook-relationships.html#jCp
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Maybe it is You?
Happy Friday, everyone! Hope your week went well! Mine seemed to fly by! 🙂 That isn't a bad thing, right?
As one might suspect, I spend a great deal of time asking for and receiving guidance from our great Vodou Spirits (the lwa, les lois). In the instances where I am asking and receiving, it is very clear cut to me who needs what (since I am the one doing the asking - LOL). However, there are instances when I am sent on somewhat of a treasure hunt – someone needs something… what is it? Where is it? 😉
This time the guidance and the search took a rather circuitous route with me looking up different things for Papa Legba. (It is, after his month here at Spellmaker!) The search for Papa goodies led me to a very powerful post that Khouzhan Menfo' had done some time back regarding a visit he made to a particular monument.
When I ran across that post the guidance that followed was one of those "no guessing" guidances… chills, smiles, tears, butterflies in my stomach.. all that good stuff! That post was what I was looking for..someone, somewhere needs to see that post! I don't know who. I don't know where. I don't even know if we here at Spellmaker even know the person – all I know is this – Papa says that it will be life-altering for someone. It will set them on their path. Maybe it isn't just one person?? That part of the guidance was shielded from me (and that happens, by the way, when the guidance is something that I am just a part of – that I am just a part of of something bigger than just me and what I do).
I am sure that whomever is supposed to see this post will! I hope that they will join in on one or more of the Papa Legba free rituals this month, too! 🙂
So, anyway, you will see me posting this post just about everywhere that I post things (how many times can I say a version of "post" in a sentence?).
CLICK HERE TO READ THE POST BY KHOUZHAN MENFO'
I feel assured that this will reach the folks that it is supposed to! Happy to be merely the guide who leads you to it!
I would love it if Khouzhan Menfo's post inspires you in some way and you leave us a comment! It would be great to hear what feelings it brought to you!
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com
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Making Me the Superstar of My Life
I know many of you remember our wonderful past office manager, Berkeley. I left her blog up after she left because she had a lot of wisdom up there! Still does! I wanted to share this blog of hers with you all because it is just wonderful!
Love, Mambo Sam
P.S. By the way, Berkeley is doing GREAT! :-) I am so very proud of all that she has accomplished!
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Here is the blog post from Berkeley:
I have a tendency to obsess.
I obsess about everything, but it is the external that I cant control that I obsess over most. During spellwork this obsession is heightened. I (and no one) can control how someone processes spellwork, or how fast it will work.
Info about this is all over the spellmaker website, and I tell people over the phone every day how to deal with the effects, but the bottom line is that spellwork (especially for love related issues) is hard. Spellwork creates this emotional rollercoaster that can truly be rough.For the long haul it is worthwhile for the person initiating the spell and the person being cast upon. If you have a tendency to obsess, like I do, then the entire situation becomes really hard!
Obsessing can be bad for you and your spellwork. It causes undue stress on you, and it tends to choke your spellwork – no matter what you are working towards. If you constantly think about and dwell on your spells, and pine for the person or the situation to come to fruition then you probably are doing exactly what I am doing – accidentally making the results take longer. I choke my spellwork all the time, because I cant stop obsessing.After an ill advised conversation with my own HD starting with the words "what do you want in the future…?" I realized that I am not a high enough priority in my world. My mom made my dad and her kids the center of her universe. She gave all of herself to us, and now that we are grown and the rents are retired she is a little bitter about what she did and didn’t give to herself.
I appreciate the sacrifices my mom made for us, but I don’t want to repeat her mistakes regarding what she didn’t hold back for herself
I realized that I need to put my love related work on the back burner and become the star of my life. A lot of people, especially women, tend to make the person they are working on the star of their life. We all generally want to become a high priority in the lives of our HD (hearts desire – or recipient of love spellwork), but the trouble is we are not being a high priority in our own lives.
After talking to Sister Candelaria about it (yes, caseworkers casework each other) I let everything digest. I need to be the star of my life. I need to become the most important person to me. Sister Candelaria had some great suggestions that I am going to share because I know I am not the only one in this position. First is the Lady Samantha’s Hex Removal Spell kit. This kit will of course get rid of curses and anything someone has done to you, but it will also get rid of the things you do to your self! A lot of people tend to doubt themselves all the time, harbor insecurity, and hold on to the bad. Sometimes we just accidentally curse ourselves. This holds true for anyone regardless of spellwork. If you have not done spellwork, but some of this is ringing true for you then try this kit, it can help!
The other things that Sister Candelaria and I talked about were the spell Attract Love To Me and theErzulie's Bain Rose D'Amour™ Pink Bath Kit. Now dont get me wrong, I don’t want to attract someone else’s love – I want to attract my own. I need to learn to put myself first, and be a little more selfish. I dont know how to do this, and the Attract Love to Me and the Pink bath can help that.
Thanks for reading
Berkeley
www.spellmaker.com