Category: About Love Spells

Making Me the Superstar of My Life

I know many of you remember our wonderful past office manager, Berkeley. I left her blog up after she left because she had a lot of wisdom up there! Still does! I wanted to share this blog of hers with you all because it is just wonderful!

Love, Mambo Sam

P.S. By the way, Berkeley is doing GREAT! :-) I am so very proud of all that she has accomplished!

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Here is the blog post from Berkeley:

I have a tendency to obsess.
I obsess about everything, but it is the external that I cant control that I obsess over most. During spellwork this obsession is heightened. I (and no one) can control how someone processes spellwork, or how fast it will work.
Info about this is all over the spellmaker website, and I tell people over the phone every day how to deal with the effects, but the bottom line is that spellwork (especially for love related issues) is hard. Spellwork creates this emotional rollercoaster that can truly be rough.

For the long haul it is worthwhile for the person initiating the spell and the person being cast upon. If you have a tendency to obsess, like I do, then the entire situation becomes really hard!
Obsessing can be bad for you and your spellwork. It causes undue stress on you, and it tends to choke your spellwork – no matter what you are working towards. If you constantly think about and dwell on your spells, and pine for the person or the situation to come to fruition then you probably are doing exactly what I am doing – accidentally making the results take longer. I choke my spellwork all the time, because I cant stop obsessing.

After an ill advised conversation with my own HD starting with the words "what do you want in the future…?" I realized that I am not a high enough priority in my world. My mom made my dad and her kids the center of her universe. She gave all of herself to us, and now that we are grown and the rents are retired she is a little bitter about what she did and didn’t give to herself.

I appreciate the sacrifices my mom made for us, but I don’t want to repeat her mistakes regarding what she didn’t hold back for herself

I realized that I need to put my love related work on the back burner and become the star of my life. A lot of people, especially women, tend to make the person they are working on the star of their life. We all generally want to become a high priority in the lives of our HD (hearts desire – or recipient of love spellwork), but the trouble is we are not being a high priority in our own lives.

After talking to Sister Candelaria about it (yes, caseworkers casework each other) I let everything digest. I need to be the star of my life. I need to become the most important person to me. Sister Candelaria had some great suggestions that I am going to share because I know I am not the only one in this position. First is the Lady Samantha’s Hex Removal Spell kit. This kit will of course get rid of curses and anything someone has done to you, but it will also get rid of the things you do to your self! A lot of people tend to doubt themselves all the time, harbor insecurity, and hold on to the bad. Sometimes we just accidentally curse ourselves. This holds true for anyone regardless of spellwork. If you have not done spellwork, but some of this is ringing true for you then try this kit, it can help!

The other things that Sister Candelaria and I talked about were the spell Attract Love To Me and theErzulie's Bain Rose D'Amour™ Pink Bath Kit. Now dont get me wrong, I don’t want to attract someone else’s love – I want to attract my own. I need to learn to put myself first, and be a little more selfish. I dont know how to do this, and the Attract Love to Me and the Pink bath can help that.

Thanks for reading

Berkeley

www.spellmaker.com

June 5, 2013
Is it worth it?

Hello everyone! I know we have talked about this subject before, but I thought it was worth revisiting. All the time in readings I get asked the question, "Is s/he worth me doing (or continuing to do) love spell work on?"

Generally speaking, I don't have an answer for that because I think that only you can tell if someone is worth your time, trouble, money, and energy. That is what I usually tell you – "You tell me if s/he is worth it!" Some of you laugh, some of you get angry with me, and some of you find your thoughts provoked!

In all fairness, some things that I can tell you is whether or not I think the person you are working on or considering working on is an inherently bad or good person. (And, yes, I think some people ARE inherently bad and no amount of healing or goodie-two-shoes work on them is going to make them a good person!) I can tell you if I feel any love for you there. I can tell you if there intentions are good or bad towards you. However, even knowing those things from me, only you can tell me if it is worth it.

But what factors might come into figuring out if it is worth it? Here is an excerpt from an article by Daniel Harken:

"You're having problems in your relationship, and while you love your partner, you simply aren't sure as to whether it's worth saving. The vast majority of relationships can be saved – the question is, should you? This article will help you answer that question.

The first question if you're deciding if your relationship is worth saving is if there is abuse involved. Whether this is physical or emotional abuse, it doesn't matter. If there is any kind of abuse going on, you need to get out of that relationship – if you have kids, this is especially imperative. No relationship is worth saving when there's abuse involved – it will only escalate over time.

If there's no abuse, you then have to look at whether you enjoy being around this person or not. Are they one of your favorite people to simply hang around with? If not, you need to figure out if you can regain the good times or not. This requires some objectivity, but it's the simplest thing in the world – if you don't enjoy being around them at all, things need to change.

If there's infidelity involved, you have to figure out how that's going to affect the rest of your marriage or relationship. If you can't trust them, or they can't trust you, is this going to become more of a problem over time, or less? Infidelity always has a profound effect on relationships, and, while it can be often-times be worked through, it can't always.

Another question is: are your needs being met? Do you feel like you're being listened to, are you appreciated? If the answer to either of those are, there's a very fundamental problem in your relationship. It's nothing that can't be fixed – and in fact, changing your own behaviors can often lead to your partner changing theirs. You have to figure out if the potential is there, though in order to know evaluate if the relationship is actually worth saving.

Figuring out your own behaviors is actually one of the absolute most critical steps here. You have to objectively look at what you are doing – are you belittling them? Are you constantly nagging at them, or making them feel inadequate or unappreciated? If so, or if you are doing other negative behaviors, are you truly willing to change?

You have to assume that turning your relationship around will have to begin with you – are you willing to educate yourself and actually commit yourself to making changes? This is no small matter. That commitment will take a lot of effort, and a lot of learning. You have to retrain yourself to not be defensive anymore, and to be less critical and learn to show your appreciation of your partner, or your relationship will not be worth saving.

After you evaluate all these factors, you need to sit down and really look at the situation. Are you willing to make the changes, do you think the potential is there for your partner to? Is marriage or couples therapy an option? Get out there and study up on more relationship information – the more you have, the better equipped you will be able to decide if it's worth saving, and the better you'll be if you actually try to save your relationship."

End of Article

So, as we can see, there are a lot of factors in the decision of whether a relationship is worth continuing or pursuing. But I do want to bring up one last thing that I feel is of the utmost importance – you must always feel right about what you are doing. Listen to your inner voice, your gut, whatever you want to call it. No matter what anyone else says, if you feel right about the relationship, and you are being safe, then no one should be able to talk you out of going forward (or not) but you! :-) Your friends, family, myself, and anyone else you talk to may have a valuable opinion. However, in the end, your happiness in your life, and the pursuit thereof is your choice to make. Other people in your life may not see what you see in a person – that is fine, as long as you are true to yourself about what you see.

Love, light, and peace,

Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com

June 10, 2011
With Love in Your Heart….

and you have to mean it! 🙂

Hello everyone! I had to take a little break from blogging while Parran Matt was out of town as I had to handle the orders in the office. :-) Hopefully I didn't screw up too many of your orders. If you got something unusual, that was probably my mistake – just let us know!

Anyway, I was recently have a great consultation with a dear client of mine and, as I have on many occasions, I had the guidance that her fellow was feeling like maybe he had made too many mistakes and I felt like he was believing that her door was closed to him. I encouraged her to use whatever products she had on hand, her love doll, candles, etc., to petition towards him that, yes, they could start over, yes, her door was still open, and yes, things could work out between them; the past could be in the past and they could start over… and then….

came my admonishment, "Honey, you have to MEAN it when you say it!" :-)

So many people come to me with hurt from their relationship, having been treated badly, cheated on, etc. However, they still want to be with that person, they still love them. That part is fine. However, where the challenge can sometimes come in is that when you are doing this love spell work you absolutely, positively have to do it with pure love in your heart. You cannot feed your anger, hurt, and negative feelings into your spell work. I am not saying this is an easy thing to do. It's hard. Really hard sometimes. H owever, love spell work is about LOVE – both giving and receiving. You have to truly give it to get it.

No, I don't mean you have to take someone's bad treatment of you, that is not what I mean at all. However, you can use your spell work to try to change that bad treatment, to let the person know that you don't intend to take that treatment anymore, but it has to be with the love in your heart that you truly feel for them. However, it is not just WHAT you say, it is also how you FEEL when you say it. If you are just phoning it in, it isn't going to work for you.

I always recommend to people to not do love spell work when they are feeling angry. You have to set aside that anger, even if you can just do it for the time of the spell work. And that is kind of the trick – you can still keep your anger and your hurt (though we want to work on that, too!), just compartmentalize it. Decide before you start your work to set aside those negative feelings. You will actually feel much better for that time period, too! Do those candles or love dolls or spell castings with pure love in your heart for the person you intend to affect with your work. Just for those minutes, fantasize that nothing bad has ever happened between you – there is just pure love and joy being sent out. :-) That will definitely send out the right energy and you will feel it and you will benefit from it, too!

Try it!

Love,light, and peace,

Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

September 23, 2010
Is it okay if I…..

missed a day of my spell work, forgot to light the incense three days in a row, didn't do the reflection part of the spell, and, oh, didn't bother with the sand trail? Is it okay, Mambo? Will this mess up my spell work?

Greetings everyone!

Hardly a day goes by that I don't get someone asking me something "messing up" their spell work because of things they did or didn't do. Mostly it is after the fact and often is phrased as, "Is it okay that I……?"

Frankly, no, not really, it isn't okay. For sure things happen sometimes that we cannot control. However, a lot of what I hear that people did was completely avoidable. First off, READ the spell kit instructions. Getting four days into the spell work and figuring out that you forgot a step is really avoidable. Read the spell kit instructions; read them before you ever start the spell and get your questions answered. Then, use the instructions. I don't see how people miss steps when the instructions are clearly meant to be used. You don't have to memorize anything – you follow along the book.

Life can be hectic and get in the way of our spell work! No one knows that better than me! Like I said, sometimes it is totally unavoidable to miss parts of spell work, emergencies happen, etc. Truthfully, though, about 95% of the things that people do to mess up their spell work is avoidable. Be careful and thoughtful about what you are doing. If you truly, in your heart of hearts, want what you say you want from the spell work, then you should be extremely careful and dedicated to what you are doing.

You have to ask yourself, if I don't care enough to do this spell work right, do I truly want what I think I want? If you feel like the spell is too much work, or too hard to do, or takes too much of your time – do you absolutely, truly want what you think you want? As most of you know, we do, of course, offer solo castings for those folks who cannot do their own spell work for one reason or another. That is fine! But even at that, we send you a Holy Relic card to work with and I cannot believe the number of people who tell me they never used it and, "is that okay?" NO. It's not okay. You are sending out a very mixed message to Les Lois, God, and even me about what you want!

A large part of the success of spell work depends on YOU; what do you want, why do you want it, and do you really want it? What energy are you putting out there? Please think about that the next time you pick up your work to do it. If you think your spell work or adjunct work is a pain in your butt and you dread doing it, you should give some serious thought to the goal you think you want.

Have a great weekend, everyone!

Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

September 3, 2010
Cookin’ up a spell!

Hello everyone!

Happy Monday!!! :-) So recently I had the pleasure of cooking dinner for some dear friends of ours. It's "that" time of year so I was able to make spaghetti sauce from fresh pasta tomatoes grown in my mother-in-law Eileen's garden – use fresh herbs, peppers, etc.

In the midst of all that chopping, pureeing, stirring, etc., it struck me how much cooking was just like doing a spell (with a slight homage to Cajun Voodoo Love Cookin'). First of all, I had to want to cook this meal as perfectly as I could. I couldn't just do it because I had to, or said I would. It truly had to be a labor of love or that sauce would NOT come out right. (Hats off to my Dad for that one!)

Second, I had to concentrate and think on what I wanted the outcome to be. In order to make this meal truly special I had to visualize the joy that it would bring and the love that it would show. I cooked this just for you, because I love you, and I want you to see that love in what I am offering you. Nothing could be closer to being spell work without being spell work!

Third, I had to take care with what I was doing; I had to check my ratios of tomatoes to garlic to peppers to onions. I had to make sure I stirred at the right time, checking to make sure nothing was burning, and get my timing right.

In the end, the meal was as perfect as I could make it! Notice I said as perfect as I could make it? Not necessarily perfect, maybe something wasn't exactly right, maybe I might have made a mistake. However, I knew that I had done my personal best – the end result was going to be loved because I knew that those good folks would know that something had been made especially for them and that THEY had been at the forefront of my thoughts the whole time I was preparing the meal.

So approach your spell work the same way! Care about what you are doing, follow the instructions to the best of your ability, and visualize the loving end result! Don't just go through the motions of your spell work because you have to, or the instructions said so, or Mambo said so! Do it because you want to! You will feel happy and satisfied and you will know that no matter what the outcome, you did your very best! That is success in a very special way!

Love,light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

August 16, 2010
Is your spellwork too much work?

“Opportunity is missed by most people because it comes dressed in overalls and looks like work.”

— Thomas Edison

Greetings, everyone! I know we have talked about this before – the work of spellwork! However, I do think the subject can be revisited over and over again and still be of value!

All too often I hear people say that they think things like our spell kits are "just too much work." It is always a sign-inducing, eye-rolling moment for me because that statement generally comes from someone who just told me they would do ANYTHING to get Jack (or Jill) back into their lives. But that is an extreme example – there are also smaller examples: Those folks who just don't want to do another doll session or light another candle… they are just sick of spell work at the moment.

Now that is something different! Sometimes a little break from spell work is a good thing. It gives you time to refresh your spirit,look at the spellwork with fresh eyes, and regain your energy. The best way to take a break from spell work is during the break to assess the break itself; are you feeling good about the break? Are you feeling that this is a time for you to renew yourself and your purpose? The biggest danger in taking a break sometimes comes in the form of not knowing when the break should be over.

I always tell the folks to whom I recommend a break to be on the look out for signs that their break is over. If you are longing for your voodoo doll, or you start to miss the comfort and ritual of your candle magick, or you feel an incredible pull back into the work - those kinds of things are clear signs that your break is over!

Lately I have been literally bombarded with stories of clients and the success of their spellwork! :-) Needless to say, that is always amazingly awesome to hear! As I have mentioned before, I do notice a very common thread in these success stories – these are very often folks who were dedicated to that work, had a real heart for it, and stuck to their guns even in the face of adversity. Their success is inspiring!

So if the spellwork is seeming too much like work, then yes, take a small break, but never take your eye off the prize! 😉

Love,light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

August 4, 2010
Love Potion #9 Will Be Available!

Wheee!!! Okay, there was a really good response from those of you who would like me to go ahead and make the Love Potion #9 on 09/09/09. :-)

Now, of course, as most of you know, generally we simply offer the recipe on our website and everyone makes their own batch of potion as desired. However, we just couldn't resist the idea of making this on 09/09/09 – I mean, we won't get another chance at this in our lifetimes, so that made it pretty irresistible! 🙂

After thinking about it for awhile, what I have decided to do is pressure can it. I can a lot of vegetables, soups, salsa, etc., and so I have a pressure canner and so will end up sealing this potion in 8 ounce jars. This is going to help us all out a lot because it will preserve it much longer than the usual recommended one year to keep this potion!

Realistically speaking, I feel that I can only successfully make about 40 jars for it to be effective. I need to make the potion itself within that 9:00 a.m. hour – so however much I can make in an hour will be what we will have. I am sort of guessing at the 40 jars, but I feel confident I can make that much for sure. The canning process itself will obviously take longer, but the batches would already be made and just needing to be canned.

I have pasted in below the information that I just put up on the website about the potion, buying the potion, etc. Of course, as with everything we sell, we will include an instruction sheet with the jars of potion.

Naturally, you can still make this potion yourself, as usual! The information about the potion itself, the recipe, and the way to buy the potion is located at www.spellmaker.com/potion9.htm.

Here is the information from the website:

Information concerning purchasing our special batch of 09/09/09 Love Potion #9:
(Please read carefully so that you understand what you are getting!)
Mambo Sam will make a big batch of this potion on 09/09/09. Normally, we do not make and/or sell this potion – we recommend that everyone make their own.
However, since we won't get another chance in our life time to do this again on this amazing date, we have decided to make a batch this year and offer it to those who want it.
Please be aware that normally we would never sell anything that is edible or meant to be taken internally in any way, this will be an exception to that rule! Because we are not licensed to sell anything that anyone would eat or drink, by your purchase of this item you are accepting that this was made in a home kitchen, under extremely clean and as sterile as possible, circumstances.
To further insure the viability and storage of the potion, Mambo Sam will can the potion with a pressure canner. This will preserve it for maximum freshness and the potion will more than likely last much longer than one year. Your potion will come in a heat sealed, 8 ounce glass jar. Until you break the seal, the potion will keep for quite some time!
You will have the option to have her consecrate your particular bottle of potion just in your name (so you decide later upon whom you want to use it) OR in the name of you and someone specific OR have it consecrated for someone else entirely (for instance, if you wanted to give it to someone as a gift).
Since these will be pressure sealed, you will have the option to buy more than one jar in order to keep it longer safely.
We are asking that you order this product separately, apart from other products, and then email us at customerservice@spellmaker.com and tell us how you want your jar(s) consecrated once you have paid for it.
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com