Category: Power of the Positive

  • Great motivational song — Working on a Dream.

    Hey there!

    Following in the fine footsteps of my dear Sister DJ Candi, I am posting the lyrics to this great song the I heard the other day. Its not so much a song to be used during spellwork, but one to be used before beginning session, to help get you revved up and your energy lifted. Its also a great song to play while driving with the windows down on a warm summer day!

    Working On A Dream by Bruce Springsteen

    Out here the nights are long, the days are lonely
    I think of you and I'm working on a dream
    I'm working on a dream

    Now the cards I've drawn's a rough hand, darling
    I straighten the back and I'm working on a dream
    I'm working on a dream

    Come on!

    I'm working on a dream
    Though sometimes it feels so far away
    I'm working on a dream
    And I know it will be mine someday

    Rain pourin' down, I swing my hammer
    My hands are rough from working on a dream
    I'm working on a dream

    Let's go!

    I'm working on a dream
    Though trouble can feel like it's here to stay
    I'm working on a dream
    Well our love will chase trouble away

    Alright!

    [whistling interlude]
    That's professional whistling right there!

    I'm working on a dream
    Though it can feel so far away
    I'm working on a dream
    Our love will make it real someday

    The sun rise up, I climb the ladder
    The new day breaks and I'm working on a dream
    I'm working on a dream
    I'm working on a dream
    I'm working on a dream

    Hey!

    I'm working on a dream
    Though it can feel so far away
    I'm working on a dream
    Our love will make it real someday
    I'm working on a dream
    Though it can feel so far away
    I'm working on a dream
    And our love will make it real someday

    S

  • Take time to……..

    This poem goes right hand in hand with what is happenin' over on Mambo Sam's blog. I hope you enjoy it and are doing well with Mambo's exercises~

     

    Take time to…. by Anon.

    Take time to think; it is the source of power.
    Take time to need; it is the foundation of wisdom
     
    Take time to play; it is the secret of staying young.
    Take time to be quiet; it is the opportunity to seek thy soul.
     
    Take time to be aware; it is the opportunity to help others.
    Take time to love and be loved; it is God's greatest gift.
     
    Take time to laugh; it is the music of the soul.
    Take time to be friendly; it is the road to happiness.
     
    Take time to dream; it is what the future is made of.

    Take time to meditate; it is the greatest power on earth.

     

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  • You have the ability to make someone’s day!

    There's one sad truth in life I've found
    While journeying east and west –
    The only folks we really wound
    Are those we love the best.
    We flatter those we scarcely know,
    We please the fleeting guest,
    And deal full many a thoughtless blow
    To those who love us best.
    ~Ella Wheeler Wilcox

    So, what are you waiting for ????? Do something nice for someone you love today!

    (and if it is your HD run it past your caseworker first!)

    Light and Love

    Sister Bridget

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  • How having a positive outlook effects our bodies.

    Hi There,

    This article came across my blogreader the other day, and I felt it was just too important not to pass along. Most of the references in this article are about how a positive attitude effects us in disease. But just imagine how much better we would feel if we tried to keep out attitudes positive when we are healthy!

    I hope you all find some aspect of this article helpful 😉

    Light and Love

    Sister Bridget

    ***begin article***

    Studies show that having a positive attitude could make you less likely to suffer heart attacks, strokes, and pain from conditions like arthritis.

    But what if you have already gotten the devastating diagnosis?

    Can an upbeat outlook make a difference?

    "It's hard sometimes when the doctors come in because they look at my scans, and I know they don't look good," explains Kristin Kettle.

    This 36-year-old mother of two has stage-four, metastatic colon cancer.

    "I've been through 13 rounds of chemotherapy within the last seven months, I think," Kristin says.

    Instead of crying, she laughs with friends at her "chemo parties." Each one has a theme, and it has nothing to do with cancer.

    But can a positive attitude affect the outcome of disease? In a
    Johns Hopkins study, researchers followed nearly 600 people with a family history of heart disease. Those with a positive outlook were half as likely to experience a heart event.

    "Attitude is all the difference in the world, and think about it: attitude is a choice," explains Dr. Robert P. Shannon, an assistant professor at the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville, Florida.

    While scientific studies on cancer show mixed results, one found breast cancer patients with feelings of hopelessness are less likely to survive.

    Marilyn Wattman-Feldman says her upbeat outlook may not cure her stage-four breast cancer, but it's made her physically and emotionally stronger.

    "I had to look at everything, even the chemo treatments, and find something funny about what was going on, as hard as that was," she says.

    They are strong-minded women who haven't forgotten how to have fun, even during the fight of their lives.

    A recent study of healthy women found optimistic women had a 14-percent lower risk of death from any cause after eight years compared to those who were more pessimistic.

    More cynical women had a 16-percent higher risk of dying than more trusting women.

    OPTIMISTIC HEALING
    REPORT #1576

    BACKGROUND:

    Many medical experts believe that positive thinking and a positive attitude are beneficial when it comes to your health. While it has long been conjecture, in recent years, scientists have been gathering statistical proof that the mind-body connection can improve more than just mental health.

    Once the purview of New-Age books that claim to show the path to healing, the evidence rests in the rise in clinical trials.

    GENERAL HEALTH:

    Women who are optimistic about life live longer and are healthier than those who are pessimistic, according to a new study presented at the American Psychosomatic Society's annual meeting.

    Another report in the Boston Globe reports that women who tend to be more trusting of others also live longer than those who are cynical. The study conducted by the Women's Health Initiative looked at more than 97,000 healthy women ages 50 to 74.

    Optimistic women had a 14-percent lower risk of death from any cause after eight years than those who were more pessimistic. More cynical women had a 16-percent higher risk of dying than more trusting women. The study does not prove that attitudes affect health or cause illness, but researchers say the association is worth further study.

    HEART HEALTH:

    A study shows optimism is good for heart health, at least among men. University of Rochester Medical Center researchers found men who believed they were at a lower-than-average risk for cardiovascular disease actually experienced a three-times lower incidence of death from heart attacks and stroke.

    Another study out of Johns Hopkins finds people with a good attitude were half as likely as their less optimistic counterparts to experience a heart event such as sudden death, heart attack or chest pain that required surgery.

    Researchers observed the power of positive thinking even after adjusting for traditional risk factors for heart disease, including cholesterol, weight and cigarette smoking.

    "It's possible that the people with the positive attitude produce lower levels of stress hormones, which helps protect them from disease, " Diane M. Becker, Sc.D., M.P.H., senior author of the study, was quoted as saying.

    ***end article****

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  • How to Center Yourself

    Here is another great article I found by the author of Emotional Freedom- Dr. Judith Orloff. I thought it might be helpful to some of you when you start feeling a little off kilter energetically.

    Light and Love
    Sister Bridget Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

    **begin article***

    How to Center Yourself

    by Judith Orloff MD

    Watch your diet. Notice what foods feel good, which do not. Your body will
    tell you what it requires. Usually, denser foods-meat, chicken, fish–have
    more of a grounding effect than grains, vegetables, or fruit. I'm not a big
    meat eater but if my body announces, "I need a hamburger," I will devour one.
    Listen to your body's signals. Notice how they fluctuate.

    Do mundane tasks. Mindfully focusing on everyday chores can bring you back
    to your body. Grocery shopping, going to the bank, paying bills, washing
    clothes, taking out the trash, or cleaning the yard can be grounding. These
    activities anchor you in the here-and-now by drawing on the luminous nature
    of the ordinary.

    Practice Anonymous Service. Do something nice for someone without taking
    credit for it. Hold the elevator for a little old lady. Let someone go
    before you in line. Serve food to the homeless. Give a charitable donation.
    Anything that shifts the focus from you to helping others. No deed is too
    small. The act of giving–especially when you're most frazzled–opens your
    heart, is regenerative.

    Spend Time in Nature. As poet William Wordsworth put it, civilization can be
    "too much with us." People, cars, the news, telephone cables matting the sky,
    all can keep us from our bodies, divorce us from what is natural. Regularly
    take at least a few hours out from your routine. Visit the beach, a forest, a
    canyon, a river. Choose a spot that moves you. Aboriginals seek out windswept
    plains for purification. Native Americans go to fresh streams to clarify
    their inner vision. (Any water source, including a bath or shower, can
    cleanse and purify.) Tibetan monks pilgrimage to mountaintops. Allow yourself
    to draw on the earth's primordial forces. Savor the beauty of a twilight,
    sunset, or dawn. Let them nourish and restore you.

    Meditate. Sitting in meditation is a life-line to your center, to the
    earth. By calming the mind, you can re-align with your essence. Close your
    eyes. Focus on your breath. Then gently extend your awareness downward to
    strata, bedrock, minerals, and soil. From the base of your spine begin to
    feel a continuity with the earth's core. Picture having a long tail that
    roots in that center. Allow the earth's energy to infuse your body and
    stabilize you. If you meditate for five minutes or an hour this is sacred
    time.

    **end article**

    more articles can be found at Dr Orloff's website drjudithorloff.com

  • Mohawk Indian Prayer

    Hey All-
    I think that thinking its finally spring yet its 20 degrees outside is getting to my head! Cabin fever of the worst kind. The calender says its Spring, and it is light much later already, but its still cold and snowy. Blech! I love this prayer below, and have been saying it every day hoping it will hurry the grass to green up soon! ( I know, but a girl can dream, cant she?)
    Light and Love
    Sister Bridget

    Mohawk Indian Prayer

    Oh Great Spirit, Creator of all things;
    Human Beings, trees, grass, berries.
    Help us, be kind to us.
    Let us be happy on earth.
    Let us lead our children
    To a good life and old age.
    These our people; give them good minds
    To love one another.
    Oh Great Spirit,
    Be kind to us
    Give these people the favor
    To see green trees,
    Green grass, flowers, and berries
    This next spring;
    So we all meet again
    Oh Great Spirit,
    We ask of you.

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  • Prayer for today.

    Hi There,
    I received this prayer in my inbox today from a dear client. Reading it made me feel so empowered I just had to pass it along…….

    St. Theresa's Prayer:

     'May today there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you

     are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of

     faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received, and

     pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself

     just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your

     soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every

     one of us.'

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    Light and Love
    Sister Bridget

  • Writing your Personal Mission Statement – stick to the basics

    Hi There!
    Earlier in the year, I posted about Personal Mission Statements. Basically, this is a paragraph of about 3 to 5 sentences, that reflects your core beliefs and goals for your life. Think of your mission statement as a living, breathing entity, that will change and grow as you change and  grow nd discover new things about yourself along your life's path. This is hardly something that is written in stone, but a work in progress, just as we are works in progress 😉 Below are some general guidelines to help get you started:

    1. Focus on the positive! Write your phrases as what you want to be , not about what you don't want to be. If you find you have written something negative, rephrase it in a positive manner.
    2. Think about the qualities, actions, characteristics and habits that you have in you that you admire, or that you would like to strive towards.
    3.
    Create a mission statement that will guide you in your
    day-to-day actions and decisions. Make it a part of your
    everyday life.
    4.Think about how your mission statement effects every area of your life – relationships, career, family, financial. Your mission statement is meant to bring balance into your life, and should positively effect every area of your life.
    5. Be sure to include an emotional component! Describe positively how you want to FEEL inside about your self and your life!
    6. Start with an affirmative word like "I will…." or "I am….."
    7. Take as much time as you need. Life is not a sprint, but a marathon.  Take some time in thoughtful reflection about who you are and where you are and what your goals are.

    Here are some phrases that you could possibly use to help you get started:

    "I will  live each day with …[ fill in the blank ]… so that …[what is your goal]. I will do this by …(put specific habits or behaviors here]."

    "I am known by …[ people in your life ]… as someone who is …[fill in the blank]…;  "

    Sooooo……give it a ripple, and if you like, post your statement in the comments section of this blog, and we can all work on them together, and help each other out.

    Light and Love
    Sister Bridget

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  • New Beginnings……it’s never too late.

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    Happy 2009! With the Inauguration earlier this week, and so much talk on the tv and news and web about reinventing America, about banding together and helping each other, it really got me thinking about new beginnings and what that means to me.

    The more and more I thought about it, I dont believe its EVER too late for a new beginning, to begin reinventing oneself, to head for a path full of light rather than dark. Sometimes I have been stuck in quite a funk, or a rut, or what have you, just like many of the people that write me (Believe me when I tell you I HAVE been where you are, and I do know what you are going thru!). This time of year is especially bad, as it is when we often see New Years Resolutions go by the wayside, the days are short, and in many areas, the weather is bad. It can be a very low time for people. And the whole Resolution gig – who came up with that? Not anyone who lived in today's chaotic world!

    After surfing the net a bit, I came across the idea of something called a Personal Mission Statement. Some of you business-minded folks might know about Mission Statements as they relate to businesses and corporations. Well, a Personal Mission Statement isn't all that much different. It is a mission statement, or collection of affirmations about how you want to live your life. What values guide you? What long term goals do you desire? Think of a personal mission statement as a new years resolution that you have a lifetime to work towards – that if you stray from your path, the next day you get up and dust yourself off and turn your compass back towards your mission statement.

    Over the next few blogs, I will go over the steps to writing a personal mission statement, and if you have any questions, please do post them in the comments. You can even post your results after each step if you like 😉 I think that would be encouraging to others as well! I am really looking forward  to this process, and I hope you enjoy it.

    On a side note – those of you with the Winter doldrums have no fear — February is coming! I know, I know, I hear you, February is still Winter……. BUT it is also the month of the Spellmaker Family month long ritual to Erzulie Freda! And that ALWAYS warms things up where ever you may be! Keep your eyes pealed for an email from Mambo Sam about Erzulie Fest 2009!

    Light and Love
    Sister Bridget

  • How to Start Recovering from a Broken Heart

    Ok, so I know what you are all thinking already! You came to Spellmaker to help get your HD back and dont want to know about recovering – just reuniting! I get that 😉 The reason I picked out this article is because it has alot of good advice on how to take care of yourself and do things to help you feel BETTER while going thru this process. It first caught my eye because it quotes one of my all time heros, Robert Sapolsky. If you havent read "Why Zebra's Dont Get Ulcers" yet, why not????? Its an incredible book that examines stress and its effects on the body in language any of us can understand. Its written with intelligence and humor and Bob, if you are reading, my dear, I Love You! Anyway, everyone should pick up a used copy of Zebra's on Amazon.com. You will not be sorry that you did. I hope the following article is helpful to you.

    Sapolskyhires  

    Light and Love

    Sister Bridget

     

    How to Start Recovering from a Broken Heart

    If your heart is breaking because of lost love, if you've been betrayed, abandoned, "dumped", or you know you must leave a relationship because of abuse, you certainly are not alone. Relationships coming to an end is common. Even if we look only at divorce rates, "50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 74% of third marriages end in divorce". Countless other romantic relationships end every moment of every day and in most cases, someone feels despair and heart break.

    So, what to do? The answer is: (1) take care of your physical and emotional self, (2) take additional care of your emotional self by repeating over and over again, "I will get through this and feel better", and (3) start working on acceptance of the loss. This article will present the details of these three steps so you can start your recovery from heart break today.

    Move your body.

    In case it is not obvious why this is a recommendation, let me note that no less than the US Surgeon General reported an association between physical exercise and a sense of psychological well-being. Regular exercise increases physical and emotional tolerance of stressful events. Moving your body will help fight off feelings associated with anxiety and depression.

    Eat well.

    After a relationship ends you might feel like overeating, like not eating at all, or like binging on "high sugar" foods (for example, ice cream and chocolate). The goal of the advice "eat well" is to eat healthy foods in moderate quantities despite not wanting to eat or wanting to do nothing but eat. Healthy eating is consistent with the advice of Micheal Pollan (author of In Defense of Food and The Omnivore 's Dilemma): "Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants."

    Avoid self-medicating with alcohol or drugs.

    This is stating the obvious. I hope you are not learning here that alcohol and drugs do not solve any problems and often compound any problems you do have. As tempting as numbing your self to pain through alcohol and drugs may be, avoid giving into temptation. Doing otherwise will, 99 times out of 100, just slow down your recovery.

    Rest through sleeping enough.

    Getting adequate sleep is critical to maintain your resilience in the face of stress. In the book, Making a Good Brain Great, the author Daniel G. Amen notes that "getting less than six and a half hours of sleep at night decreases our ability to fight stress".

    Seek the support of a network of friends.

    In the book, Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers: A Guide to Stress, Stress-Related Diseases, and Coping, author Robert M. Sapolsky carefully distinguishes between relationships with supportive friends and relationships with everyone else. Regular contact with supportive friends and family members can reduce the harm caused by stress. Contact with friends or others who are not supportive does not reduce the harm caused by stress and may make things worse.

    Repeat over and over again to your self: "I will get through this and feel better".

    If you have never been through a breakup before, tell your self this based on faith and your observation that others, perhaps even close friends of yours, survive breakups and soon start feeling much better. If you have been through a breakup before, remember the experience from the first moments of loss through your transition to feeling better and presumably to being "in love" again. You should find comfort in knowing that you will get through your heart break and despair to feeling better. In many ways, getting through a breakup is a kind of surviving – you can do it, you will get through it to better times.

    Start working on acceptance of your loss.

    This is the third priority in the self care portion of your recovery for a reason: it is less important than taking care of your physical and emotional self. At the same time, acceptance is the path to full recovery. From the first days "float" the thought, "I can accept this outcome and move on".

    Self care or self help is a way to start and accelerate your recovery from the heart break of a broken relationship. Taking care of your physical and emotional self along with starting to accept your loss are the first steps on the path to feeling better.

    Be active in helping your self. Be well.

    About the Author

    Dr. Lebo is a licensed psychologist who has been practicing for twenty years.