Category: Day-to-Day

  • Gran Bwa’s Autumn Potpourri By Mambo Sam!

    Gran Bwa’s Autumn Potpourri
    By Mambo Sam
     

    Happy Mabon!  Homemade potpourri is a fun Mabon project.  It’s easy to do with kids or perhaps your elderly relatives.  And even though “potpourri” means “rotten pot” – it sure smells better than it translates.  

    I asked Gran Bwa to give me some ideas of what should go in a potpourri dedicated to him and this is what he offered!  But you could just use this for ideas and add your own wonderful flowers, fruits, seeds, etc.  
     
    Ingredients

    1. 2.5 cups of dried apple slices
    2. 1 cup of dried orange peels or really almost any citrus peels – try grapefruit, lemon, etc.  Even better if you save them and dry them yourself.  You can easily dry fruit peels in your oven at a low temperature, about 200º F for a couple of hours, checking and turning frequently
    3. 1 cup cinnamon sticks, broken into pieces
    4. ½ cup cardamom pods
    5. ¼  cup whole cloves
    6. Add in rosemary, nutmeg, ginger, star anise, black peppercorns, any combination.
    7. 3-4 bay leaves
    8. Small pine cones (even better if you can go pick them up in nature)
    9. Pick some fall wildflowers and let them dry out or just add them as is and allow them to dry in the potpourri (if you do this, plan on stirring your potpourri around to let them get air
    10. A little bit of vanilla or other oil that you like
    Directions
    Break down the larger pieces.  If you have a mortar and pestle, use it to grind down some of the bay leaves or other items to help release the oils.  Otherwise, just break some of the items down to smaller pieces.  You want a mixture of your smaller and larger pieces.  Mix them all up in a big bowl and add your oil.  Cover it for a couple of days to let it all blend.  You can burn some green candles that you dedicate to Gran Bwa near the bowl and ask him to bless the potpourri for a bountiful year for you and yours.
    ***PLEASE NOTE ; This potpourri is NOT TO BE TAKEN INTERNALLY – DO NOT EAT IT!  It looks pretty and smells amazing, but do not eat 🙂 ****
  • Setting Goals

    Hello everyone!  The article below by Kevin Kearns is actually an article outlining a way to reach business goals.  I could not help but notice the parallel between success in business and success in spell work!  Although I did have to laugh at the "No Magic" clause below.  😉

    Now that we are more than halfway through our 20th anniversary year, we, too, are looking at our own goals for the next 20 years! 

    The article is based on the time-honored tradition of being S.M.A.R.T. about goal setting.  Of course it isn't all germane to spell work, but certainly it can help you get organized and think about your spell work goals in an attainable way.

    Enjoy!

    Love, Mambo Sam

    www.spellmaker.com

    Top 7 Tips for Reaching Your Goals

    By Kevin Kearns

    Setting goals comes with the terrain for most leaders. You set goals for yourself, work with your team on setting their goals, and some of you, I know, work with your kids on setting goals. After all, in one form or another, goal setting is the practice of successful people. Unfortunately, the act of goal setting by itself does not guarantee goal achievement. Along with your determination, these seven tips can turn your goal setting into goal getting.

    1. Be S.M.A.R.T.: Set S.M.A.R.T. goals. This goal setting acronym approach has been around for a long time and it still works! You increase your odds of reaching your goal if you answer yes to all of these as you set it:

      · Specific – have I described details rather than general ideas of the goal?

      · Measurable – can someone else measure and see that I reached my goal?

      · Attainable – is this goal actually reachable?

      · Realistic – even if it is reachable, is it realistic that I am willing to do what it takes to reach it.

      · Timeline – do I have a deadline for reaching this goal?

    2. Document: If it’s not documented, it’s not going to happen. Most leaders learn quickly (often the hard way,) if it isn’t documented it didn’t happen. Goal setting is similar, it must be documented. The act of writing your goal down creates a sense of commitment and also allows you to read it. Reading your goal gives your mind more confidence that achieving it is possible. We tend to believe what we read, that is why magazines like The Globe can sell stories about aliens abducting Bigfoot. Write your goals down and look at them frequently.
    3. Why Me!?: Why is the goal important to you? Think about what benefits the goal offers you. What rewards are associated with reaching this goal? Do you want those rewards? If not, you are not going to stay committed to reaching the goal. The bigger the why, the greater chance of success. If your why is big enough, you will usually figure out the how. It is up to you to discover a why that makes you want to achieve the goal.
    4. No Magic: Resist magically turning excuses into reasons. I have witnessed people magically turn what appeared to be an excuse into a perfectly justifiable reason for not achieving a goal. This powerful magic trick can only be reversed by the magician who performed it. We are all amateur magicians in that sense. We are all guilty of accepting situations as final and giving up on goals. If we want to reach goals (especially those worthwhile difficult goals) we must fight the urge to perform and leave the magic to Penn & Teller.
    5. Habit Forming: Make goal setting a regular part of your life. Much like a successful diet, goal setting works best when it becomes part of the fabric of your life. Yo-yo dieting is a huge issue in the United States. People get motivated to lose weight, so they start the latest fad diet. After a few weeks (or even hours in some cases) we find ourselves on the downward spin of the yo-yo. The people that have had the most success with losing weight long-term are the ones who have made a healthy diet permanent part of their life – not a temporary prison sentence they are waiting to get paroled from. The same can be seen with goal setting. The more a part of your life it is, the easier it becomes and the greater your success.
    6. Get Help: Have a coach help you through the process. If you are pursuing a large or long-term goal, you may benefit from the support of a coach. Depending on the importance of the goal, this can be a professional coach or even a trusted co-worker or friend. A good coach will support you, while at the same time holding you accountable to do your best. In most cases, it is wise to not share your goal with everyone. Many people love to pick goals apart and you may find yourself using your energy to defend your ability to reach your goal instead of using it to achieve your goal. A safe, trusted advisor may be just what you need to reach your goal, but choose wisely.
    7. Impress Yourself: Set goals that impress you. When we start to walk as small children, every step is applauded. This constant positive reinforcement is used to encourage our desire and persistence to walk. Eventually, they stop clapping. This is because you have moved beyond walking and onto more difficult physical challenges. As a leader, you have likely achieved a level of success at work. In order to stay sharp and continue to grow, your goals must progress beyond your current status. It is more important that your goals impress you, than impress others. Michael Jordan did not become the “Michael Jordan” by limiting himself to what impressed others.

      Take the wisdom in these tips and strengthen your goal setting techniques. Improved goal setting will lead you to great achievements. How great? Well, that is up to you. The funny thing about goals is, the more goals you get, the more goals you want to get.

    20thanniversary

  • Friggatriskaidekaphobia – BOO! Again!

    This is an oldie but had to repost considering the day! 😉

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    Happy Friday everyone!  And certainly Happy Friday the 13th!  :-)  Ah, the stuff from which movies are made.

    I actually remembering seeing the first of the Friday the 13th movies.  At that time, it was a pretty ground-breaking movie!  In my particular part of the country, New Orleans at that time, there was a very lively audience.  People were actually running screaming out of the theatre!  I don't think that happens too much anymore – too many things have happened to jade us about being afraid like that. However, at the time, a particular group of ladies of a certain age (who knows why the heck they were at that movie anyway) were sitting behind us in the theatre.  They were the first to go – knocking over other patrons seated near them and bounding down the theatre aisles, screaming, "Oh Lord, Oh God, get me out of here."  ;-)  No, I am not even kidding.

    Anyway, a few days ago I posted something about living in fear and how I don't want you to do that to yourself!  However, there is also the realization that we are all afraid of SOMETHING!  Me, not too fond of heights or close places.  I am not sure if I am afraid of clowns or just don't like them, but they do absolutely creep me out.  I love the Cirque du Soleil shows that Matt and I have seen in Las Vegas, and it seems that sophisticated clowns do not creep me out.  LOL. 

    Then, of course, there are more soul-trembling fears, those things that go beyond just creepy-crawly fears; there is the fear that the world will never come to peace again, fear that children will always be starving, fear that some people will never "get it", fear that someone will always be mistreating a pet, fear of America's disrespect for their elderly, fear that our educational system will never improve, and so forth and so on.

    What do you fear?  Do you think your fears are irrational, but you have them just the same?  Or do you think that your fears are pretty well grounded?  Do you know the root of your fear or is it something that just seemed to "pop up?"  (That's me with my "fear" of clowns, I swear I don't know why!)

    Enjoy your Friday the 13th! 

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

     
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  • Arizona/New Mexico Wildfires

    Hello everyone,

    I am sure that many of you are aware of the raging wildfires in Arizona and New Mexico.  It has caused devasting losses of property across both states (mostly Arizona at this point).  I would ask that you all please pray for those who are fighting these fires, that they will be kept safe.  Also, please pray for those who have lost their homes or have otherwise been displaced by this awful fire.

    Air quality here even here in the Albuquerque area has been pretty awful.  The destructive power and long-term effects of a fire this size are pretty devastating.  If you can spare a moment, please pray for those involved.

    For those in the affected areas – please stay safe!  Evacuate when you are told and don't stay and try to "ride it out."   Fire has no mercy!

    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com

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  • You Cannot Please Everyone and…

    you should stop trying!  :-)  Now I realize that it pretty easy to say and not so easy to put into practice.  Howeve, as a person who spends a great deal of time trying to please everyone it has been a harsh lesson to me.  No matter how hard I try, someone, somewhere will be displeased with what I do. Of course, my business, www.spellmaker.com, is a service business!  Try as I might over the years, there are still folks who end up displeased with me.  :-(  To this day, I take it very personally!

    However, on a day-to-day basis, too many of us try too hard to please too many people.  Most of 
    know what the result of that is!  To that end, here is one of my favorite Aesop's Fables:

    A Man and his son were once going with their Donkey to market. As they were walking along by its side a countryman passed them and said: “You fools, what is a Donkey for but to ride upon?”

    So the Man put the Boy on the Donkey and they went on their way.  But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said: “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”

    So the Man ordered his Boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other: “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.”

    Well, the Man didn’t know what to do, but at last he took his Boy up before him on the Donkey.  By this time they had come to the town, and the passers-by began to jeer and point at them.  The Man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at.  The men said: “Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey with you and your hulking son?”

    The Man and Boy got off and tried to think what to do.  They thought and they thought, till at last they cut down a pole, tied the donkey’s feet to it, and raised the pole and the donkey to their shoulders.  They went along amid the laughter of all who met them till they came to Market Bridge, when the Donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the Boy to drop his end of the pole.  In the struggle the Donkey fell over the bridge, and his fore-feet being tied together he was drowned.

    “That will teach you,” said an old man who had followed them: “Please all, and you will please none.”

    ——End of Story

    Here's to keeping your donkey dry!  🙂

    Love, light, and peace,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com

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  • Being Alone is Not the Worst Thing!

    Hello everyone!  Hope you all had a safe and wonderful long weekend.  🙂

    Of course, as most of you know, in my day-to-day life I do a lot of work to bring people back together in their relationships.  Helping to mend broken relationships is the majority of my work, in fact!  However, I sometimes find myself in the position of letting someone know that being alone is not the worst thing that can happen to them!

    In my opinion, being with the wrong person or in bad company is far worse than being alone! Naturally I am not particularly saying that being alone forever is my meaning.  But some time being alone is often cleansing and uplifting!

    It is  far better to be alone than to be in the wrong company of someone who belittles you, cheats on you, takes you for granted, and or just generally treats you poorly. It is also  better to be by yourself than to be with people with whom you have nothing in common and nothing to talk about or, even worse, to be in the company of those who will belittle your beliefs, dreams, or goals!

    When you are alone you have the space, mindset, and time  to connect with your Higher Self fully without the interference of  the incompatible consciousness of other people around you. It is very different when you are by yourself than when you are with others.  You  should consider it one of your highest priorities to be with the right kind of people or just spend some time alone!

    Being with the wrong kind of people only lowers your state of consciousness and shrinks your awareness, brings on self-doubt, and does little for your self-awareness. We are always affected by the collective consciousness of the people around us, because whenever we are surrounded by people, our mind becomes part of the group mind. Being by yourself actually frees you from the group mind. That is why you can connect to God, the Universal Mind, or Cosmic Consciousness best when you are alone.

    Train yourself to be extremely selective with whom you relate.  The more carefully you choose  in life, the more you will be able to decipher exactly what you desire. Using the power of choice expresses who we are as creators of our perfect reality. The reason why you may be experiencing unfulfilling interactions with people is because you might have the wrong idea that you have to unconditionally accept everyone who comes your way. The truth is you have to reject people who are not best for you in order to accept only the best.

    Now, of course, there are those among us who will preach that there is "good in everyone, you just have to look for it."  When the looking gets exhausting, consider cutting that person from your life.  If you have to look that hard for the good, it is just not going to be worth it in the end.  You will do all the work and will reap little benefit.  Even worse, that person will not care nor respond to the fact that you are willing to put up with them because you feel that "there is a good person inside there somewhere." 

    Being alone for a period of time is sometimes your best opportunity for personal growth. 🙂

    Love, light, and peace,
    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

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  • Memorial Day Plans

    Hello dear readers!

    As Parran Matt and I were doing some errands today, we could not help but notice the amount of campers and cars packed up leaving for the long holiday weekend!  If you aren't traveling, Memorial Day… or any time this weekend is a great time to do a ritual for your ancestors, General Ogoun, or even Baron Samedi! 

    As we honor our fallen heroes, honoring our ancestors, even if they weren't military, is a great way to spend some time this Memorial Day weekend.  Of course, doing some ritual for General Ogoun Feraille or Baron Samedi is also a great way to honor our fallen military personnel! 

    When you do these kinds of services, it isn't the kind of service where you ask for something – it shouldn't be goal-oriented other than your goal being simply to say that you want to honor those who have fallen in the service of their country – even if it isn't the USA.  A lot of our dear Spellmaker clients are not in the USA!  But more than likely you have a military who has fought to keep your country safe, too!  So our Memorial Day can be everyone's Memorial Day as far as I am concerned.

    Light a candle and ask General Ogoun or Baron Samedi to send a blessing to these fallen ones.  Just say that you want to honor them and send your good energy to those who made the ultimate sacrifice and helped make our freedoms possible. 

    It just takes a few minutes to do a small service and send out your good vibes and ask for protection for those still serving in our military!

    Love to all,

    Mambo Samantha Corfield
    www.spellmaker.com

    Are they dead that yet speak louder than we can speak, and a more universal language?  Are they dead that yet act?  Are they dead that yet move upon society and inspire the people with nobler motives and more heroic patriotism?  ~Henry Ward Beecher

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